it's not fair 8 kids i live with have controll of me come on i am only a 12 year old girl.who thinks that is fair.
2007-07-23 06:00:07 · 33 answers · asked by bernet111995 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Its not fair but that is how it works when your parents had 8 kids. my mom had 7 kids. i know. just talk to your parents about it.
2007-07-23 06:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by jenny 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels. Younger children are a lot more of a responsibility then older children which means that parents assume that you can take care of yourself without as much attention as the younger ones need. Unfortunately, its true and what I would try to understand is that your parents have 8 children to take care of and its hard to get attention whenever you want it. As a 12 year old, you can generally do most things around the house without your parents, unlike a 3 year old who can't do all of the things that you can do alone. Your parents still love and appreciate you, regardless of how it seems. If you were the only child in the house then they'd put all of their attention and time towards you. Or, if all 7 of your siblings were older than you, then your parents would give you plenty of attention. Think about it. However, your parents have to split that attention between 8 young kids. Try to be patient with them and remember that you have 7 younger siblings that need more care than you do. Its very hard for them to manage their time between all of you. Hope this helps.
Regards,
Andrew Sulak
2007-07-23 06:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well when you have that many kids its hard for parents to give equal attention to everyone. But don't worry about it hun! They love you to pieces! I'm the oldest out of 8 kids too (i'm 17 now) and I know what you're talking about. I realized over time that my parents had given me a lot of responsibilities with helping with the kids (and the kids have never been very nice to me when i've been put in charge) but... its all been worth it now. It seemed like a pain in the butt at first but then I started feeling greatful that they trusted me enough to let me help them out with the kids. Two of my younger sisters are like that with the control thing, instead of yelling at them I found the most effective way is to just go to the parents. Even though my sisters end up getting mad at me, they get over it in like 30 minutes lol. also, Your parents will take care of it and i really think you should talk to your parents about this because they CAN help you out. Just keep your head up high and let your parents know the next time one of your sibilings try to take control of you, ok? You don't deserve to be miserable about the stuff your brothers and sisters are doing. good luck and dont forget to talk to your parents about this.
2007-07-23 06:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're not the only one, my sister is 12 and I am 18 months older, but she gets all of the attention, she gets everything that she wants whilst I hardly get anything. I don't think it's fair at all. Try talking to your parents about it, and if they pay no attention to you, then go to another close relative and talk to them about it. That might help the problem! Well, good luck with it, you might need it!!
2007-07-23 09:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jordan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try being the 2nd oldest out of four (ME) it might not sound bad to you but i was the 2nd oldest and my sis came along just a year later and i was shuved out of the way then we were treated like twins and not as one person, then my older sis was mean to me. then my brother came along. so my mum had 3 girls then finally a boy came along and to make it worse for me he was the youngest. so he got all the attention cause he was a boy and the baby of the family. He still does. Everything is about him. I could of done loads of good stuff but it would get un noticed. You get used to it. But speak up and get the attention you need.
2007-07-24 04:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its fair. Of course Im the oldest one of 6.
But I was always nice to my little sisters and brothers.
So your saying you get attention from your sisters and brothers instead of your parents and your parents are fine with that? Theres nothing wrong with that, if your sisters and brothers are old enough and responsible.
Im sure they helped you out many times before, you just need to get along with them.
But if you feel like one of them really mistreat you, you should tell your parents about it or just let one of the other 6 take care of you. I think its nice you have so many siblings to choose from and you can decide whos your friend.
2007-07-23 06:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by jessika s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is not fair. I am the youngest of 7 but i am 14. Mabey you should talk to somebody about it. I know it is probly hard being the oldest, so offer to help your mom and one day ask her if you two can go somewhere like the mall. And just spend mother daughter time together. The the younger ones a babysitter and spend like a whole day together.
2007-07-23 06:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by sillygoosetonda 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it isnt fair but honey we can't do any thing for u all i can say is ur the oldest take charge tell them they need to stop and talk to ur parents about it maybe if they knew how much this was bothering u they would pay more attention and u also have to understand they have 8 kids and sometimes its hard giving all the same attention to all of u so just sit down with them and tell them wat your thinking
2007-07-23 06:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoever you live with (Parents/Guardians) will be having a hard time looking after 8 children. If you feel left out you could try telling them how you feel. Pick a time when they arent busy and sit down and talk to them. Ask if you could spend more time together, maybe they just arent aware of how you feel, looking after kids isn't easy but they should work something out for you. It' not right to be overlooked.
If theres younger children involved, help out with them regularly, if your parents spend more time with them then you'll be get to be with them too and your parents will thank you for it as well.
2007-07-23 06:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not fair at all, you need to sit down and tell your mum and/or dad how you feel, they may not realise that you are feeling so upset about this situation, they love you very much and I'm sure they will be quite unhappy to learn that their little girl feels so unhappy at the moment and will do all they can to help you with this situation. Good luck hunny.
2007-07-23 23:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by sugarbabe180 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not seem very fair to you, but your parents have got their hands full. Do you have grandparents or aunty or uncles or even close family friends who may have a little more spare time? Because yr Mum and Dad are always busy with yr brothers and sisters, it doesn't mean they don't love you.
2007-07-25 08:44:46 · answer #11 · answered by ackers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋