im 18 and being pregnant is beginning to stress me out...?

Question

i am 18 years old and 9 months pregnant with my first... a baby girl... i am so exctied but also very nervous and scared its all very over whelming for me... me and my fiancee just got done doing her room and it's becoming so real to me. i don't really like admitting me being scared to people like my mother and my fiancee ,even though they are my bestfriends, because this was basically my decision and i don't want them to think im being immature or what not. i also worry about the birth of her im scared something will go wrong... did anyone else go through this was anyone else young when they had their first please help

Answer 1

i was 18 when i had my first. everyone has these worries weather its the first or third child. just relax. your not being immature your being a mom. congrats on your blessing.

Answer 2

Regardless of your age when you become a mom (whether it be your first or your 6th baby), there is always a time when you become overwhelmed by everything. It is a natural thing. Hormones do some weird things when you are pregnant. I have 4 children. I was 20, 23, 26, and 38 when each was born. I can remember times of feeling panic, worried about my ability to be a good mom to a (or another) child, fear of complications, and even guilt over feeling these things instead of always being joy-filled and content. Even though each of the older 3 were planned I still felt this way. Our youngest was a total surprise and I went through a lot of up and down emotions. I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 17 weeks along and I had taken some medications I ordinarily would never have taken had I known (I conceived while taking birth control pills for 11 years). I was high risk because of my age and I developed Gestational Diabetes. I was an emotional mess most of the time. My oldest daughter just had her first baby at age 27 and she went through all the same stress of worry, fear, and she had a little melt-down the day they finished the nursery because it suddenly became so real that she would soon be a mom. What you are feeling is normal, not immature at all. Share your fears and worries with your mom and fiance, they should understand. As a new grandma, I know I went through some of the same fears and worries over my daughter as she was feeling and it helped us to talk it over. Now, it is a joy to be a grandma to a most delighful 3 month old grandson and to watch my daughter and son-in-law go through the trials and rewards of being new parents. It will be OK. Those last few weeks of pregnancy are often difficult to get through.

Answer 3

I was barely 18 when I had my son, and it is completely normal to worry! If you didn't, I would think there is something wrong with you. ;) You should talk to your Mom & Fiance about it. They'll be able to help you, and I'm sure they are just as nervous, too! About the labor, if you haven't had lamaze, or birthing classes, get online and read about it so you know what to expect! Talk to your Dr. and ask him to go through the birthing process with you. You pay him for things like that. Any first-time parent is anxious, nervous, and there are many more emotions going through their minds, whether you are 18 or 33. Hang in there, and don't worry too much, it's not good for you or your precious baby! Best wishes & God Bless!

Answer 4

I was 24 when I became pregnant with my son who is now 13 months old. I had a home, a good job, a wonderful guy... i was pretty established and was still scared and nervous. It doesn't matter how young you are, being a parent is stressful. However it is also one of the best things in life. I can't imagine life without my son.

Good luck to you and know that most every woman gets scared...even ones who have done it before!

Answer 5

Yes, I went through the same thing (but after my son was born) I just turned 21 years old and he is now 2 months, it is definitely an overwhelming thing, but remember back in the old days women were having children as young as 14-15 yrs old...this is what we were made to do, bear children..thats why its called Labor, cause its definitely not easy. Whenever you feel nervous just remember that over a million women out there are experiencing the very same thing you are. God bless you and have a happy healthy delivery! You'll do fine!

Answer 6

I was preganant with my daughter at 18 and the same way. I read way too many books and watched too many pregnancy/birth related shows so any little thing that happened or wasn't happening I would freak myself out. She was breach and wouldn't turn so I had a c-section when my water broke at 37 weeks. A little early but healthy =} It's normal to be scared, epsecially with your 1st you don't know what to expect what it'll be like. That's normal at any age. I've had 3 more since then and I've learned to lighten up about things a little but it doesn't go away. Good luck and easy labor vibes to you!!

Answer 7

Its totally normal to worry about being a mom, and giving birth, its a life changing experience that you cant change or do over! It doesnt matter how old you are, your always going to be scared and nervious. I'm 23 yrs old and am 8 months pregnant and I get nervious and scared when I think about it.

Answer 8

I too had my first son at 18 and was scared to death. But being a mother just comes natural. There isn't anything to worry about, you will know when the time comes.

Answer 9

It is normal to be scared and nervous. It's your body! It's your baby! Just try easing your mind by thinking positive. Stress isnt good for when you are in labor and delivering because it will prolong it or make it harder. Just relax. Remember, you dont get a trophy at the end for being brave.

Answer 10

I was 18 when I had my son and I was scared myself. But once you get into that hospital bed, you just want them to be here already. I was just about tired of carrying him around in my belly...and worrying about him being okay, that's what parents do. You'll never stop worrying. :)