Do you think children cause a lot of problems in a marriage? Give me an example?

Answer 1

Money problems...

Answer 2

OF COURSE THEY DO.
That is not to say that they are not worth the effort.
But make no mistake. Children try the most stable relationships.

First babies tend to infuse the new Mom with the ability to think about themselves and the babies above all, often to the exclusion of the Dad and husband.
The much different life demands of children break up whatever routine was established prior. Change usually affects people adversely.
Couples often spend all of their emotional effort on the children and let their relationship languish and wither. This results in waking up years later and thinking he/she no longer loves me.
Children strain the monetary resources. most young marriages suffer due to lack of funds, this only exacerbates that.

NOW, that you understand that, yes, they do cause problems that all of us face to some extent, also understand that children are worth every minute of your time spent with them.
Going into child rearing with the knowledge of the underlying issue help you keep your relationship together so that you can operate as a PAIR of parents. Then you can raise the kids in a stable home and realize the joys that children bring.

The most overlooked yet common problem is the new parents forgetting that they were the couple before the kids came and have to remain that way after the kids come. That includes maintaining the love, romance and sexuality that existed to form the family in the first place.

Answer 3

No, children are not the cause of problems in marriage. They are a focuser. If the marriage is good, they make it better, and if the marriage is bad, they make it worse. The children are not to blame, they are not the cause, and they cannot be the cure to marriage problems. My knowledge of this is gained from adopting a 4 and 5 year old, who knew how to seperate parents and work them against each other. If my wife and I did not communicate well enough to work through this, they would have killed our marriage. As it stands we now have wonderful kids, and a great marriage........alot of hard work later...

Answer 4

No children don't cause problems in a marriage.If you have martial problems you would have them with or without a child.I really,really hate your question.I mean no offense.But I actually know people whom blame their children for their relationship problems.And it pisses me off to know that their is such sorry worthless people in this world that they would blame an innocent child for the problems they created for themselves.A child should never come about has a method to try in save a relationship.Because it is sometimes hard being a parent.And if you already can't properly cope with relationship issues.The day to day care taking of a child can make certain things more difficult.But at no time is it ever a child's fault when the adults in their lives can't get their acts together and have a good relationship.

Answer 5

No, I don't think children cause problems in a marriage; they actually strength the healthy relationships. However, if you already have problems in the relationship, don't think that a child or two will fix that. Then, you might have more problems in a marriage, but children are not the blame there.

Answer 6

Children don't cause marital problems, though the demands that they place on parents can highlight relationship issues. It's no different than having a demanding job, or a demanding schedule. If relationship (personality) issues exist, it's only a matter of time and/or pressure that will bring them to light.

Having children is the biggest blessing in life. I have four of my own and have been maried for 16 years.

Answer 7

It's not the children that can cause the problems, it's the added responsibility that comes along with them. They take a lot of time and energy that may take away from the relationship between the married couple.

Answer 8

Children make it more difficult to get quality alone time. Having kids is also a lot of work and some stress. Sometimes, when the kids are particularly on my nerves, I take it out on my husband. Just bite his head off for breathing,lol

I really miss waking up on a summer weekend to peace and quiet, snuggling, going out to breakfast and so on. We haven't woke up to peace and quiet since the second child was a baby, no snuggles or couples breakfast, either.

However, the kids are also a lot of fun. We have great senses of humor in this house and a lot of what the kids say and do is very amusing. We have had many shared laughs because of the kids.

Answer 9

Most definetly! Espcially if there are step children involved! I think that couples get together and when a child comes into it things change how can they not! It's another mouth to feed and a whole different added responsibity. It is no more about the couple it is from that point on all about the child/children... Even after they turn 18 and move out...

Answer 10

No, I think in some cases when your marriage isn't strong and you're not working together as a team raising your kids, it's just easier to blame marital discord on your kids. I have seen couples experience the death of a child and it takes a toll on the marriage, but in general, kids are going to be kids. I can testify to that . . . I gave my parents hell, but it didn't interfere with their marriage. My mistakes were my own and didn't affect my parents marriage. .

Answer 11

It's not the CHILDREN who cause the problem! It's the different parenting styles, different ideals, different upbringings from the parents that cause problems. That's why you should talk about this stuff before you have children to make sure you are compatible on your ideas about how to raise children!