How do you fix a friendship ...?

Question

after you messed up so bad.. and are afraid that they wont be as forgiving as you want them to be.. when with out them you jsut dont make sense?

What if it had already been mended once before..

Its a he by the way!! haha

Answer 1

tell them that you are very sorry and you feel badly about your actions. if they do love you as much as you love them then they will forgive you.. friends are forever through thick and thin. be patient sometimes forgiveness takes a little time.

Answer 2

Based on the fact that your friend has forgiven you before for the same thing and you didn't learn not to do it the first time, I'm afraid you will just have to wait it out and give them space. Forgiveness is hard, especially when it's a second offense.

I would also look at yourself and figure out why you would keep on doing what you are doing. Once is forgivable, twice is a pattern.

Answer 3

awwww.. i can tell by your avatar that you're upset.

Well, trust me i've been in that situation before, and i did a REALLLYYYY bad thing to them, but she's still my best friend, today, because i did this.

1. talk to her as soon as possible, because the more she knows that you're upset the more forgiving she'll become.

2. Tell her all the the great things that you love about her, and add in some good times, an dtell her all about how special she is to you, and that you really care about her.

3. explain what you did, and if there's a good thing behind it, EMPHASIZE IT, but if it was really big mistake, and something that you really want her to forgive about, tell her your reaons and be honest and deep.

4. Apologize, and if she doesn't accept it, give her more time.

Do your best to really show her you care, and she'll know that she has to forgive you, because she will respect you.

Answer 4

If the friendship is true, you will work it out. You need to talk with your friend and hopefully can explain.

I have a question though, why do you keep messing it up? Are you trying not to be a friend anymore?

It could be too late if you have already done this once, but I hope it all works out for you!

Answer 5

move on because if she or he does not forgive u then they will not be able to forgive them self's god said forgive others as u won't them to forgive u just remember that and u can get through life just think if she can't forgive u then she will never be forgive by god when judgment day come

Answer 6

Well it happens to me all the time so i know how you feel.Say you are sorry and then take a deep breath and just say what you did was wrong and then if she forgives you then give eachother hugs.

Answer 7

I 've never experienced it b4 but I did break up wit a friend and he had it coming, I fink talking about it makes enuff sense or 2 last resorts beg! (don't do dat coz ma ex m8 did dat a long tyme ago)

Answer 8

Wow, your love for this guy is powerful and i seriously can feel it. Don't let him go, get on your knees and pray and then go to him and ask for forgiveness. Like i said in my other answer, be humble and also meek. God will bless you, just keep looking to him.

Answer 9

If you loved them so much you wouldn't have done this TERRIBLE thing to them. You knew what you were doing when you did it and now it's time to face your actions. Just hope and pray they'll take you back and be the best person you can be.

Answer 10

awww don't cry

i've went through this before too =(

it was really hard to mend it. i think you should give the guy space. that's the best thing. he'll talk to you when he's ready.