im hurting like hell.i just broke up with my 2yr live in partner that i loved withall my heart.id known him 10yrs.soul mate stuff.its ended very badly and wont be fixed.i accept that but how do i get over it?any tips big or small,greatly appreciated. love eh?
2007-07-23 09:19:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need a really good friend who will listen to you even if you sound like a broken record. Especially a friend who will let you call her/him when you have this urge to make a phone call to the ex at one of your more vulnerable times. I know it sounds like a cliche but you really need to get out and do things and be with good friends. There are going to be so many times when you want to curl up in a ball and forget everything and everybody. You need to get out there and start having fun or at least try to have fun. I myself got so tired of feeling sorry for myself that I volunteered at a place where their problems were a heck of a lot worse than mine. There is something about helping others that makes you feel good even when you are feeling your lowest. It also helped me to know that a year from now I was going to be in a better place than I was at that point in time. That itself empowered me to move on. Just keep telling yourself there will be light at the end of the tunnel.
2007-07-23 09:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-08 07:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd definitely not reach for ice cream or when your heart is healed you'll be trying to figure out how to get rid of your new huge azz.
It takes time to get over a bruised or broken heart...spend time with friends, busy yourself with work or a hobby or anything that'll keep you from istting around and moping or thinking about what's changed.
In time it will hurt less and less until finally it won't be painful anymore...just a memory. Most things, even love, have a beginning and ending...if you are open to it, love will cross your path again. ☺
2007-07-23 09:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well i always recommend icecream and chocolate- it won't do you any harm- its comforting. A good cry to your favourite soppy songs and a good scream and kick. Then when you have cried your heart out and eaten all the icecream and chocs you dust yourself down, regain your pride and face the world again. You take all the lessons you learned, good and bad and go out into the world to start a new life- find some new hobbies, a night class or a course, some new friends and in time the right man will come along.
2007-07-23 09:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is natural to spend Time and Grieve for the emptiness and Hurt that was caused by the One you trusted and loved.
The pain will subside but the scare will never go away.
Every day the Sun will rise and set and every day You will continue your daily routine. Life will go on and You will over come your Sadness.
2007-07-23 09:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by jamesrichmond28 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only time will really heal what you're feeling now.
Go easy on yourself, and allow yourself time to grieve.
Try to keep yourself as busy as possible - get out and meet people and see old friends. But accept that there will be dark moments too, and times when you just want to sit in and cry and think about your relationship.
Honestly, give it 6 months and you will feeling a whole lot better and stronger as a result.
All the best. x
2007-07-23 09:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by Clare 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well first but glad about the good times, and don't think about any bad times.................
Now regarding "Flash-Backs" !!!!!
When you think about it and get morbid and down, think about a thing you are doing, or a problem
or something like that. You can't think about 2 things at once, and it becomes automatic after a bit.
I know this works 'cos I did it after my
first marriage ended. You can even have a "Pet" problem that you can use. Your thoughts go where YOU allow them to go !!!
2007-07-23 10:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone does their own things but yeah don't stay at home and eat everything under the sun......well, past a couple of days LOL!
I guess just try to look at the positives and try to see how it might have ended up if you stayed (usually the more you think about it the more you see how truly uncompatible you were to begin with)
Stay strong! It took me at least 6 months to not break down and cry about my breakup when I think of it.
2007-07-23 09:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cliche but they say time heals all wounds. Personally i will try ice cream, cheesecake, caramel shortbread. ccrisps, wine, greggs pink jammies alternaivley if you dont want to end up the size of a house. kneecap the bastard of have someone do it for you. Know your situ ex just left me when i was four months preg with our eight year old son. his reason He does not know what he wants. They are all bastards honey but i have a theory if you want to hear it let me know
2007-07-24 04:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, you were not destined to be together. Just take it as such and try to live with it. You see there is benefit in every situation.
Tell yourself that whatever happened is good and that what is happening now is equally good and more importantly what is to happen is going to be good.
Once you accept this you can easily forget it.
2007-07-25 03:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by ebenjosiah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋