instead of saving money together hes out buying expensive "toys" for himself and his children.We are both in our 30s and have allways rented so we both feel its time to buy since we are getting married soon.I have my "half" ready but whenever he gets "extra money" he spends it on things he or his children want.The problem maybe is he knows i have enough money the pay for his half too.I don't think thats fair.Why should i pay 100% of the down payment when he has money too but chooses to spend it on the things he wants.He complains all the time how he hates renting and wants a house but never does anything.why?
2007-07-23 08:55:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
I think you have bigger problems than this. You had better seriously consider whether or not this is the man for you. You call him your husband but then say you are getting married soon so I don't know what's up with that but, when married people have different priorities in life it is a recipe for failure. Think long and hard about your future with him. And he won't change. Most women think they can change a man after marriage. YOU CAN'T. What you see is what you get. Good luck.
2007-07-23 09:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want a prenup agreement that gives you 100% of the house in case of a divorce and then a 50/50 split in the remaining assets. If you are paying for the house from pre-marriage money then that is what you should do.
Really, do you think that this guy is going to keep up his fair share when he is demonstrating that he is depending on you for money. Was he married before? What killed the marriage? I would not be suprised to find out that finances were somehow involved.
If you cannot get your husband to be to get on the same financial page with you then it will cause problems in the marriage and will probably cause arguments. It could even ruin the marriage. Lots of marriages have failed because of money problems.
2007-07-23 09:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by A.Mercer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him learn the hard way
sure long as you have your half he can spend his and think you will raise it all
dont let him know anything
the screw is probably too tight right now just relax and spend there will always be houses everywhere how would he act if you acted like you were going to buy an expensive toy for you and I bet he could save then when you relax as if you dont care then they change fast
2007-07-23 09:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have to pay 100% of the down payment- too bad he knows that you half enough for his half too. and he's only buying stuff for himself and his kids? what about you? sounds like hes a little selfish-and sounds like he doesnt want to own a house bad enough either. and if he ever comes around, are you gonna get stuck with all the "not" fun stuff, like repairs, utility bills, etc. or maybe down deep hes just scared. good luck either way!
2007-07-23 09:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by M S 3 5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your fiance is your exact financial opposite. I would suggest you and he sit down with a financial planner and discuss a plan to get both of you from where you are now (renting) to where you want to be (homeowners).
If that does not work, then I would suggest couples counseling. You may not be compatible - at least in the financial arena.
2007-07-23 09:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by aiownk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you see him come home with new stuff make him drive right back and return it
he sees that new plasma tv NOW not the gorgeous house he could have LATER....it's easier to spend then save
2007-07-23 08:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋