Whenever my boyfriend and I have sex it always has to be with the lights out. Even if they're on l have to wear at least a long t-shirt. It is really hard for me to be naked and stand in front of him. I'm afraid that he may be turned off by my body. I really want to get fully undress and make love to him, but i can't I am too afraid. Certain things I can't do either- like go to public pools because I refuse to be seen, I can't wear shorts, or short skirts, and sometimes not even tank tops, or spaghetti straps. I really wanna overcome this fear but I can't. I need help-its summer time and I can't even wear the appropriate clothing for the weather cause I'm so afraid. I wanna be like everyone else-fearless :(
2007-07-23 08:17:19 · 12 answers · asked by Kitty Kat 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
OK, why not try it a little at a time, like those people who try to overcome phobias do.
Start with clothes just a fraction more daring, then after a week or so when nothing terrible has happened, more daring still.
Why wear a long T shirt when making love? How about a basqe or sexy teddy if you can't stand to be naked? A nice silky chemise is better than a T shirt.
Just work up to things slowly, tell him how you feel and ask for his help and encouragement. You don't need to go from shy to wide open confident in any time frame, but work at it and it will come. Try nice sexy massages in your bra and panties. That should help relax you.
2007-07-23 08:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by boojumuk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-09 20:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Whenever my boyfriend and I have sex it always has to be with the lights out. Even if they're on l have to wear at least a long t-shirt. It is really hard for me to be naked and stand in front of him. I'm afraid that he may be turned off by my body. I really want to get fully undress and...
2015-08-18 17:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Farra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats normal, fear of being seen naked is a result of your parents, I can guess that when you were younger they taught you that being naked was bad and nobody wants to see it (most parents do) but most people just stop caring by the time they are teenagers (like everything else their parents said =-P) Think, whats the worst that could happen? If he still loved you when he couldn't see you anyway (trust me, most men hate that) he wouldn't just leave when he did see you naked.
2007-07-23 08:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by JP 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with modesty. My guess is, you have a great body, but you are not an exhibitionist. That's pretty rare these days, but I think you're a respectable girl who has been brought up the right way and doesn't like to show too much skin because it makes you self-conscious. Sometimes it's much more enticing to leave something to the imagination. Perhaps you do carry it to extremes, as there's nothing wrong with showing your arms and legs, but I guess you're just extremely modest. Remember -- there is no one with a perfect body. We all have things, aside from the obvious, that we'd rather hide. But it might help you to take the focus away from yourself, and just concentrate on having a good time. No one is paying as much attention to you as you might think, because they're too busy worrying about themselves and how they look. Good luck!
2007-07-23 08:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Shirt, No Shoes, No Service - has got to do with hygiene and law suits. You enter a store barefooted. Someone dropped a bottle of mustard. You don't see the mess and step onto a shard of glass that slices through your foot, severing the tendons so you can't walk. Now you sue the store. (Yeah, I took it to the extreme, but now you get the point) You enter a store without a shirt. You're a large man with sweaty moobs. You look over the bin stocked pyramid style with nice, crisp apples. You lean over the fruit to take one from the top of the pile. Your sweat falls, dripping onto the fruit you do not select. (Makes you want to make sure you was that apple, doesn't it?) You walk into a store without a shirt. It's hot, you're shedding hair. Some hair from your armpit falls out and lands in the cooked meats at the deli counter. Now you get dinner WITH floss...ew.
2016-03-16 01:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon - I shop at Lane Bryant and I walk around the house naked. It's not a big deal. I don't think you should be having sex with your boyfriend since you don't trust him enough to be naked around him. If you don't trust him to just look at you, they he shouldn't be touching you.
2007-07-23 08:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are worried what other people think and wasting your life doing it. If you have found a man to share in your quirks, get naked.
2007-07-23 09:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you have some serious self esteem issues. i want you to keep something in mind. a woman doesn't have to look like the girl on the cover of a magazine to be considered beautiful, and her body doesn't have to be absent of imperfections. your boyfriend is obviously attracted to you. otherwise he wouldn't be dating you. also, he doesn't expect your body to be "perfect" because he knows good and well that his isn't either. in all honesty he will probably be even more turned on once he sees you completely naked.
2007-07-23 08:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
people are just as scared and insecure as you are...they just don't think about it. "you have nothin to fear, except fear itself"...i know that's a redundant quote...but roosevelt was a fat president.
2007-07-23 08:22:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋