I have been married for two years and need to know what I should do to keep my husband happy and our marriage going. We have one child and another one on the way so it is hard to do the "dating" things. He is 23 and I am 31. We are complete opposites he likes going out and I am a homebody. Any suggestions?
2007-07-23 08:49:39 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been together for five years so I am not popping out babies!
2007-07-23 08:52:59 · update #1
Sometimes the best thing to do to make a person happy is to be happy yourself. The way you conduct yourself around him and your children will make him realize how lucky he is. Stop trying so hard and be the best person YOU can be. You'll find that he will not only respect you for that, but he will appreciate you more each day.
2007-07-23 08:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mr uknowwho 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why ask us. Ask him.
There are two simple things you can do. #1 is make it a him day. Now let me explain what this really means. In my experience girls think that a him day means we do things that the girls think we like. It doesn't work that way. If you want to make me happy then do things I like not what you think I like. So, go ahead. Ask him what he wants to do and do it. Note that you may not like all of his ideas. Is ok to deny a few but remember it is his day not yours. Hopefuly he will return the favor and do a hers day.
#2 is to listen to his babel. Girls love to talk about their problems but when it is our turn they turn def. Talk about a double standard. So, once in a while show interest in his hobby and passions. Lets say he loves watching foot ball. Well, one day when he start yelling at the t.v. ask him whats going on. He will say that X or Yguy is an idiot or that the referee is blind etc etc. At this point you ask, what does the rules say? Aha! you see you are showing interest in his things. Is not like you have to do all the same things he does but it is nice if once in a while you drop in into our world. One more thing, when you drop in come in as in interest not as to critisized. There is nothing worst than having somebody tell you that you are waisting your time with your hobby or activity. We know we are wasting our time that is why is called a hobby. If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything.
These two little details are great in a relationship. Then again if all else fail there is always sex. Vary the menu. There are many ideas outthere. Ofcourse withing your own belief system. here are things that many peple won't do no matter what and that is ok. But it is also ok to give in to a few things. Try the dice game. take a 6 sided dice (nerds can use a dungeons and dragons dice which has many more sides hehehe). Anyways, numbers 1-3 are his number. Each number represent a sexual act that he will perform on you for 5 minutes. Numbers 4-6 belong to you. Roll the dice and away you to go. I don't know be inventive.
2007-07-23 09:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u r also working, I thin ur hubby will be adjusting at some or the other time. As far as I know, hubby's like us to be nice when they come from office, the house should be clean by the time they come, so that they feel so relief by seeing the house neat and clean. And another main thing is that, male people craves for good food. If u know cooking, then u can try out new dishes, will can be completed within ur time. Actually they love food at home. And in case ur hubby loves to eat outside also, then u can plan it before only and go to dine with good hotels. Always prepare the breakfast as simple as u can. In case if u have dont time to spend for cooking, better to do the work before only. I mean cutting the vegetables before the day u cook, or do it on Saturdays or sundays. If ur hubby is of helping nature, u can ask for his help. Then u can do washing on particular days, when he is at home. Share ur work. Be a little bit planned before u start ur work. Then see the difference.
2016-05-21 03:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back a step, and remember yourself prior to this question. What were you doing then?
Having children or being pregnant doesn't mean the end of romance or intimacy.
Everybody is different and what "works" for one may not "work" for someone else, so asking of others can be problematic.
Remember your own relationship, it has evolved but the essence will still be there.
Opposites can be stimulating and amazing.
Age differences also,
You could always ask your husband what he wants to do.
The best advice to anybody in relationship, is, to learn to truly hear what is being said. It is an art, well worth learning.
Hearing is not the same as listening.
2007-07-23 08:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get out of the house and enjoy some things he enjoys. Take a hike with him, go biking. You'll realize just how that strengthens your bond and makes you both happy. I think you'd be happier if you got out more. I'm a homebody too, but once I get out, I enjoy myself much more.
2007-07-23 08:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the same situation, my boyfriend is 4 yrs younger than my an after i had my baby everything went down hill (little by little) until one day i said to my self "I dint need to make him happy, I need to make my self happy" make him realize that just cause he's younger than you does not make him better
p.s.
look pretty all the time, go out with friends one in a while, and feel good about your self.
2007-07-23 09:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by freaky559 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all he is Young!. At your age he should be easy to please. From this I would assume you're a late boomer(mentally). He's probably getting to know you better and wondering why you're not so bright(with him). Something is wrong if he prefers to go out without you. Go with him if he wants you to. Wear something sexy if you're a homebody- why would you marry a man and deny him everything?(vice versa) Be his friend his one night stand and his rose. Learn why he likes to go out-understand why.
2007-07-23 09:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by dollarhostnow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just get a baby sitter. being that there is such an age gap, you are going to have to do some of the stuff you did when you were younger. he is still in that stage in his life
likewise, if he is a responsible husband, he will spend time with you doing what you like to do.
2007-07-23 08:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that easy you already know the things he like even though you don't like them try to do them once in a while just to make him happy. The kids are not a problem there's lots of activities that you can do with kids or things as simple as going out to dinner.
Good Luck!
2007-07-23 08:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
We can only share our own happiness with another, we can not MAKE someone happy.
Its his job to make himself happy and your job to make yourself happy.
Remember loving is complete acceptance of each other's good and more importantly bad qualities. In all truth we love people not despite their bad qualities, but because of them. A pinch of salt in the candy makes it even sweeter to the taste.
Remain true to yourself so he is able to know the true you and thus he is able accept you completely and love you with all that he is.
Realize that bond that hows you together is a simple choice made every second of every minute of every hour of every day to be together. If one of you strays look deeply and find out why that one wanted to run away from their own life, because is what an affair is, an attempt to escape one's own life.
2007-07-23 09:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋