My 15 y/o (almost sixteen; in August) is pregnant. What would be a good punishment? It's not my fault, so don't tell me I was a bad parent.
2007-07-23 09:23:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I don't want to like punish her punish her. But like what do I do?
2007-07-23 09:27:34 · update #1
PhotoMe- Well, ppl on here can be harsh, and I don't need ppl looking down upon me!
2007-07-23 09:28:20 · update #2
This is not a punishment, because I would require my child to do this with or without the pregnancy. Number one focus would be self improvement. Meaning that he or she should will focus on school, church, and creating better future for herself as well the child. There will no more dates, parties, or just going out until the child is older. My daughter will work on the weekends and some days after school. I do not think you are bad parent, she made mistake and now she must learn from it.
2007-07-24 04:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jan the Beautiful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you I would sit her down and tell her that you still love her, but your disappointed in her lack of judgement in this situation. She still has to go to school until the doctor says she can't. She should keep the baby, I know that it might screw up her life, but it will make her think of what she did. She'll get a job and pay for pretty much everything, say you'll help a little bit, and she can stay living there, but she has to buck up and become a parent. There really isn't a punishment for her, i think she's already having enough trouble with dealing with this let alone punishment. Have her go day to day with what she would normally do, but make sure you have a curfew at like 10:30 or so. With her being pregnant, she shouldn't be out late. Have her call and stuff when she's out. But just be a parent and let her cry or be angry, etc. hope that helped
2007-07-23 09:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by ~Miss Rachel~ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What on earth dose a 15 year old know about raising a child, she is only a child her self.Your best bet is for her to put the child up for adoption. A child needs a good stable home with both a mother and a father. If you do not think you will end up raising this child you self,you had better think again. You are not even done raising your daughter .NO IT IS NOT COMPLETELY your fault but you do have to clam some of the blame, she is to young to be single dating.And she should have been told ahead of time if she got pregnant be-fore she got married she would be putting the baby for adoption.
2007-07-23 11:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by me-maw 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She will have her own punishment before to long. No its not the parents fault. Well not most of the time, Kids have so much emotion and they don't know what all the feels are; they are having. So when they have sex its because there is no thought to it. It just happens, unless they planned which I doubt. Just be there for her and she will need you more than ever. Punishment is not required. Prayer is.
2007-07-23 09:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by RuShInG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hiya hun I can understand your angst at your daughters predicament, but whats done is done now and she needs her Mom more than anything in the world right now.
It isnt your fault that this happened, but this isnt really a time to be blaming what you cant change.
Im sure its a huge huge shock for you too, and who knows what your daughter is thinking right this minute.
You can take anything away from here.. but she will still be pregnant tomorrow.
Please find it in your heart, to go and give your poor frightened daughter a great big hug, and ask her what shes going to do, and be there for her in anyway you can.
You certainly dont sound like a bad parent, u sound shocked and hurt, and of course, why shouldnt you be?
I wish you both all the luck in the world and hope it works out.
J
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2007-07-23 09:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Joy S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Make her get a job and take parenting classes. Let her know you aren't raising this baby for her. She made the baby and she gets to take care of it and that you will help her. Now is the time for her to learn responsibility. Also find out who the father is and make sure he pays child support. He helped make the baby so gets to help support it. I also agree that being pregnant is punishment enough for some girls, but some girls don't learn.
2007-07-23 09:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by Dani&Morgan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Omg seriously dont punish her too much be happy she told you she could have decided to do this whole abortion thing on her ownby punisghing her she be be affraid to tell you something in the future. Let her know your disapointed and thought better of her. Then help her descide what to do next, an abortion? Keeping the baby or adoption? Dont pressure her she will resent you for it later on in life. If she wants an abortion but your against it well let her do it! She knows what she wants deep down = ] An No its not her fault most 16 year olds i know arent virgin. Accidents happen maybe she'll take better precautions next time!
2007-07-23 09:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by -x-caroline-x- 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
60 strokes is by utilising some distance no longer truthful! in case you pronounced 10 or 15 lashes i could agree. yet 60 strokes is somewhat harsh. i myself am FOR corporal punishment while it consists of recent child molesters like jerry sandusky, in my opinion he ought to get a public flogging at around one hundred lashes with a flogger. in case you injury or injury a newborn or you abuse or rape a woman, you ought to be sentenced to that form of punishment. NO. i don't have faith so which you are able to decrease someones palms off for stealing a loaf of bread. yet once you pass right into a financial corporation with a gun? and additionally you carry them hostage, or shoot one among them and perchance kill or wound them. then they ought to take the two palms in some foregin international places the place you have corporal punishment there is little or no crime. and the streets are sparkling and good. i could want to work out some people who spit interior the line or clutter to get 10 whacks with a cane on stay television.
2016-10-22 11:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by alpers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not a bad parent.an your daughter is not a bad person just because shes pregnant.it happens to the best of us.an i sure do not think she scould be punish,she has a lot in store for her at a young age.i know you will be thier to help her.she will not have the freedom of a 16year old anymore.she will be a mother,who has nite feeding,she will not be able to go out with friends as much.she will have to have a babysitter.with God help she will make it/God Bless You And Your Family.An The Best Of Luck!!!!!!!
2007-07-23 09:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to help her understand her choices and options at this point. Is she going to keep it? Is she going to go through with the pregnancy? Is she going to put the child up for adoption?
Help her explore the consequences of all those scenarios. Find her a support group for teen mothers and let them tell her what she is facing if she keeps the baby. Find a group of mothers who have allowed their children to be adopted, and let her know what she faces there. And then, finally, let her find out what she faces if she decides to abort.
Use this as a "teaching moment." Discipline should be thought of as "teaching", not "punishing."
Finally, teach her how to protect herself from future pregnancies, with both abstinence and birth control methods.
Use this experience, as awful as it is, to help her learn to think in the heat of the moment and move forward.
2007-07-23 09:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by KatJones37 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋