Why have so many people fallen out of love with their spouses?

Question

I'v been reading some questions.. and so many people have fallen out of love....

If this applies to you... why? What happened to cause this?

Answer 1

The only reason people "fall out of love" (a term I hate, by the way) is because they stop working at their relationships. They fail to realize that the word love is a verb, or an action word, and has to be continually worked at in order to survive. So in essence, they havent' fallen out of love... they've just gotten lazy.

Answer 2

Not only did it happen to me but I ended the marriage as a result of it. Even though there are two sides to every coin and to every story, I assure you that the reasons for my divorce were not only valid (in my opinion), but were necessary. Now to answer your question. What many call love is really infatuation (I did). Infatuation is so close to being in love that it is often mistaken for love, and the sad thing about it is that it even feels like love. I was infatuated and not in love, but because I longed for a solid relationship I misunderstood the two and fell into the trap. I did fall out of infatuation (if there is such a thing). The thing that caused it was, when the infatuation of being in a solid relationship was over, the other things were too much for me to try to hold on for. The incompatibility, the difference in values, education and morals and even the family background made it too difficult to stay "infatuated." The point is that people don't just fall out of love (ifatuation), there is usually somethng that once was that ceases to exist and when ever one person is giving more that they are recieving there is a potential for breakup. I hope that helps.

Answer 3

The reasons I fell out of love with my ex spouse is because we both changed as we got older. The spark that was once there in the beginning of our relationship blew out by the time we were 2 years into our relationship. Honestly I don't ever think I was in love with him. I think I was more attracted to him and his personality then anything. After a while I just found him repulsive and annoying. I don't understand why couples get like this but I did.
This is what I can tell you from experience. Try to make everyday fun and enjoyable for both you and your mate. Treat each other equally. Do favors, errands and give gifts. Go out on dates with eachother. Explore new things ie, camping, put put, hiking, explore new countrys. Spend the weekends reinventing your relationship.
This is my second real relationship, my first was with my exhusband of 8 years. This one we have been together a while. I have learned what to do, and what not to do when it came down to making a relationship fun. It took me almost ten years but I have succeeded in love.

Answer 4

As both spouses work to earn a living, their careers can pull them far more easily than an affair. My marriage is that way. Usually the time My wife and I spend together is when one or both of us is asleep. Work schedules and career demands along with increased costs to living, has caused us to spend less time at home with each other.

Consequently, we no long have the passion for each other we once had. We try to zealously find time for each other, but with difficulty. We are indeed growing apart, because our obligations keep us apart.

I truly believe that the trick to staying together is being together and spend time ...together.

Answer 5

Part of the issue is how quickly and easily people get married now. Because it's so easy to get in and out of a marriage now, it's not as crucial to find the right one first. Also, because it's easy get a divorce people don't put the same effort into working things out.

Answer 6

it's easy to happen anyway. B/c people don't work to grow together in a marriage, and they don't think they need to communicate.
But, it's happening even more nowadays, b/c our generation was raised to be selfish, and taught they could have anything they want! The "Me" generation is just that....parents thought loving their kids was giving them everything they wanted, so an entire generation was raised, and tried to get married, and finally figured out they couldn't always get what they wanted in real life (which, btw, is what parents should've been teaching their kids) and instead of growing up, they got divorced, hoping to find someone else who would let them act like immature brats.

Answer 7

Some don't know the art of loving, others fall out of it due to their sill conduct, and their ignorance about the fact that spouses are one another's most intimate, best friends, lovers, and partners to the very end if they just care about it.

Answer 8

Because people tend to pick each other apart in marriage...they tend to fixate on the negative characteristics of their spouse and eventually if you focus so much on the negative you find it hard to find anything positive...


I love my husband...inspite of his short comings or how he may have let me down...he's human and fallable as am I....but when I started to look at him through God's eyes I had compassion for him and love for him and realized that in all the world noone is more lovely and noone is better suited for me...I love my husband!!

Answer 9

Boredom. I don't think people actually "fall out of love" anymore than they "fall in love". It just changes over time and people expect the same "rush" they had when they were dating or that they had early in their marriage. The "thrill is gone" so they say. I think if they would use their imaginations and lose their prejudices about what is correct sexual behavior they may find the thrill again.

Answer 10

I think its because people don't want to work at relationships anymore...everyone just wants things to be easy and being in a marriage or dating someone is not easy...

I also think that people just get selfish and think only about themselves and not the other person...I know thats what happen with my last BF and I...