Gay Bashers please dont answer this...... I have been in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend of 5 months. I cheated on her and feel really bad about it. I know being drunk is no exuse but I wasnt in my right mind. She forgave me for it and I thought that even though she doesnt trust me we were moving on with our relationship. But she now acuses me every day of doing things that I am not doing, over analizes everything I do and say. And makes up exuses and blows things way out of proportion so she has a reason not to come see me. She says she loves me. And I love her more than anything in this world, What do I do??? She was supposed to come up from Brooklyn New York tomarrow to see me for my birthday and now she is saying she doesnt want to see me. Cause she said I ****** UP AGAIN. Do u think she is seeing some one else? Do u think i should move on? She is the only person I have ever loved. I trust her completely and dont want to be with anyone else. HELP ME PLEASE!
2007-07-23 08:52:49 · 11 answers · asked by spidy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
move on trust is what anyone needs in a realership don't worry about it you'll find your ms. right
2007-07-23 08:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong here is that she lost trust in you and it's hard for her to accept you again completely. You know that if she would of cheated on you, you would of not forgave her either or would of trusted her completely again. I don't think she is seeing anyone else, she is just hurt. She loves you, but she does not trust you anymore. I would suggest that you give her some time until she is ready to come down and see you. Don't pressure her or think or ask her if that she is seeing someone else. Tell her that you understand how she feels because of what you did and that you love her and that when she is ready to come down and see you she can. Remember it takes time to heal wounds, especially when you cheat. But one thing that counts is that you both love each other and that strongness will bound you both together to where you where both will be where you were at in the beginning of your relationship, But remember, " Don't cheat on your girlfriend again!" Because maybe the next time she won't forgive you at all...
2007-07-23 17:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by CUTIELIZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so she is having trust issues. That needs time to heal. So if she accuses you of something remember there's a reason for it and be patient and calmy, with love, reassure her that you weren't doing anything untrustworthy. The fact that she's mad again is another story..now you have to find out what she's upset at. Ask yourself...is there anything that you THINK she could be mad at? (Be honest) If not, then just ask her why she's mad. Is there any way you could go see her instead of vice versa? And don't say "but it's MY birthday". if you care about the relationship like you have said..then go to her...bring her flowers or something cute.
2007-07-23 16:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by smarttmelanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not gay or anything but i do support it and i was in the same situation wif my current bf of 3 months and he screwed up the same way and i like ur girlfriend i accuse of cheating alost evryday but that didnt come beetween us......we took a short brake from the relationship(1 week) and it took about another week to completely get into the very strong relationship we once had and now were very strong i think u shud take a break of maybe 3 to 7 days and see wat happens ...if she chooses to stay with u and forgive u then ur relationship will smoothen out and if she chooses not to then mayb she didnt have feelings as strong but i cud nearly garuntee that if she chooses not to stay wif u then a while later u will gwt back together because in the situation i had wif my bf i chose to leave him and while i started meeting other ppl i noticed that there was noone else out there 4 me
2007-07-24 01:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by Elainy r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she really does love you too. But since you messed up she has lost trust in you. Can you honestly blame her? If you don't have trust in your relationship than you don't have anything. I think you and her should move on and start on a clean slate. That way you feel guilty or sad anymore.
2007-07-23 19:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by Christina H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
/i really think you need to move on. It seems that she doesn't trust you at all now, and probably can't work out how to break the relationship. I suspect there may also be a degree of guilt there too. Perhaps she cheated before you but just couldn't bring herself to admit it.
2007-07-23 15:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like shes still mad at you. Dont plead , but just keep telling her you miss her , and want to see her . If she doesnt come around , you may have to make other plans .
2007-07-23 21:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer. You're actions caused the mistrust and I don't think she's forgiven you at all.
2007-07-23 16:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by Xena_fire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you messed up, and now you have to take the responsibility and consequences of your actions. Frankly, she sounds incapable of truly forgiving you so I would forget her and move on.
2007-07-23 15:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
you should go visit her!!! that would be awesome , she will forget about what you did and kiss you right then and there and everything will be ok!! =) you can do it!!!
2007-07-23 16:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by its becca :] 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋