my boyfriends best friend raped me?

Question

i am 14 and my boyfriend is 15 and his best friend raped me......and i dont know if i should tell my boyfriend. should i? my mom and dad died in a car crash about a year ago and ever since then i lived with my grandmother and i dont think she could handle it if i told her and he told me if i went to the cops he would ruin the rest of my life and never leave me alone and i know if i do report it and he goes to jail he would probly get out in a few years rite? and im scared wat should i do???? please help me

Answer 1

Report it to the cops, and when he goes to jail, tell your boyfriend so he won't try to beat him up and make things worse on himself. He is 15 and won't do **** to you if he gets out which is unlikely! Act like this, he will be sentenced in prison.

Answer 2

Find someone (an ADULT) you trust and let them know so that you are not alone in your decision making. You must report this to the police. If you don't you will allow this person to walk the streets and maybe commit this crime again. Do not tell you boyfriend because he is just as young as you are and will do something foolish. This guy cannot harm you if he is in jail. Also at 14 or 15 he is unlikely to have the ability to ruin the rest of a life. p.s. Talk to your grandmother.

Answer 3

Forget all those fears, report it and get him off the streets, He's a dirtbag and he needs to be in jail. He's using scare tactics to keep you from reporting this, Go to the cops, do not wait another minute, the longer you wait, the harder itll be to convict him. He will go away for a long time dear, and the other inmates will see that he doesnt do it again, he will think twice the next time. When you go to prison for anykind of sexual offense, whether it be against women or children, the inmates will square that away for you. I promise you, they will make it rough on him there, PUT HIM IN PRISON, get him gone now!! Youll be doing other women a favor. Once in jail he cant bother you and wont, when he gets out. Get him off the streets.

Answer 4

Being afraid is what they want. You can't let anyone have that much power over you. Rape is rape, whether he is your age or not. I understand that with your family situation it is especially rough on you, but you are still a baby and to have someone do something so vicious to you is not fair. I personally know how hard it is to say something. I know you might feel as if you did something wrong, but you didn't. You can't let him win. Here's the thing because rape is about control and the rapist rely on fear (keeping you afraid to keep you silent) and we let them win. We give them power over our minds and our future relationships. It is your job, Sweetie to say something. Young molestors and rapists grow up to be old rapists. It doesn't stop. We as victims, need to stand up and not be afraid of backlash and our own guilt. If you can stop this one "boy" by saying something than you might be able to protect another little girl. If you don't think you can do it for yourself, than do it for your nieces, nephews, or your own future daughters and/or sons (anyone can be a victim).
Say something. Find someone you can trust... a teacher, a counselor, an aunt... any adult friend or family member. It is no one your own age's business. Keep it as quiet as you can around kids, because they are mean, rude, and nasty.
But, don't be afraid because that's what he wants. It happened to me and I never said anything. Now 18 years later I have found out that he has done it again (probably more than I know of). And, I feel guilty... I should have said something. He is going to jail (20 to life) but had I said something I might have been able to protect more little girls. The silence will haunt you! Please tell someone.
You did nothing wrong. Take care, Sweetie!

Answer 5

If you do tell on him, it will be hard on you. Not because he will haunt you, but because you will have to place yourself in a protective network of friends all of the time. This would mean that you would have to spend more time with your grandmother or other adults as your safe network.

Given your situation now where your boyfriend's best friend raped you, I think you could be sexually active now. This means you'll have to change your network of friends. I would definitely report something like this. Nobody should do that to you and get away with it with a threat.

Answer 6

rape is a power control thing. Tell your boyfriend, if he leaves well then he probably set it up for his friend to do that or is just low in general. Tell the cops, but do know your grandmother will be involved seeing as she is your legal gardian, and then tell your grandmother. This guy will be a registered sex offender and life as he knows it will be very hard for him for the rest of his life. And take a martial arts class or boxing class or something, it will give you self confidence knowing your learning how to defend yourself.

Answer 7

You need help You must tell your grandmother and then go to the police. If this person learns that they can control your behaviou with threats you will be under their power. Forget those threats they are just to scare you into keeping silent. You need to go tell some adult that you trust so that you can get all the help you need.

Answer 8

how old is that guy who raped you??
heck, if i were you, i would go tell the police. who knows what he's up to??? if he's on the loose, he might go out and rape some innocent kid again..

dont let him threaten u. it just makes him think that's he's got power over you... dont give hiim the license to hurt u. and besides, if you go tell the cops, ul get protection..

at least u get to give urself justice and teach him a very hard lesson..

honey ur 14.. and he did some nasty stain in ur life, dont let him get away with it..

Answer 9

If you allow him to get away with this he may hurt you again and he definately will hurt others. The way the rapist get away with this is through intimidation and your fear. I think you need to tell your grandmother and the authorities. dont be fearful nor ashamed and the telling will get you help you need right now. It is him not you. Get Help Now!!

Answer 10

you cant let him win. he wants u to be scarred to tell but dont be. no one deserves to get away with that no matter who it is. tell your grandma or anotheradult like a guidance counselor tohelp u through this.if u dont do somethin now, this can happen to someone else or u may even regret no putting him away when u could. the longer u wait the harder itll b. good luck