i need some advise on how to tell my parents im pregnant. im not maried. and im 16. i have no idea how they...

Question

will take this news. for the older people reading this "do you look down upon young pregnant girls"?

Answer 1

You're just going to have to tell them. There's really no way around it. I understand how hard it is though. I got pregnant when I was 17, and I was terrified to tell my mom. But after waiting about 3 months, my grandmother ended up finding out and I had to tell her. As scarey as it seemed to tell her, it really wasn't as bad as I expected it to be. Of course she was shocked and needed some time to let it sink in, but before I knew it she was excited about being a grandma. At this time in your life, you don't need and extra stress and it will be very relieving to get it off your chest. And you will need to see a doctor as soon as possible so it's not a good idea to wait for too long. Also, you don't want them to end up finding out from someone else. Just sit them down and tell them what is going on, and that you really need their support b/c you are going through just as much as they are. After you tell them, just back up and let them have their space. If they are good parents they will be supportive of you. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well, I am not really one of the older people. I'm 22 I have a 5 year old little girl so you can do the math, I was 16 when i got pregnant and 17 when she was born.

I would suggest talking talking to an adult who is either a trusted friend, relative or a counselor. You need someone that can be there to help break the news. Plus when there is another grownup in the house with your parents they might not start yelling.
You need to tell them though not the mediator. You explain the situation whether it was a boyfriend or a friend. You need to have some sort of a plan before you talk to them. Tell them you want to keep the baby, or you don't, or.... if you want their help on making a plan explain to them that you are not sure what to do and you are asking for their help.
Depending on your parents they may look down on you, but it is more of a disappointment with themselves. most parents blame themselves. My parents were concerned and sent me to a shrink, my sister who was pregnant the year before (she was an adult but not married) blamed herself thinking that she was a bad example. BUT in the end my family was there for me and helped me along the way to make the right decision.

Stay in school that is the most important, and if you get your GED instead make sure you get at least an associates degree in college, it is soooo much easier to find a job!

Answer 3

Instead of worrying about what they will say you should speak to them right away. Since you're pregnant you will need to get prenatal care for your baby and at least one of your parents will need to be involved to sign forms for youm and be there when you need it. Think about what you're going to tell them and make sure you sound like the mature and "ready for this" young woman that you should be. Remember being a mother is a beautiful thing, dont let anyone tell you what to do with your body or your child. Did you know that at only 8 weeks you can hear the baby's heartbeat and see him/her in an ultrasound? So there is a little person inside you that fighting to be your son or daughter. You had sex, you got pregnant, now rise to the occasion and show the world you can do it. Remember you are not the only young woman this has happened to, I had many friends who got pregnant and went on to college and have wonderful lives. But first tell your parents, the earlier the better since they'll need time to think too. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

People generally do look down upon younger pregnant girls because there's just a stigma about it, you being you and possibly not making the best decisions at the time. If you really love the guy then things can possibly turn out positive. There are 2 options at this point. You can have the baby or not have the baby. As for telling your parents, my best friend got his girlfriend pregnant 9 months ago and are expecting to have it anyday now. How they told her parents was they left a detailed note saying that she was pregnant and they'd be back at the house at a specific time. They shut their phones so the parents couldn't call them. The reason for this was so emotions the parents emotions wouldn't be raging. It gave them time to calm down and come to terms with situation. Today, my friend and his gf are doing ok for now, but then again they're 23 and 21. At this point in life you just have to ask yourself if you think it is a wise decision as this baby will severely effect the rest of your life. It will also be a big financial decision. I found this snippet of an arcticle.

"And you thought the home pregnancy test was expensive! The costs of raising a baby to age 18 costs between $125,000-$250,000 and that's not including college tuition! In your baby's first year alone, you can easily spend between $9,000-$11,000 (for diapers, formula, baby furniture, clothing, baby gear, etc.)"

So I know you have a big decision to make, but I wish you well and I hope everything turns out for the best.

Answer 5

I'll be honest with you. I'm 17 and I can't help but "look down" on young pregnant girls. I feel sorry for them but at the same time can't understand how they can do something this irrisponsible. I really think you and your boyfriend should tell them the news (he'll be able to be there for support) and the sooner your do it, the better. You're parents are not gonna be happy at all but do come up with some ideas like about what you're gonna do. Are you going to keep it, give it away for adoption, have an abortion? I honestly think the best thing would to give the child up for adoption because your parents should not have to be the ones responsible for your actions. I really do wish you the best of luck through this difficult time.

Answer 6

Keep in mind that your parents are going to be mostly sad, more so than angry. They will be sad for the future they hoped you would have, and they will be sad for the childhood you have lost. They always wanted the best for you, and having a baby at 16 is not the best you could have done for yourself. The will also probably blame themselves for it.

You and your boyfriend need to tell them to their faces, in private. If you are very scared of their reaction... perhaps you can talk to one of their friends or one of your Aunts or Uncles first and ask them to support you and be there when you tell them.

Carefully listen to any suggestions they make about adoption and abortion... make a decision together and weigh all your options.

As an older person (31), I do not look down on pregnant teens. I see a pregnant teen or a teenage mom, and feel badly for them, for their parents, and for the baby/child. I know their lives are not easy, and they will all face many struggles that none of them should have to face.

Good luck sweetie.

Answer 7

It's a very fragile situation. Tell the fact and face the music. Don't be upset if they're mad, because that's normal. In time they'll understand. Be brave and stand up to be a responsible person.

You need to look for help. If your parents sympathetic, try talk to a relative/friend, someone loving and helpful in your family etc. Don't be afraid to look for support. I'll caution about talking to school counsellors, because usually they only have one solution - abortion!! (which I think is dim wit!)

Be patient with everything, I hope your parents will be understanding and think of some ways to help you. Also, the boy should help you too, if not to marry you, at least support you and the baby financially.

BUT please don't think abortion, because it's a fact that abortion will have a long term bad psychological effects on you, and it affects your physical health. Those pro-abortionists only tell you fake truth, they don't give you the full picture! It's the most devastating experience of any girl!!! Keep the baby for your own good. This is a good site to visit :

http://www.carolynsplace.net/index.htm

another teen story

http://www.abortionfacts.com/literature/literature_9338aa.asp

Answer 8

I would talk to the parent who is going to react the best, first. Meaning... if your dad is going to freak out but your mom is just going to cry... tell your mom first, that way you can break the news to "dad" (the parent who isn't going to handle it so well) together. I understand that you are scared, but you aren't the first 16 year old to get pregnant, and I'm sure you wont be the last. I do recommend telling them soon though because you need to get in to see a doctor for prenatal care asap. Remember... the choices you make from this day on aren't just about you, they are also about a child. Be smart and again... talk to your parents asap. And please dont take too much into people who say your parents will be raising your kid. My mother was 15 and my father was 17 when they got pregnant with me... and they did just fine taking care of me without anyones help. Best of luck... and hey- congrats on being a mommy! :D

Answer 9

Hey girl! Well first of all your young but congratulations. Having a baby is always a blessing and I agree with everyone else just tell them. I got pregnant at 18 and I was scared to tell my parents and of course they got very upset because I was their baby but trust me it passed. But whatever you do don't keep it from them. There your parents and they will understand better than anyone else. I don't know what you plan to do as far as having a baby because its a very hard thing but trust me for a decision like that you will always want your parents input. Well good luck and I hope you make the right chose.

Answer 10

I was pregnant at 17, and I had an abortion. I do not regret that decision at all. I am now 24 and have a 3 year old. Looking back, I wouldn't have graduated high school, married my husband, or gone to college. For me it was the right decision.

If you want to tell your parents, I would try just talking to your mom first. It's harder with both of them there. I doubt they'll be happy, there will be a lot of stress, anger and disappointment. Your life will be really hard, I'm not going to lie. Babies do bring a lot of joy, but they're a TON of work too.

I don't look down on young pregnant girls, I feel sorry that they're going to miss out on so much. I wonder, why they decided to go through with the pregnancy.