I've been dating this guy for about a year. I just moved to NorCal and he lives in SoCal. We want to get a dog and let him stay with me for a few weeks and then with him a few weeks. Is this a good idea? I see it as a step forward....bringing us closer together. Am I just wishful thinking?
2007-07-23 05:51:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok people....I'm not gonna leave the dog alone! we both have plenty of space for a dog to run and play outside. I love animals!
2007-07-23 06:00:32 · update #1
I can see if the dog would be more healthy and happy to have one home...I would be ok if the dog stayed at his house. he has more space.
2007-07-23 06:14:23 · update #2
I personally think you're going to confuse the dog, living in one place for a few weeks then switching.
I don't think it's the best idea.
2007-07-23 06:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a dog is like having a child. And no child or dog should have the job of bringing you closer together. Bringing you closer together is a relationship issue that needs to be worked on between you two humans.
Having a dog is a lot of work and they need lots of attention. It's not fair to have your dog, a pack animal, sit home for hours and hours while you're at work all day.
In addition, dogs like consistency. Not that one can't travel with a dog, but your dog would not have a true home-base and would be shuffled back and forth, up and down the freeway, not having the consistency of living in one place.
Also, consider if you and your boyfriend break up. One of you will have to take the dog. What if you're both attached and both want him or her?
2007-07-23 13:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's a good idea, it's like saying should we adopt a baby? (it's too big of a step right now) Well a dog is a big responsibility and I think it can be a strain on your relationship, and not to think negatively but if you both get attached to the dog and you break up, then who gets the dog? Also it can be stressful to the dog going from home to home every week or couple of days. Trust me having a dog is A LOT of work, you have to walk it, feed it, take it to the vet, plus the amount of money you have to spend on grooming, medication, vet visits, and food, - is a lot of money. Also if he decides he doesn't want the dog any more you'll take it personally (b/c of what you think getting a dog means to your relationship-closseness and progression), and it can hurt your relationship.
I know it sound like a cute idea, but I think you need to really think about this, it's not really a next step and that's not a good reason to get a dog, there's a lot of other things you can do to feel like your relationship is progressing to another level. Good Luck!!!
2007-07-23 13:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by moks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you do if it was a baby? I do not see this as a good idea at all. The dog will be the one to suffer. They need stability as well. They do have feelings and emotions they are not stupid animals. I just do not understand how a dog could bring two people that live apart closer together?
2007-07-23 13:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by free_mark53 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a very bad idea. It's similar to a divorced couple having joint custody of a child. It's not good for anybody. Especially the child (in this case the dog). I fail to see your logic but if you follow through with it I would suggest an inanimate object instead like a pendant or rock or paperweight.
2007-07-23 13:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by Troasa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see this as a step closer to another dog being left alone , or maybe ending up in a kennel, waiting for someone to adopt him. Don't do that to a dog please. what happens if the relationship doesn't work....who will get the dog?
2007-07-23 12:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by miss may 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the dumbest thing I ever heard. You don't "play house" with another living creature.
2007-07-23 12:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋