I just found out I am pregnant, and I currently have an eight month old baby, and I was wondering what it is like to have babies so close together, pros and cons? Also, how can I make my son understand whats going on with me, simply telling him mommy is having a baby wont have much effect right now. Any advice would be wonderful, thank you!
2007-07-23 08:54:34 · 15 answers · asked by geeky_mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My brother and me were really close in age, exacly 1 year and 2months We were both born on the 8th of the month. it gives your child a friend when they are older a shoulder to cry on and most of all a compaion for life experancise the cons would be jelousy and too close to each other
2007-07-23 08:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the time it is time for the new baby to come, your son MAY start to understand a little. It will be hard, the jealousy issue for sure. My twins were 13months old when I found out I was expecting again. My girls are now 20 months and don't fully grasp the concept, but get it a little.
There may be some initial jealousy, which means you'll have to watch your son closely around the new baby. While it's hard to think of, kids that age may only know how to take out their feelings by trying to hurt the new baby. It will take time hun, but you'll live.
On the bright side, your son will be walking and possibly self feeding by the time new baby comes, so that will be a lot of help. I also found that at that age, my girls started liking to help with diaper changes (of each other). Bringing mommy diapers, throwing the old one away, etc.
Best of luck.
2007-07-23 16:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart and congrats at the same time! Miracles are a wonderful thing no matter HOW CLOSE they are together!! Ask your pediatrician - they should know about stuff like that. Mine were 2 years apart, but I'm glad I didn't make it any further apart because they played with each other quite well growing up. Now they're individuals from H - - and have their own space. They are 11 and 14!! I have a sister who is a year older than me. My other two sisters are 3 years behind and 6 years ahead. My sister that is only a year older gets along with me and I with her SO much better than the other two. We relate MUCH better! I think its a plus. Just find some books or websites that can help figure out how to tell munchkin - he's got competition OOPS I mean company!
2007-07-23 16:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by curiousgeorgette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a six year old when we adopted our daughter who was 10 weeks old. Meanwhile I had horrible pms & cramping. the next morning I threw up. A week later I took a pregnancy test.
It was positive..
I made the decision to not make her grow up too fast just because another baby would be joining the family. She would be 9 months old when the new baby would be born. We had two cribs two high chairs two car seats. She had her bottle and her blanket. The baby came two weeks early which made the babies 8 1/2 months apart. I continued to hold her when she had her bottle. I did my best to teat her age approiate. I let her stand on a stool when I changed the baby's diaper. I read to her when I was nursing him. Fortunatly she was a good sleeper. When my husband came home for lunch he took care of her and put her down for a nap. We had a system. When she got up in the morning, myself and the baby would still be sleeping. She got up with her daddy. He fed her while he ate breakfast. When he showerd she was in the PlayPen having her bottle then playing. by the time he left it was time for her morning nap.
As the younger baby got older , the two of them were more of a challenge. They were mutually mischevious. I had a twin stroller and got out as often as possible with them.
I swear that they went through the terrible two's at the same time.
It was lots of work and took lots of patience. Plus I had to make sure my 6 year old didn't feel ignored.
Believe me having two so close to each other was a huge job. But I also adored them and wouldn't change a thing..
My advice would be- don't let the older baby grow up quicker than he needs to. Make him feel special. Make him feel like he can help you make with the baby. Make sure your house is very safe and baby proof. If you need to hire a babysitter for one of the children and you spend time with the other baby.Be efficent with your time.
The pros will be that they will have a best friend at home. There might be times they fight. But, that is normal.
You will have a challenge. But, up side is that your home will be full of love and activity. Also, you are putting in my baby raising years in a short period of time, whereas it might of been over many many years of having babys.
Babies understand more than you realize. When he is a year old start showing him your belly and tell him that mommy is growing a baby in there. Then get a doll and say to him. this is what we are getting. then teach him how to handle the baby. teach him to hold it and kiss it. Also have him kiss your bellie and talk about the baby and what will happen when the baby comes. He might not totally understand but the things you have said, but it will all start making sense to him eventually. And please don't take him bottle from him or take him out of the crib or anything that will make him feel like he is growing up too fast. Let him be his age.And don't expect more from him than he can be at his age. Don't set him up for disliking the new baby.
This will be a challenging time for you but it will be the time of the most love and joy you will ever experience.
Enjoy your little ones. Before you know it they will be grown up with children of their own.
2007-07-23 16:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say its great that you are having them so close. maybe not now but in the long run! they will start school together and be able to enjoy some of the same things growing up since they will not be too far apart. I have a 19 month old and i am expecting another one in 3 months. I am personally happy that i am having them now rather than getting one almost in school and having another one. good luck on everything and try looking into having your tubes tied if you dont want anymore.
2007-07-23 15:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see. My son was 11mos. when I got pregnant with my second child. He's currently 16mos. and still doesn't get when I tell him "Mommy's got a baby in her belly" or "You're going to be a big brother". Maybe start carrying around a doll will help your son to adjust when the new baby gets here. There are books about being a big brother too.
My Mom got pregnant with my brother when I was 6mos. old. She said I was mad for a few days, but I got over it. She thinks I was mad because she was gone for several days not because she brought a new baby home. Honestly, I don't even remember life with out my little brother.
2007-07-23 16:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Just One Girl's Opinion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My youngest two are 15 months and one day apart. It's pretty hard dealing with the sleep deprivation at first because the older one of course stays awake all day and you can't squeeze a nap in, but now she's almost 4 months and he's almost 19 months, so life is getting easier. He is starting to understand that I can't always drop what I'm doing and run to him and she has to learn the same thing. Make sure you find time to feed yourself. I almost passed out because I got so busy I forgot to eat for about 2 days. Not a good thing. Good luck and congrats to you.
2007-07-23 17:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by Dani&Morgan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister and I are thirteen months apart. But, I was born two months early, so my mom got pregnant when my sister was five months old.
It's good that we're so close because we can relate to eachother and we always had a friend to play with when we were growing up. My parents didn't have to buy new baby things because they never had to get rid of Kylie's. My parents got to do the "baby stage" all at once, almost.
She says it was harder to have us so close together becausse she was changing two diapers (etc.) and had two kids in strollers and carseats. When one of us was sleeping, the other was awake. Just things like that.
Good luck and congrats!!
2007-07-23 16:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by **Write your own song** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and her brother are 11 months apart. They are close as ever. I'm sure it will be difficult with 2 babies, but it will be great in the long run. Once the second one gets a little older, they should be able to play together and keep eachother occupied. Congrats and goodluck!!
2007-07-23 16:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by IzzyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too young to understand right now. Having them close together means they'll be able to grow up together, but both will be in diapers. You may have to set up special days for yourself and your son so he won't feel so left out. Hopefully, you have support and help to do that. It'll be hard at first, but you'll adjust so enjoy your time with your son now before baby comes.
2007-07-23 16:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋