My baby is almost eight months old and everytime you walk out of the room she screams like there is no tomorrow until you come back in..... Any tips?
2007-07-23 10:51:01 · 7 answers · asked by bluenaketat 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
She refuses a pacifier and has since the day she was born....
2007-07-23 10:55:26 · update #1
She'll get over it eventually.
In the meantime take her with you or sing to her while you are gone so she knows you are still there.
There is absolutely no evidence that forcing the issue by steadily increasing the amount of time you are gone or letting her scream will make it better any faster.
2007-07-23 10:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's at the exactly typical age for separation anxiety. It doesn't ususally last in the acute stage for more than a few weeks. What it means though is that she is learning that you (and others but, she is using you for the learning) go away and come back. In order for her to learn that you come back, she needs to learn that you do go away and see that you do come back. As a younger baby, she was not aware that this had any pattern or that she had any say in it whatsoever. Now she is trying to figure out how it all works. She is at a great age for you to play the same "game" with objects with her. When she is playing with a toy, take it away and hide it (like under a blanket) right in front of her so she knows where it went but, can't actually see it. See if she will life the blanket, and know how to get it back. A short time ago -- before she had any separation anxiety -- she did not really know that objects still exiested when they were out of sight. This stage also often goes along with stranger anxiety. Not only is she busy learning about how people come and leave and still exist even when they are not there but, she is also learning who it is that she knows vs who she doesn't know. For a while, she will probably resist going to strangers or people she isn't really familiar with -- and then she will go back to being fine around them again. But, from then on, she will have a real awareness of the difference between people she knows and people she doesn't know.
When my daughter was 9 months old we went on vacation. When it was time to pack the car, she was real unhappy that I kept leaving and coming back. Finally I let her sit in the doorway so she could see me as I came and as I went and that made her happy!!
2007-07-23 11:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby is at the age that if she cant see it she thinks it is gone for good. She will out grow this stage. Just be gentle with her in the mean time. If your putting her to bed try sitting with her quietly. not in your lap put her in the crib and you sit in a chair so she knows your there. If your just walking around the house try to let her follow you. If you have to leave her see if you can get her attention on to someone or something else before you leave. Best of luck just remember she will grow up and then wont want you around enjoy it while it last
2007-07-23 11:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by jewleit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You baby is just realizing that you and her are seperate persons. This is a new concept to her.
Play peek-a-boo with her. That will instill in her that you do come back.
Every baby is different when it comes to seperation anxiety.
A baby below a year can't be spoiled.
With my daughter I would push her aruond in her stroller as I cleaned the house. Now, had I done that with my son he would of crawled out of it and fell.
Each baby is different. Let her gradually learn that when you are away that she can surrive on her own.
Try getting her distracted with something before you leave the room. Don't be gone long stretches of time. . Or take her with you. Gradually a baby will understand that she can be alone and that you always come back.
Don't rush her.....afterall she was cozy in your belly. Now she is getting used to a completely new world.
2007-07-23 10:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I used a nursery monitor. i would go in and out a few times, and then not go back. Worked just fine. I made sure my son was safe, patted him on the back and then left the room. I spaced the time out a little longer each return. Eventually, it worked. You have to be consistant and be prepared to hear your little one cry for a while.
2007-07-23 10:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by Prisillla68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play games like peek-a-boo with her. Let her get used to the idea that you are gone a minute, and reappears the next.
2007-07-23 11:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
leave a shirt that has your scent with her for comfort
2007-07-23 10:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mother'f3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of a pacifier?
2007-07-23 10:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋