Sex and my husband?

Question

My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs and about 5 months ago he said he wanted to start giving me oral which he has never done before but it never bothered me cause he satifies me when we make love although i wondered thru the yrs what it was like..Well like i said this was 5 months ago but he has yet to do it and for a few months after making love i would ask him why he didnt do and he would either say "i will" or "im going to" or "next time"..When he first brought this up he said he had been thinking about it and wanting to do it for awhile but didnt know how i would feel about it and thought it would be something i would like..Although i didnt bring the subject up i am a little disappoined and feel let down that he said he wanted to do this and then not do cause like i said i have wondered thru the yrs what it was like..I have always given him oral and i love doing that..

Over the weekend after a month or 2 of not mentioning this to him i ask him when he was gonna do this and he said "i will" but that night we made love and again he didnt do it..Should i just give up on ever getting..It really gets old hearing the same old thing all the time from him like "i will" or "next time"

Well i think it was wrong of him to bring it up,get my hopes up and then not do it.

No poker he doesnt give me a reason just always says "i will" or "im going to" or "next time"

No fiz i dont know if its on the way doesnt seem like it.

Answer 1

Okay... Make sure you've gone through all the pre-game most guys like certain things about going down... a well kept place is often visited make sure you freshen up, keep it trimmed and don't let him take control of the whole experience oral is part of foreplay... make it exciting for him... sex games are fun and help by giving you a guideline... edibles such as whip-cream and syrups or even sweet powders are good and inticing... (don't get to involved with the whip-cream though it tends to spoil things if it gets warm) Its been sixteen years that you've know him... what are his everyday likes and dislikes incorperate them into your fore play...
-Joseph
Good luck...(lick)

Answer 2

Its tough to want something when your partner doesn't. It sounds like he is working up the "courage" so to speak. How about getting a movie on Oral sex or making a date night that will climax with that activity? (no pun intended). Perhaps he is like my wife and cant get past the idea without some encouragement but really enjoys it once it starts. Some people think that its icky, so do the whole mutual showering and perfume thing. He may also need "permission" to do it, i know some guys that feel its not manly. I dont know how open with your friends you are, but sometimes positive encouragement/peer pressure is the answer.

If not get the leather and whip...just kidding, sort of. Best of luck.

Answer 3

I think that you should discuss this with your husband--not after sex because he's not thinking about it, really, at that point.

The next time you start to make love and he's kissing your neck, gently nudge him in that direction by pushing his head down to that area.

Maybe your husband wants to try it, but is afraid that he does not know how to do it right or that he won't please you. There really isnt a right or a wrong way to do it. Maybe since you keep asking, he's feeling pressured and wants to do a good job so he does not disappoint you (not your fault).

Do not let this go. You deserve to be happy and get what you want from your sex life.

Answer 4

I can't believe you haven't had the best experience a woman can enjoy. It's my favorite thing and I am very skilled at it. Perhaps he is afraid because he doesn't know how. Go out on the web and find him some instructions and print them out.
Make him read them and don't give it up again until he brings you off orally first. Prop yourself up on a pillow and help him by spreading your outer labia lips. Tell him to get down there and take care of business or he is out in the cold. Enjoy!

Answer 5

I'm not sure if there's a way to force the issue delicately. It's possible that he doesn't know how, and is afraid to disappoint you.

You have a choice, you can either tell him next time when you start to make out that you want oral, and give it now. Or you can simply drop the matter and accept that it may never happen.

Answer 6

tell him that if he doesn't want to do it, that's perfectly fine with you, because you have offers from other interested candidates. tell this as a joke, but if he doesn't get the message, you should start acting. believe me, you can find a lot of alternative variants, if your husband is too thick to give you the pleasure.

seriously, why did he even mention that? actually, giving oral is a great fun for a man as well, so he is just acting stupid. i don't know how you managed to live "happily" with such a fruit of a husband for 16 years.

Answer 7

I think you need to talk about this when you're not "in the moment" or right after the fact. Express to him how much you would like to try it. If you've been married for 16 years you should be able to communicate this to him. Don't be afraid to actually have a conversation about it before you hop into bed.

Answer 8

I think he wants to, but has a lot of reservations about it. I thin k he will, but he is probably working up to it slowly. Just keep being patient. I know you want this, but at least you know that it's on the way.

I can't imagine NOT giving it to my special someone (if I had one that is). I love giving it....getting it too...lol. But it took me a bit of time to work up to it when I did it the first time tho.

He probably thought he had worked up the courage to do this when he mentioned it, but when it came time, he chickened out. The nice reaction you gave him when he brought it up probably helps make him feel good about it. He just has to work up the nerve to do it. He has to overcome whatever pre-conceived notion he has in his head about this.

When he finally conquers his block, I'm sure you will be the first to know. I'd say that whatever you do tho, don't pressure him about it, but maybe....maybe...once in a while mention that it would sure feel good, or that HE would feel so good there. Be encouraging.

Good luck and enjoy!

Answer 9

Maybe he's just worried that he won't be able to please you that way because he's been so good at pleasing you the other way. He's interested and you're interested. What I would do is give him oral and when you're done, roll over on your back and say, "My turn!" If he laughs about it but doesn't do it, then talk to him seriously. Maybe there's something you can do to make it him do it more readily.

Answer 10

well after 16 years why change now...I was shocked when I got to the end and you said you gave him oral...it sounded like intercouse was great in your marriage but no oral...what a shame that he will not do it to you...I know you love doing it to him, but he should share and give it to you too, that is really selfish..I really think you should not give it to him until he ATLEAST tries to satisfy you with oral...does he ever give you a reason why he won't try...I dunno, guess I am just shocked how you do oral to him and he won't do it to you...unbelievable

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Since he doesnt give you a reason (which is horrible IMO because after 16 years of marriage you would think you could communicate with each other)...and it's not fair for him to get your hopes up that he will try and not do anything...so if I was you, I would stop giving him oral until he atleast tries it on you...

I wish you all the best of luck!!!