my oldest best friend who is male has recently got engaged and his having a party but his soon to be wife hates me and they have not invited me to the party and most of my close mates have kept it quiet in the hope i wouldnt find out and go but word gets around where i live, so i was going to go anyway with afew friends but one of them slipped up when they were drunk and told one of his mates and he said i better warn him that you are all coming and that i better not cause any trouble.I feel like **** now the fact everyone tried to cover it up and the fact he intentionally never invited me should i still gatecrash and stir it up abit?
2007-07-23 07:45:27 · 28 answers · asked by jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
throw a petrol bomb in and run off - murder is a crime u know
2007-07-23 07:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by ozzysheeplover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't go where I wasn't wanted, and I'd get some new mates on top of it. With mates like that who needs enemy's.
Find some new mates and leave the party alone, since it's not worth lowering your self to do some thing so sad as that.
As I said, find some new mates and get on with life, you can do better than these people.
Best of things to you, stay cool as you will be glad that you did. It never pays to get all wound up over people that do things like that, just be glad that you found out who your true friends really are.
2007-07-23 07:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to change their perception of you is to change yourself.
If you do decide to show up, I say be gracious (Also, tell them beforehand). Oh! Even better! Make a toast at some point during the reception and say something great about your friend! That should make them realize that you just want to be friends, and may get you in good with the wife. If his friendship truly means a lot to you, you'll respect how he feels.
If you crash the party, you will only make the situation worse.
2007-07-23 07:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by Josh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't invited personally, than I wouldn't go. I wouldn't be mad at your friends either, their just trapped in the middle of this drama. It may not be fair that his girlfriend has something against you, but it is her engagement party so you should respect her wishes and not attend. Good luck sweetheart and remember if he (your old friend) wanted you there you would know. Also I don't think it's uncommon for love to over conquer friendships no matter how great they we're.
2007-07-23 07:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by SHOOTER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ones who covered it up were trying to protect you, they are your real mates. As a number have already stated don't go to the party and debase yourself. However I nice touch might be to send flowers to the lady concerned on the day of the party with a card saying "don't worry I won't be there". Its a subtle but pointed message!
2007-07-23 07:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by The Guru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not invited then don't go. If you go then you'll just reinforce your friends fiance's feelings and everyone will think, "Man, she was right for not inviting her in the first place, look how immature she is!" Just don't go, but let your friend know that he's a wuss for not standing up to his fiance and allowing his friends to come to a party that's suppose to honor him too!
2007-07-23 07:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by ♥§weetiepie♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your best friend and ask him why he didn't invite you, and ask him why he told everyone to keep it from you. That was really rude and low of him to do that, but maybe he had a reason. Just ask him. Dont go to the party either.
2007-07-23 07:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by C007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not your best friend if he didn't invite you to his party/engagement whatever because his women doesn't like you.
I wouldn't bother with him ever again but that's me if I'm not wanted by someone I thought was a friend, especially a best friend then I don't need them or want them in my life.
2007-07-23 07:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by John96 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious this "best friend" thinks you are a trouble maker and has gladly put you out of his life. If you go to the party you're just going to look like a desperate stalker chic.
2007-07-23 07:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO! There's a good reason they didn't invite you, you'd mess everything up! Just back off those friends for a while, they obviously think you're too immature to act politely at their wedding.
2007-07-23 07:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Just a Dog Chasing Cars 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but there is probably a reason you not invited besides his new gf don't like you. If this guy was your true friend he would stand up to his gf and invite you. furthermore your mutual friends helped to hide it. What have you done?
2007-07-23 07:49:41 · answer #11 · answered by angelbunny12183 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋