I have been living in the same state as my godson for the past 5 1/2 years. I get him almost ever other weekend. I love him very much and this was not an easy decision to come to. The state that I live in now is hours away from all of my family. I had my father up here for a couple of months but he passed away in February. This happening has made me want to be closer to my family members.
I got a new job out of state where I will be in the same city as many of my relatives.
I sat down and explained this situation to him and he seemed ok with it. I told him that I will be back to see him and he can even get on a airplane to see me. He's 6 years old. When I let his mom know, she started tell him that I was leaving him to be with my other god son (who happens to live in the state i'm moving to). She asked me how could I even consider leaving him to move someplace else. Now I am afraid that she is going to poision his mind against me. What can I do? Why is she
2007-07-23 05:48:38 · 12 answers · asked by Cheryl J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh dear lord! :(
Oooh, I bet this was just a knee jerk reaction (and a poor one, by the way) to her being very upset that you had to share the bad news with the little guy, who you both love very much. Now, it doesn't make it right - but, I bet she (obviously!) wasn't thinking straight. She'll regret her words.
YOU are doing the absolute right thing by going on with your life and moving forward - and good for you! :) Now, you will not be able to stop his Mom from trying to turn you against him, but you can make sure your godson knows how much you love him and care...
Once you get settled, make it a routine to do special things for him. Send him cards (there are some great ones out there!), send small momentos\ gifts, call him every week. Find ways to let him know you are thinking of him...
Congrats on your move....
2007-07-23 06:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by sunshineday2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A god mother is NOT a second mother to a child. A god mother stands up for a child at baptisim and vows that the child's RELIGIOUS upbringing will be continued should something happen to his/her parents. That is ALL that a god parent is. A god parent is not a guardian of the child, it sounds as if this child's mother has no clue what being a god parent is and she is trying to use the guilt factor in her favor so that she can dump her child on you every other weekend. Let her "poision" the child's mind against you, you owe her or her child nothing.
2007-07-23 08:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My word!!!
Don't tell her this but, you have the right to pursue happiness the way you see fit. You are not your god son's mother. It is the mom who is the most important female in any ones life. You can still love him from a distance and still see him often in the year. As a matter of fact, think of the awesome experiences he could have by seeing a new city, meeting new people and flying on a plane. There are all culturally enriching.
2007-07-23 06:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not a friend of yours. Do not think you owe her anything more. She is probably mad since you have been used as a babysitter and now no more. How did you ever be friends with someone like her? Anyway, write to your godson and be prepared for her poison. In later years he will figure it out and be friends with you and hopefully without her nearby to contaminate the situation.What you wrote is a highly unusual close relationship with godparents anyway so its not as if you are doing anything wrong. Gee she is a trip!
2007-07-23 05:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is terrible. The only person she is truely hurting is her 6 year old little boy. You have to do what you need to do for yourself. Your god son will be fine, you are not one of his parents. I have never heard of a god parent having the child as often as you do. As long as you continue the communications with him by phone and cards he will be fine. I am sure that he is going to miss you, but he will adjust. If you continue to communicate with him and let him know that you are not forgetting about him, he will be fine no matter what his mom tells him about you. I would talk to his mom and explain to her in a calm and sensitive manner that she is only hurting him with her aweful words and it is extremely unfair of her. It truely sounds like she is pissed because she won't have 2 free weekends a month.
2007-07-23 06:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by misbotta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, she is being selfish and doesn't want to find someone else to take over her parental responsibility every other weekend. She just wants to be able to party every other weekend without having to be responsible and a parent. She needs to grow up and be a parent. I don't know any other parents (good parents, anyway) that give their children to someone else for an entire weekend every other weekend.
2007-07-23 07:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the mother is obvious a little crazy. shes not taking in your needs and wants which is just shelfish if she thought you were always going to be around for her son. he's 6, he'll make friends. definetly keep in touch with your godson. maybe distance yourself from the mother.
2007-07-23 05:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by smash_mouth_man2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing it has to do with is her loosing her everyother weekend babysitter!!
Live your life for yourself, there is nothing you can do about the boy, except keeping in touch the best you can! She may or may not let him receive your letters. Best wishes on your move and hopefully she will love her Son enough to let you keep in touch with him.
2007-07-23 05:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 10:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control other people and you can't worry about what they are saying behind your back.....I feel your pain.....my husband died 4 years ago and now that I have a new husband and a new life.....my mom feels left out and betrayed and it has caused a family upheavel with my sister and dad.......
Just make sure that you keep contact and stay friendly with the mom so that you can visit and have him visit.
2007-07-23 05:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋