My husband was not feeling well and he thought I should go. It was at the home of a friend of hers on a private lake. It was very pretty. It was a hot afternoon and it was suggested that we all go to the lake for a swim. Now, I had a bathing suit on under my clothes in anticipation of us going swimming, but when I look up, all the men and women at the party are undressing for a skinny dip. I was shocked and told my sister I would wait in the house as I did not want to participate or witness the event. She laughed and called me a prude as she usually does. Anyway, as I was turning to walk away, she grabbed my bikini top and pulled it off me. I turned in shock and gave everyone an eyeful. I was very embarassed and ran into the house to the sounds of claps and whistles. I got dressed, got in my car and left. My sister says I acted like a child and overreacted. Should I have just laughed and gone with it or did I overreact?
2007-07-23 04:47:41 · 25 answers · asked by gail 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Thank you all for your replies. I'm not keeping this question up. I just wanted to see how others felt. I was never told that skinny dipping was going to be a part of the activities and while my sister is wild, she has always, other than always teasing me about being prudish, respected my boundaries. My body belongs to me and I choose who sees it. The person I have chosen is my husband. I do expect an apology from my sister and I'm sure I will get it. Thank you all again.
2007-07-23 05:34:50 · update #1
NO YOU DID NOT OVERREACT! Obviously you have some morals! She needs to get a grip! And you are a married woman, so why would you want to participate in those kinds of things? I know I wouldnt! Good job on making the right choice, that is why your husband married you = )
2007-07-23 04:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think your sister was definitely wrong on this. You may be a prude, but we each have the right to set our own limits. Because of this I think your sister was very wrong to have pulled your top off. There was no reason why you could not have waited in the house until the swimming was over. Because your sister and her friends are comfortable in the nude does not mean everyone is, and you should not be put down because of your comfort level. Your sister was out of line, and should not put you down because you did not fit in with this group of people. In the future maybe you want to have a better understanding of what you might expect at the event then you can make a decision if it is something you want to be involved with. Also try talking to your sisters about respecting your values so that you can find common ground on which you can build your relationship.
2007-07-23 06:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by K K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you were well within your rights to act as you did. if you are uncomfortable about skinny dipping around people you do or don't know then your sister did not have the right to cross your boundaries like that. what she did and what she is saying not is a violation of you and is highly disrespectful. You have the right as a human being to do or not do with your body a you see fit.
personally, i feel that she is the one who acted wrongly and owes you an apology at the very least. if it were me, id tell her to take her judgments and shove em.
2007-07-23 05:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by bluestareyed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally have no problem going topless at the beach but am not sure I'd like to go to a nude beach, although if other people did it, it would seem natural for me to do it.
That being said, your sister was the one being childish. I don't see why you would have to do it. You had every right to be upset. I would hate it if someone did it to me. She should have told you in the first place that they were into skinny dipping.
2007-07-23 07:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by Offkey 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your sister lives on the wild side of life you should expect anything to happen and her life don't suite you ,tell her. Remember your suite is of a different style. You don't what anyone changing that. Stand up and wear your suite proud. Now if you got just a little rush of thrill out of it then don't worry about it, just remember to wear two bikini tops.
2007-07-23 05:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by JOJO 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have said anything to your sister.
There's nothing wrong with skinny-dipping.
If you didn't want to swim with naked people, you should have slipped back to the house without comment.
However, she was so wrong you need more than a mere apology, but abject grovelling, and 57,000 promises she will never do anything like that ever again as long as she lives.
Publicly humiliating someone is NOT funny; it's cruel.
2007-07-23 07:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pardon me for being wary, but if this is a real post (and not a troll making up stuff), then you did not overreact. You have a right to chose when to expose yourself.
However, why didn’t you find out from your sister ahead of time that this might happen? You said she was wilder than you. What did you expect her to do?
It goes back to the saying of “You knew I was a snake when you laid down with me.”
2007-07-23 05:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Rainbow 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing. Your sister needs to realize, that you are married, and that while she may be wild, you have settled down. Your sister owes you an apology. If I were you, I wouldn't go to any more of her parties, unless your husband is with you.PS Your sister was the one who acted like a child.
2007-07-23 04:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Phillies 2008 WS Champions! 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
it was clearly inappropriate of her to have done this to you. However, that said, you already knew your sister had this wild side, so was this type of action something you would consider out of character for her? I think not. was your action appropriate? Probably, it sounds like your sis is a little on the hoochie side. Would this skinny dipping devolved into some wild orgy of swinging? If she is that type, then yes, you were right to leave. If it was college prank stuff, then maybe you've just matured away from her antics. If it bothers you a lot, make sure you speak to her seriously (in private).
2007-07-23 04:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by Shredded Cottage Cheese 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Live your life according to your standards, not your sister's or anyone else's. If you were genuinely humilated, I am sorry for your pain but you did the right thing for you. Tell your sister to go jump in a lake, with or without her clothes.
2007-07-23 04:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋