i can't live with my wife?

Question

i'v been married for almos 3 year, my wife is giving me hell, it is not that she ask for a lot ,she doesn't respect me. for exemple: when she get back from work, she doesn't say hi or anything she just look at me like i killed her familly, and she always call me fat, lazy, and constantly yelling at me. honesty i think i'm gonna divorce her and let her find someone that is not fat and lazy like me

Answer 1

Obviously both of you aren't happy, if you see that the two of you cannot work it out, then obviously the next step would be to go your separate ways.

Answer 2

It seen that your wife has some issues with you. The fact that she calls you fat and lazy indicates that she does not feel that you are not living up to her expectations. My suggestion if you want your marriage to work is to try and talk to your wife and find how why she calls you fat and lazy. Do you help your wife are do you sit around the house and let her do everything. It seems as if she want you to do more than what you are doing. I feel you may be jumping the gun with divorce. I think you and your wife need to do something to rekindle your relationship wine and dine her make her feel love and appreciated. Do something to show her you love her on a daily basis. She may change her attitude towards you. I thinks she need a little TLC. I speak from experience.

Answer 3

well that sounds ok but first u should try and sit down and talk to her about what bothers her about u the most. were u heavy like dat when u first married??? and sure u may hav sum weight issues but thats sumthin u should work on for ur self . now i mean do u work full or part time i mean it has to be sum other things going on if u work hard everyday and u push it to the limit everyday then it is sumthin else.and if u do all this then it is most likely ur weight sorry and with that it comes a hole lot of other issues dat she is harboring deep in side. talk to her find out what is her real problem with u. and then go from there. and when u say respect u as a person u have to make her understand Hey Look!!! i'am human just like u and i hav feelings to! oh and for the record women dont like push overs sorry. so stand ur ground !!! and let her know Look u can talk to me with out all of ur smart comments or remarks about me !!! Thank you! Good luck

Answer 4

I'm not the appropriate person to be taken seriously but remember this:"U CAN'T LIVE WITH 'EM BUT YOU CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT THEM"'
If what i wrote in ur opinion is false then think y u haven't divorced her yet.

Tell her u won't stand 4 her 2 yell at u and call u names and tell her ur giving her one more chance to improve herself.

Meanwhile,try 2 improve urself the way she wants u 2 b,if she appreciates it,it means she's just cranky 'bout smth all the time and she's pouring it all over u,BUT if she doesn't u 2 were never actually meant 2 be together.

Answer 5

Tell her you will no longer stand for her abuse! Yes be done maybe she needs a wake up call she is treating you like this b/c she can and you haven't stopped it if that means leaving her then you might have to but you don't deserve to be mentally or verbally abused! No one does! Now you are self abusive and believing her! Be strong and not lazy, give yourself credit for putting up with her. Even if you leave her she will treat the next guy the same way. so best of luck to you in whatever it is you decide to do!

Answer 6

Question for you is do you work? If not that is why your wife looks at you like "you killed her family" if she is just working so should you be 50/50 with the marriage. if you are working why don't you ask her why she is acting like she is and calling you fat and lazy? communicate with her that what a marrage is all about. there is a reason why she is calling you that what is it?

Answer 7

Uuuhhh Are you fat and lazy?? Do you have a job also or are you disabled?? Sounds like you both would be better living apart. Sorry, I ment no insult. Just trying to answer your question. Good Luck

Answer 8

a marriage needs respect, honesty, love, trust it needs all these if one is missing the puzzle will never be complete.
Good luck maybe you'll find someone with all these qualities Her loss will be someone elses gain.

Answer 9

you shouldnt let someone call you bad names and disrespect you like that.
your wife could have a respect problem or not.
if you were fat and lazy when you first saw her then stay like that and tell her that she chose you like that ,if you werent like that when you met her then lose weight and get up to work you disevre everything she said.

Answer 10

I am not one to condone divorce. I only think it's ok in adultery and abuse. I consider this emotional abuse, which is just as harmful as physical abuse in some aspects. However, if you haven't already, you should talk to her first, again, again, and again if you have to. Try marriage counseling. Make divorce your last resort.