would that be smart to get pregnant at 14 with a 16 year old. just to make your parents let you see eachother. they recently got into trouble and no longer are allowed to see eachother and the girl wants to get pregnant so they can see eachother. is that smart? what could go wrong?
2007-07-23 08:59:07 · 38 answers · asked by baby 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You have got to be kidding!!! If anything, that would make your parents even more inclined to NOT let you see each other.
What could go wrong? Well, let's see.....
1.) She could loose the baby (still born)
2.) She could get kicked outa her house
3.) She could die during childbirth (it has happened)
4.) She could have severe post-partem (is that how you spell it?) syndrome and commit suicide
5.) Many other things that could go wrong with the pregnancy, with the parents and with the father (i.e. he could decide that it was a bad idea and just dump the poor girl)
Getting pregnant is a life changing decision that affects everyone, not just the girl and the boy who are having it. They need to grow up a whole lot more before they can have a serious enough relationship to conceive a child.
2007-07-23 09:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by gleemonex69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, boy, is it not so smart.
1. 14-year-olds are not physically ready for childbirth. The baby could have problems, the girl could have problems.
2. Parents are LESS likely to allow their daughter to see the boy who impregnated her.
3. What about the long-term issues? Once the "romance" is over, you still have to raise a child. That is a long-term financial, emotional and spiritual commitment -- 18 years at least. Is getting to see the boyfriend that important?
No no no.... the best thing to do is to prove to the parents that you two are able to be mature and reliable together... and trying to conceive is the worst possible way of doing that.
2007-07-23 09:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by KatJones37 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is NOT any way to "make" their parents see each other. If anything that would make their parents keep them apart indefinately! It is NOT statutory rape however, unless one of them is an adult (18 & up) and the other is not (17 & down). Plus, not many 14 year olds can get jobs, a 16 year old cannot afford a child, and their parents might say fine, go be together, and kick them both out with the baby, or take the baby. too many things can go wrong
2007-07-23 09:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by redsoxmad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That has got to be one of the stupidest things I've seen lately. Get pregnant just so your parents will let you see your boyfriend?!! Think about this for longer than 5 seconds, if your attention span can stand it. Getting pregnant means you are bringing another person into the world. YOU will have to care for that person for the next 18 years. That means food, shelter, medicine, your time. Forget going out on the weekends. Forget going anywhere for a while. Forget about having any kind of life like you have now. Your world will revolve around that child and nothing else.
2007-07-23 09:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by lyllyan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not smart at all. Emotionally, kids that age are not ready to be parents. Also, children should not be conceived so that two teenagers can get their own way; this shows a level of immaturity that says they are not ready to be parents. And, unfortunately, I can't think of one couple I know that have been together since they were 14 and 16... maybe they should wait 5 years, and if they're still together and want to have a baby, go for it!
2007-07-23 09:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by amelia_02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO Because that could actually make parents decide to not let you see each other..... In some states the 16 year old can be sent to juvie because it is statutory rape..... And in other States the parents become legal guardians of the baby until the 14 year old becomes an adult....18 ...sometimes 21.
2007-07-23 09:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by pepsi_grl13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is definatly not a good idea!! Something could go wrong with the pregnancy because you are so young,something could go wrong with the baby as well it could be a premi and be very hard to take care of. You will also ruin your body you will get ugly stretch marks because once again your very young. Its not worth it because i know you think that you will be with this guy forever but it might not last and if you have that baby and you want to break up you will have to share the baby with him and keep on seeing him. Talk to your parents about this and tell them that you really like him.
2007-07-23 09:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Miley M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't even think about it..... having a kid is a HUGE commitment if you look after it yourself, not to mention expensive by having to constantly buy them clothes / food / nappies (diapers) / toys, etc (probably looking at least £2000/$2000 just for strollers, carrycots, car seats, bottles, high chairs, etc).... and I would assume at that young age you'd hardly be able to afford it all.
http://www.fool.co.uk/news/your-money/insurance/2007/07/23/children-dont-come-cheap.aspx
http://www.fool.com/personal-finance/general/2007/05/09/million-dollar-baby.aspx
Shouldn't really be thinking about kids 'til you're 18-21 (at the earliest), by which time your more mature + old enough to have gotten a decent paying job.
And if you're located somewhere that you can't get healthcare without medical insurance (e.g. the USA), it's damn expensive to have a baby. One of my best online friends is due one in 5weeks, and it's gonna cost her $3000 just to have the baby delivered.... and I think it's cost her pretty much the same again for ultra sounds + other check-ups during her pregnancy.
As for what could go wrong.......
- The girl could end up breaking up with the guy 'cos she finds out he's an asshole, and end up having to raise the baby herself (currently got 2 online friends in that situation.... though they're in their 20's).
- There are many things that can go wrong in pregnancy... from a miscarriage (which can leave serious mental scars), and a few others that can involve loss of eyesight, impaired mobility, or even dying.
Was talking to my friend (the one I mentioned earlier, thats' due in 5 weeks) early this morning 'cos she couldn't sleep, and she told me she was suffering from swelling + also been getting numbness in her hands.
Want me to go on?
2007-07-23 10:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG
that is super STUPID!!!
lets see where to start:
pregnancy consists of:
Hemorrhoids
stretch marks
pre-natal visits
weight gain
restrictions to certain foods
no beer/alcohol
no smoking
cant fit into your own clothes after a while
mood swings
peeing yourself when sneezing
lots of discharge
headaches
cant take hot showers
(even more research pregnancy Don'ts on google)
no more partying no more freedom
constant care for a newborn!!! its not cheap!!!!
getting pregnant now means your about to skip from 14 to 24 and be someones mommy!!! AND YOUR RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS CHILD FOR 18 YEARS!!!
if your not ready (money wise ) or ready to give your life up and but your child 1st DONT BE STUPID!!!!
take it from a mother who had a baby at 18 its not easy! and its not a game.
2007-07-23 09:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by Crys 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, that's ridiculous. At 14 and 16 they are too young for a baby. There must be a reason they are not allowed to see each other and getting pregnant is going to make a bad situation far worse
2007-07-23 09:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by claire s 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋