I am an older male, and apparently my defintion of cheating is old fashioned, and outdated. Is flirting, cheating? Meeting people of the opposite sex after work? I have loved two women in my life, and both of them cheated on me. One was clear cut...she ran off with another guy. The other has flirted all day at work, met the guy after work...then says, "NO! that;s not cheating...we didn't do anything". Am I just too old fashioned? If you will, give me YOUR definition of cheating, and your age. Thanks!
2007-07-23 11:46:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe that any behavior that takes your affections/attentions from your significant other is cheating...whether that is emotional flirting or physical sex...it's all the same to me...unacceptable!!
2007-07-23 11:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Notagain 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A serious relationship is when you are not playing games with your partner and when you have hopes and plans for the future. Maybe your friends are serious about their partner but they don't actually realise that the relationship is shallow because they are driven by their emotions and by their hopes. I think you can figure out at early stages of the relationship if it's going somewhere or not. They mean by "serious" eno it might go somewhere. Everyone has his own definition. I think it becomes serious when you become very much involved, meaning you get to know the whole family, when you guys speak of the future together, when you become friends with his friends, when you take part in his daily life, when you know his habits..It kinda takes time to get there but you can know if you can get to this stage from the beginning in my opinion.
2016-05-21 04:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that flirting on occasion is okay if that is all it is. A smile a simple gesture, etc but nothing too sexual. However when you are constantly flirting with the same person and then meet them after work, then that to me IS cheating because you now have an emotional connection to this person. To me the emotion part is just as important as the physical part and I actually think that kind of cheating is worse.
Just my opinion.
2007-07-23 11:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the very least it was inappropriate and callous.
I don't know that I would call it cheating, though. But just as importantly, it would break the bonds of trust.
I have a co-worker that loves her husband, but flirts with other men at work all the time. She wears short skirts etc to work. I think she is just seeking attention, although her husband is very attentive. I think it make her feel sexy to have other men attracted to her. She is 40.
I don't know the answer here, but there are alot of gray areas. I would be upset, if I were you.......and I might consider it cheating. Alot of people cheat online too and it isn't physical.
Regardless, I think it is inappropriate to meet a man after work....esp if they went to a bar or out to dinner. It just is disrespectful of you. You should have been invited to accompany her.
I am 39.
2007-07-23 12:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
cheating=Turning to another person of the opposite sex to have needs met that should only be met by the spouse. Not just sexual needs.
Men want sex and women want emotional contact... if the man gets sex or the woman gets an emotional fix from a guy... they are both cheating.
If I were you, I would go hang with the gals and see if she suddenly has a change of heart...
2007-07-23 11:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your personal views and what the two people in the relationship view as cheating. I have more male friends than female friends, so I see nothing wrong with meeting them for drinks or dinner when I am in a relationship. Flirting is not a big thing for me either. But when you have oral sex, sex, or any type of makeout sessions with someone...that is cheating.
2007-07-23 12:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by traceylenore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To more looser people cheating is only physically interacting with another person other than their SO. But to me, I was raised and still feel that cheating can be just about anything that could possibly damage a relationship by someone meeting or interacting in anyway that their SO feels isn't right. Looking at porn is cheating in my book, flirting with people is cheating in my book, cheating is basically what the person shouldn't do in your point of view with people of the opposite gender. She should respect you and care about you enough to stop or at least try to see things in your view point. Try talking to her. Good luck.
2007-07-23 11:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by deansgurl81702 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. I'm 40. I may not consider flirting cheating but more as a betrayal and a lack of loyalty and a sign that they are the type to cheat in the future. I was married 15 years and was never unloyal by flirting or any other way with anyone. It is wrong and disrespectful.
I guess I'm old fashioned to. Or we both value ourselves and realtionships. Good luck!
2007-07-23 11:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi My definition of cheating is going out flirting with the other person and sleep and all that good stuff. going out with people from work no not cheating as long as the is no touching or flirting
2007-07-23 11:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating- the devotion shared w/ another in a physical sense w/ someone other than your partner.. This usually has some kind of a emotional attachment but not always. IT can be the sex shared between two people who are not married but are emotionally attached to another.when 1 or the other is in a emotional relationship.. It is the deception of someone who may think they are in a devoted relationship or marraige.
2007-07-23 12:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Fred. I am 36 years old and to be honest, I believe most people flirt. As long as it isn't acted on, it is harmless and everyone likes attention. However, I do believe meeting him after work would classify as cheating and going too far but hey that's just my opinion!
2007-07-23 11:52:45 · answer #11 · answered by littleone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋