im 16 years old and ive been dating my girlfriend for about 2 years. They havnt known her until i introduced them to her, but after i introduced them, they added her on msn and try to hit on her and what not. when i ask them about it they lie and ask me what im talking about.
my best friend that ive been friends with since i was 3 started telling her stuff about me that wasnt true, and ive stopped talking to him, with out him knowing that i know what he did.
he hasnt realised that in the past year i knew what he did.
are my friends jelous becuase i have a girlfriend and they want to ruin it? why are all my friends not trustworthy?
2007-07-23 10:34:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
They're sixteen-year-old boys. (Well, at the time they were 14, which makes it even more likely that they'd do stuff like that.) They probably are just jealous, but whatever the cause, I think you need to move on to new friends. If they're more interested in your girlfriend than in you, that should tell you a lot.
That or they're afraid she's taking you away from them. In which case you should sit down and talk to them, tell them you KNOW what's going on, and you want to know why so you can do something about it. If they're otherwise good guys to be around, you should give them the benefit of the doubt, but there's no excuse for a guy to hit on his best friend's girlfriend.
2007-07-23 11:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by csbp029 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend is attractive to them then there is a possibility that they are jealous. I don't think they want to ruin as so much as can't believing of who your going out with. If your going out with someone that is relatively new and have never seen before, it could be that they don't understand how you know this person and not them. Your friend may or may not realize that you found what he has said to your girlfriend but he may have been making up lies to warn her about something else. Sometimes friends will do that, say lies to cover up something else. I know when I first started dating my boyfriend, one of my friend's, whom I protected so much, did the same thing. He is probably using a lie to slip into her what maybe a different truth. Or it could be that he feels like he is left out of the picture when your around girlfriend. Like he is off to the side and he has no one to do that to get back at you. That's where the jealousy maybe coming through. So he tells her lies so you will focus your attention on him. Sometimes Friend's will just do this sort of thing because they want you attention and that you not spending enough time with as much as you used to.
Bottom line: Try and spend equal amounts of time with your girlfriend and your friends so they don't twist on you.
2007-07-23 17:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you didn't say whether or not you stopped hanging out with your friends when you got with your girlfriend and introduced her to your friends, I would have to say that your friends are jealous. That's just the way it is sometimes. They see what you have, and they want to have to same thing, but don't know how. They sometimes tell people things about you that aren't true, because they think that if they can't have something, no one else should have it either.
2007-07-23 17:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have disloyal friends. For some, I mean you can't blame them for falling in love with any girl even if it is your girlfriend (but it's up to the girl to decide). On the other hand they could be hitting on her to make your life miserable because of the jelousy that they are loosing a comrade. So think about this. Do you really love this girl? If you can't help but love this girl and your friends don't accept that, ignore them. I must warn you though, make sure that the love is also a strong friendship or else you will end up with nobody if she breaks up in the end.
2007-07-23 17:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Louis H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that they would like to have your girlfriend...or just have a girlfriend. Does she believe what they have been telling her? After 2 years of being together she should know that they are just wanting to mess up something you two have. Friends can be very jealous sometimes. I hope they will change.
Good Luck!
2007-07-23 17:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by Don't be taken for granted! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt your friends are used to not having yur full attention. Tjey like being teens abd haging with the boys. The guyz think the are losing to yhooo to sumone unfamiliar and may feel that at their age they HAVE to flirt with teenage girls and that that is the rite thing to do. Dont worry about t, tlk to them.
2007-07-23 17:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by (*^-Shorteh-^*) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys can be *****.
I think that they are jealous that you have a girlfriend.
But most guys act stupid if his friend gets a girl.
Like talk S*** or Hit on them.
But What i suggest you do.
Is move on.
If not beat the s*** out of them
=]
2007-07-23 17:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by CrZy L3gZ SLIM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are being jealous and immature, real friends don't do things like this. Just because you've known him a long time doesn't make him a good friend. Quality over quantity when it comes to friends. =)
2007-07-23 17:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
steve, if they were really your friends, they would not do these horrible things to you. what you need to do is confront them. tell them how you really feel and that you know about their little game. they probably are jealous. but, if you cannot trust them, then find new friends. the definetion of a friend is someone who yuo can trust, worthy.
2007-07-23 17:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friends are trying to move in on your womans. You now know they are not your real friends, and if she snaps at the bait, shes not worth your time.
2007-07-23 17:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋