What happens to a spouse who leaves for a new love?

Question

When they don't want to put any work in there marriage and bail out for the next available person? Do they live happily ever after? She loved me up to leaving me and acts like its no big deal! 16 years and kids it is a big deal

Answer 1

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Try reading this it may help you it helped me.

Answer 2

If a marriage of 16 years doesn't work and she put forth no effort to see that it worked, it's pretty safe to say that her next realtionship won't work either.

She is probably acting that way to rub salt in your wound. You best bet is to let her go if she doesn't want to be there....and hope she is just as miserable as you are.

I know it's not fair for her to do this to you, but in the end, it will make you a stronger person. Everything happens for a reason and although we may not understand that reason, in time, you will.

Move on and begin a new and better life for your children. All of you deserve that!! Who knows, perhaps your "perfect someone" is out there looking for you.

Answer 3

the reason she doesn't want to work on her marriage anymore is the new love in her life, she has someone else so she doesn't have to deal with it, they don't love u up until they leave, they loose the love when they meet and begin to have feelings for the new person. but the chances of happiness are slim because she will have the same problems with him as she does u, just as soon as the newness and honeymoon stage wears off, and it always does. it is no big deal to her, as she is heartless, and has no conscience when marriages end there is one partner who is the leaver, and the partner left is the one hurting with a broken heart. but there is such a thing called karma where what u do to hurt others comes back to u, and what u did to them is done to u, i am a firm believer in karma.

Answer 4

Statisticly, its shown that the chances of second and third marriages lasting decreases dramaticly with the number of divorces. And if the person cheated with that person during the marriage, then the odds are even further against the relationship lasting for any length of time.
But you are better off without that person, than with that person, when they don't want to be there anymore. They are then miserable and tend to make everyone around them miserable too.
I know its a big deal, and that it hurts like hell, but you can't keep someone with you when they don't want to be there.
Give yourself time to heal, then move on with your own life, making it as good as possible for you, and your kids.

Answer 5

She was probably having the affair long before she left you.
While it may seem like she suddenly stopped having feelings
for you, I'm almost certain she has been planning it for some time. Slowly falling in love with the other, while losing her love for you. And like someone else has commented, she may be just putting up a wall around her feelings out of guilt. Still a shock to you regardless, but time will help ease the pain.

Answer 6

This may end in a few months or not. Yes it is a big deal . If the children don't need her anymore and you and she have grown apart maybe she feels she wants more out of life. Perhaps she asked herself, "is this all there is?" Whatever happens, you must move on with your life. Good Luck.

Answer 7

I think sometimes it is easier to start over from scratch than to learn how to fix something.

Most of the time the marriage has been dead for years already. Couples just tend to get complacent and take each other for granted. It gets to be just another job, only one you don't get paid for. Then you meet someone new and for the first time in years you start to feel alive.........and you think to yourself 'Wow, I forgot how this felt, I thought this part of my life was over.....'

You know it isn't like a marriage falls apart in a minute. It takes awhile for it to deteriorate to the point that someone wants out.....

I hope that YOU find someone who helps YOU feel alive again!

Answer 8

no one knows what goes on behind closed doors. Do we ever really know the person that we're sleeping next to? Something had to be missing for her to leave. New love wears off, and then perhaps the guilt sets in...

Answer 9

howdy, your human. What your feeling real now's no longer love. Its rather certainly one of those infatuation because of the fact which you have been injury. human beings tend to form an appropriate of what existence ought to be, form of like an resourceful technique. What you go with is it gradual to think of. Do confer with somebody you could have faith approximately your thoughts. you will quickly come across that your thoughts will exchange and you will quickly journey anger- besides because of the fact the different numerous ranges. This incorporates denial etc... attempt to guard your self interior the period in-between. attempt to consume and relax nicely, get lots of workout and attempt to bask in a pair of 'healthful' pastimes which make you chuffed. you need to quickly return to a extra commonly used state and notice the marvelous element of issues. you do no longer choose her and deserve extra appropriate! each and every of the appropriate to you:)

Answer 10

Well i guess i can know where your coming from, because my hubby of 17 years ask me for a divorce today, because he cant stand the way i think....I dont think she will live happy at all... and will try to come running back too you, and you need to say no way, but dont lose your kids you need to keep in touch with them

Answer 11

what do you care if she will live happily ever after to her it was no big deal find yourself a new love to mend your broken heart that's what to my brother did and now his heart sings again with a new love and is happier now than before