My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs and about 5 months ago he said he wanted to start giving me oral which he has never done before but this never bothered me cause he satisfies me when we make love although thru the yrs i have wondered what it was like..Well been 5 months since he told me this but he hasnt done it yet and for a few months after that and after we would make love i would ask him why he didnt and he would either say "i will' or "im going to" or "next time"..When he first brought this up he said he had been thinking about and wanting to do it for awhile but didnt know how i would feel about and thought i would be something that i would like..Like i said i have often wondered what it was like and although i never ask for this i feel a little disappointed and let down that he hasnt yet,,I have always given him oral and i love doing that..Should i just give up on ever getting it..I think it was wrong for him to tell me,get me excited and then not do it.
2007-07-23 10:01:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Yesterday afternoon after about a month or 2 of not mentioning this to him i ask him about and he said "i will"..Well last night we made love and of course he didnt do it..It gets old hearing "next time" or "i will"
2007-07-23 10:03:19 · update #1
Tommy we dont have any porn and he doesnt go on the internet so he isnt watching it on there.
2007-07-23 10:47:11 · update #2
First, make the area pretty. Give yourself a nice fresh shave down there and get nice and clean. Get some nice lingerie, some candles and various things. Have him sit and watch you as you pleasure yourself. After a few minutes ask him if he would like to help you. Tell him what you would like for him to do before he is getting his pleasure. A lot of men like o go strait from them receiving oral to intercourse. For me and my wife, if we are going to do oral, I will start with her so I can do just that. He also may not know if he will be able to perform in that area as well. An instructional video that the two of you could watch could help.
2007-07-23 12:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by philip s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like one suggested here, do a 69 position. Let him lie down and give him a blow. Then climb over him and position your back to his face. Off course make sure you are all cleaned up back there (including anus). Which makes me suspect why he does not like to give you an oral and hurt your feeling. Just try to slowly make him more comfortable with your vagina area. In fact you can ask him to masturbate you with his finger. Slowly he will appreciate this and before you know it he might dive in. Do not rush it.
Do not tie him up and sit on his face. You might hurt him (suffocate him) and yourself. He might bite back out of desperation or frustration that he could not move.
2007-07-23 17:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by PAXson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes I wonder if people even TALK before they marry someone. I mean, you didn't ever discuss sex with the man before you married him? This is an example of why marriages don't work without open communication in all areas. I'm not saying, you should've brought it up on the first date but - 16 years in? C'mon! If he hasn't done it ever in 16 yrs. and keeps beating around the bush (no pun intended) then he probably never will do it, imo. Either get over it or marry someone else.
2007-07-23 10:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
First stop giving him oral if he won't reciprocate...
or while you are blowing him climb on top into a 69 position and put it in his face...how could he resist LOL
2007-07-23 12:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's scared because he doesn't know how or what to do...he's probably so comfortable after 16 years of doing it the same way it's easier to disappoint you than it is to try something new.
2007-07-23 10:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by Toolman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i got a suggestion for u.
before having sex, have a little foreplay. first get him hard and start blowing him. dont take him too far though. then lay on your back on the bed and simply tell him "your turn". i really dont see how he could refuse at this point haha
2007-07-23 10:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by Hurricane Ivan 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him how you really feel but don't tell him during sex maybe when you are with each other but not in bed and don't make him run but till him what he does
2007-07-23 10:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave it. you will keep on getting dissapointed if you keep on asking and he keeps on saying he will. you've got to keep in mind that this is something that involves him too...if he really wants to, he will do it. don't pressure him and forget about it...and if it does happen it will be a big surprise and even more special since it wasn't planned in any way
2007-07-23 10:15:51 · answer #8 · answered by greenfern 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell him how you feel about it. if he knows you want it it will get him excited to give it. you'll both enjoy it then...
2007-07-23 10:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by sleepingtodream 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him its about time he started lickin it and likein it.
2007-07-23 10:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by Solo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋