I have found condoms in my husbands bag on two different occasions. Once when I was pregnant and he went away on a trip, he came back and I was putting his bag away and I found it in a small pocket inside. He said he honestly did not know where it came from and his bag had been sitting out at work alot. He is in the military and he does work with alot of very young jerks who are against marriage and such..so I believed it. I was pregnant during this time too so it was almost an obvious thing for me and I asked. The second time around I found a handful of them in his bag and I was also pregnant. He said since we were not having sex, he was using them to "pleasure himself" so there would be no mess?? I almost had to believe it because of the fact he was never gone..he was always with me (due to having sugery and being off work) except for when we were asleep and I knew he was on the computer...hence the times he was using the condoms....He didn't tell me cause I'd freak. Is this nieve?
2007-07-23 09:58:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know......... I'd believe the "servicing himself and not wanting to make a mess" before I'd believe the "guys at work put condoms in my bad" story. One of them is an admission that either he is a victim... which would piss me off... or that he still wants to "spill his seed on the rocks"
You are really the only one qualified to answer this question. Do you believe him? Is he a man without honor who would take a vow and then screw around when his woman is pregnant with his child? That's not what being a man is... a man takes care of his woman and his child, forsaking all others.
I would suggest that you ask him to not service himself in a condom... he can use a towel like the rest of us... or a sweat sock.... and that way, there would be no more "confusion" over where the condoms came from and why they are in your home. I would also suggest that you keep your eyes open... there are other clues that he'll let slip if there is anything bad going on.
Good luck... I hope for your sake and your children's sake that you married a good, honorable man.
2007-07-23 10:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap. There are 2 feasible situations: She's cheating on you or she's being cautious. extra appropriate having intercourse than no longer getting some because of the fact there is a few thing nasty there. in case you adult adult males have a sturdy courting (such as you adult adult males have faith one yet another and stuff) then that's maximum possibly that she's waiting for the day once you go with to start to positioned on a condom. even though it form of sounds like she trusts you because of the fact she probable isn't nervous approximately getting some thing nasty while you're no longer wearing a condom. and there is not any longer something incorrect with watching for the unpredicted. So in case you think her of cheating, seem for different warning signs that confirms that she is. Like does she look detach, emotionally and/or bodily? if so, be nervous. yet do no longer be afraid to confront her. She ought to have the potential to face her floor (be trouble-free and all that junk) because of the fact which you adult adult males have been mutually for 6 months.
2016-12-10 19:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are an idiot. And he is a bigger idiot. He got caught. If you want to let him off the hook, that is your call. But if you truly think he beats off into a condom, you are the dumbest broad alive.
Hey Guys, when you travel for work...
Buy the condoms in the city you are going to and throw out what you don't use in that city. You may waste a few bucks doing this, but not all of us are married to pinheads like this girl.
2007-07-23 10:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he admitted to the second incident, it makes you wonder about the first. You could always try hacking into his computer to see what sites he is visiting, but, it's hard for me to believe a man would use a condom to pleasure himself, unless he is a neat freak. Good luck on this one, sounds kind of iffy to me.
2007-07-23 10:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by ms chip dog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not naive, but it's a bit strange. Seems like quite a hassle to go to really. You seem pretty sure he's not cheating, so you just have to decide if you're okay with this. Does it bother you that he's doing this? Is the porn a problem? Maybe you just need to involve yourself a bit more in his sex life.
Good luck.
2007-07-23 10:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of wacking your bag into a condom. And the whole "uh...other guys put those in there" excuse is totally bullshit. I would be concerned, but not accusitory. I'd be suspicious.
2007-07-23 10:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by Tim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he goes away again recheck his bad before he leaves and take out any condoms that are in there. I would always be asking what is going on. No excuses!!! and I would let him know that you are getting alittle insecure and would like him to be honest and if you are willing to work things out even if you have to go to counseling.
2007-07-23 10:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by marianne d 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh honey, you are being so naive. men don't even like to use condoms during sex, why would he use them to jerk off. that makes no sense and is a horrible excuse. and you can't tell me that he doesn't know full and well what's going on in his own luggage. he knows they are there and he knows what they are for. he is cheating on you.
2007-07-23 10:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry but he is cheating..i mean come on why would someone use condoms so theres "no mess" get real honey, no guy does that...they dont care if theres a mess or not.....AND his buddy's did NOT put the condoms in his bag.
2007-07-23 10:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LMBAO, LMBAO again!
Once again, your husband is proof to the world how stupid men are when it comes to cheating...they always, I repeat, they always get fking busted!! I don't know if the extra asss they are getting on the side makes them more dumb or forgetful or what.
And where did you get this thing you like to say, that you had to believe him, you don't have to believe a damn thing. You choose to believe him!
2007-07-23 10:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋