Hello people I feel down right now ... I have a great fiancé that is the best person I ever met but we have a bb issue.... I am crazy about a bb I been waiting for 3 years to become a mother... but my fiancé is not ready at all ... I feel empty inside ... we fight a lot about this... I can make him have a bb I understand that. But what do I do with this feeling that makes me want to leave him...... I broken up with him many times cause of this..... He wants kids but when he is ready..... I am 25 and he 24 can this be the problem our age?
2007-07-23 12:46:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Have s kittie and it doesnt work anymore lol
2007-07-23 12:59:36 · update #1
Your crazy! He's still young. You should be out having fun with your friends not trying to have a baby with a man that does not want one. I think you should move on with your life and leave him. Don't waste your time with this guy. He probably wants to still hang out with his friends and not want to be tied down with a kid. You broke up many times already. You know the answer, it does not sound like a strong relationship to start with. Don't bring a baby into it. 24 is way to young for alot of guys to be tied down with a baby. Go and focus on yourself.
2007-07-23 13:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by VaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is just that he doesn't feel ready. He may never feel ready, but if it happens he will either have to become ready whether he likes it or not or he will bail (like so many men seem to do these days). I'm not saying get pregnant on your own, but some people won't feel ready until they have to be. If I were you, I would bring it up again when you are married. Maybe that final commitment is what he needs to feel ready. I know I certainly wouldn't have said I was ready when I found out I was pregnant, but I guess I kind of have to be now, don't I?
2007-07-23 19:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by kittiesandsparklelythings 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your engaged the you love him so don't leave him. Try getting an animal like a puppy or a kitten to be a mommy to for now and just wait for him to be ready. Maybe once your married and everything settles down he will be more into it. Good Luck!
2007-07-23 19:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by humm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
women typically want kids before men, but you need him to set a timeline for you. Will it be a year, or 5 years. Its seems like a little thing to end a realtionship over, but its not. He can't keep you waiting forever, its not fair to you or to whatever kids you may eventually have. Don't force him or trick him into it either, it will not work out and he will resent you and the child, and anything that happens in his life after that will be "your fault" no matter what the cause.
2007-07-23 19:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him time. You have to understand that having a baby changes EVERYTHING. Yes, it is beautiful, having a baby is not easy to do. You are still young. My sister and her husband r in the same situation. Dont worry, give him some time. Just as a side note, if your not married yet, dont have a baby. If you are going to bring a baby into this world, make sure you have a stable dont relationship. Dont mean to offend you, i really dont know how your relationship is, just want you to think seriously about it
2007-07-23 19:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by firekiller 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once you get married and settle in your careers and are financially secure, I am sure things will change. Its best to wait until you are both ready. Hang in there. Remember to always be honest and open with each other.
2007-07-23 19:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by JEN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he afraid of commitment? Obviously, you and he aren't married yet. The best way to get over the apprehension of having a baby is to discuss it in depth, study the pros and cons of having a baby, and putting yourself in an environment with children.
But there might be an underlying problem with commitment that will have to be resolved before you even think of having children with him.
2007-07-23 19:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by Albert L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay with him and give him time. You're young and he's your man. Don't end it just be patient. Get a substitute. A little puppy for now. As long as he wants kids in the future I think you will be fine.
2007-07-23 19:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married first! I would not want to be a born bastard!
2007-07-23 19:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋