what is your opinion?

Question

have grown up with a big family that drinks alot. my granma has eight brother and sisters. and they are all big drinkers. and she will have card parties were they play penucle and they drink and cuss and have a good time. i have heard dirty jokes. and they don't mind kids cussing. they are all great people, they will stay up until 6 in the morning playing cards and drinking.

i notice alot of people think it's wrong to have kids were there is alcohol. but this is how i was raised. i think it's fine. they have let me taste alcohol. i actually think kids are more resonsible with alcohol when raised like this. i want to know why some people are so offended by this envirernment? i am a good kid and so are my cousins and my sisters and it is so much fun growing up this way. i have so many great memories. i wouldn't change a bit of it.

why do people get offended by this? why do people believe kids should be know were around alcohol? what are your opinions on this?

just so you know, i have a really great respect for alcohol, and from what i know so do my cousins my age.

and they don't drive home after drinking. my aunt and uncle who live like an hour away from me stay at my granparents house. and everyone else lives like a block away. i have only seen one person drink and drive.

i don't want people to think these people are bad. it's not like they teach us bad things, they just have fun.

i want to make it very clear that these people aren't alcoholics. aslo my grandpa was a school janitor, but he hasn't ever drank even a drop of alcohol. and my grandma worked at a dry cleaners, but they both raised 5 of my grandpas sisters after his parents died. when they had no money to begin with, and today they have one of the best housed in our comunity. my other uncle served in the army, and one owns his own bisness, one of my cousins owns his own bank chain, ones a fire rescue person.

so these people do have good jobs. and they don't live in crappy houses. most of the people are pretty well off.

and we were never offered like whole beers. it was always like a sip of whine or something.

Answer 1

I think there is nothing wrong with children being exposed to proper use of alcohol. As long as those adults that like to sit in a private home and have a good time, and don't try to drive anywhere while obviously under the influence, that's great. the problem arrises when kids see these same adults doing things that are stupid or dangerous, like driving, that kids learn things they don't need to see. Let's face it, adults that are inebriated don't make the best decisions. I watched my father get drunk and mean all the time, all it did for me was determine me never to drink, and I have stuck to that decision.

Answer 2

If I had children and wanted them to grow up and become a truck driver or a janitor then I would give them alcohol.

But I don't and won't, since its wrong in many ways and it's illegal aswell, and I would like my children (if I have any) to become something other then a janitor at Mcdonalds.

No offense, but most all alcoholics don't lead very successful careers or lives. I doubt "granma" and her brothers and sisters don't have a very good job/career.

This isn't opinion, this is fact. Round up a dozen alcoholics and ask them what their job is and see what they say. I'll bet you $100 they won't say they work in the medical field or in law.

I've known a few alcoholics and they weren't very successful, they had a crappy lifestyle and they made only a dollar more than minimum wage.

I don't have a problem with people drinking every once in a while, since theirs no harm in that. But drinking several times a week and infront of children, I do have a problem with, especially when its offered to them.

Answer 3

Unfortunately I have met far too many people that socially excuse rampant drinking. To name just three examples I have seen in the past are 1) country clubs, 2) horseriding stables and 3) beer guzzling at bingo evenings and at disco/clubbing scenes. What most people don't know or understand is the hardship one goes through in supporting an alcoholic and how it completely ruins ones credibility at ones jobs and ones social esteem as a person. As long as one does not know about something the addage goes, it is never a problem when remaining unseen and unheard, but when one unwittingly marries an alcoholic that is when the trouble begins. When alcoholism sets in it invariably ends as a terminal condition with most hardened drunks never admitting they ever had a problem and if the person involved with them has them drink themselves to death, one also becomes guilty of criminal negligence. The first suggestion is to distance oneself from these people because they will also ruin your life and the laws as they stand will not protect innocent outsiders. Far more insidious are the alco-pops they sell these days that can easily lead to binge drinking. Whatever you do kids, stay clean and stay healthy. If you need to freak out, flip out or become in some way uninhibited, how about developing eccentrities that enable feeling loose in a social setting or simply using your imagination and trying something like meditation to break the tension. You can even blast wicked music to it if you like, just stay sober. I have seen what happens to hardened drunks in the psychiatric wards and it isn't a pretty picture.

Answer 4

This is something that is strickly up to the parent. I have two daughters, and the older one is allowed to have a drink every now and then. It's better for them to know that it is okay to drink, if they do it at home (with the parents around). Otherwise, they will just go out and drink with friends, and possibly wind up getting themselves hurt, killed, or in trouble with the law. Teenagers will drink, either way. Question is, do you want them to do it at home, or while driving around with friends?

Answer 5

good question.....i grew up seeing alcohol in the house and watching adults drink when my mom and dad would have parties......i have even tasted alcohol before i was 21......i think because i grew up seeing it in the house i had no desire to drink it...i had no taste for it and as an adult....i really do not crave it......i have 3 brothers and one sister....we are all adults now...and we do not feel we have to drink to have a good time....but that is my upbringing.....and alcohol is a controlled substance...many people view it as drug....so they may well have their reasons for being offended by it......

Answer 6

I think you are going to get plenty of "opinion" on this one, and I believe they are almost all going to be the one I agree with. These people you grew up with are not "great people" but irresponsible, self-serving morons who are also child abusers and should have any and every underage child removed from their care.

It doesn't sound to me like any one of these "characters" has a lick of sense, education, self-respect or common decency, and I wonder if any of them even holds down a job. Or are they brewing white lightenin' back in the woods? I'm very sorry for you, and all kids who are "dragged up" by this kind of irresponsible jerks.

Answer 7

We've turned into a society of prudes. The kind of people you are talking about think anything they don't want their 6 year old to do, you shouldn't do either. They never get tired of trying to shove it down everyone else's throat.

Answer 8

beacuse not every1 is responsible when theyre drinking. people get liquor in them & change they do crazy things & alot of people do things drunk that they wouldnt normally do when theyre sober. i dont think children should be around it only because its not ok it could lead to alcoholism & many other things. but to each its own if u think its ok than fine i just wouldnt drink in front of my daughter.

Answer 9

As long as you live in a loving environment and are happy and looked after i wouldn't worry about other peoples opinion.

Answer 10

no drinking of booze should happen before 18..