She recently broke up with me about 3 weeks ago after 2years. On Saturday night she rang me up about 2am in morning as she was afraid of being home alone so I went around a comforted her, (had sex). Sunday night I went around her house and watched TV for about 1 1/2hrs with her and she invited me over for dinner tonight. Well anyway about 1hr before I was due to go over she TXTed me saying" she is not cooking tonight and does not want to see me". I had already brought some chocolates for her and hired a movie for us to watch so I drove over there and she didn't answer door only yelling for me to go away, I left chocolates at door and yes after 1hr she did grab them (I drove back past for a check).
Background info- She has bi-polar.
What do I do, I really love her!!(probably more than I ever have!!).
2007-07-23 00:28:22 · 19 answers · asked by myself 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No she hasn't got anyone else at her place- I could tell she was alone.
She is still on her medication, she has started a new job a few months ago that she is finding hard to cope with, she had worked with her father for 10 or so years before he retired.
2007-07-23 00:44:13 · update #1
Its got to stage I have become obsessed with her, I cannot move on that easily as unlike her I haven't a close network of true friends. She has alot of true friends through her tennis and old school friends she has kept in touch with for 20 years since finishing school. She hates it when I drink which I have practically stopped of late and I have told her this. I have tried so hard to prove to her that want to change. I am 32 she is almost 38. She has always wanted marriage which I wasn't fond of mainly cause I was engaged for 7 years before her and that ended in tears for me as well. I did tell her I am ready for marriage and maybe children as I am getting too old to be single (plus hair is thinning).
2007-07-23 01:05:08 · update #2
Here is a question I asked when she left so you can get a true background: http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AunvYi9zjVIAbJeD5aJyW0fh5gt.?qid=20070701024110AAzAIWy
2007-07-23 01:13:56 · update #3
Leave her.She could be having you and someone else probably comparing the two of you.Wen she told you she didnt want you to come to her place then she had the other man.
Why put up your self for comparison!!!not good idea.
2007-07-23 00:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by uj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a hiway truck driver.
i dont know if this will help, ut i have been in same situation, only i was married with the girl of my dreams, \\
its been a year and a half since she left.
i guess that best thing i can advise, is find yourself a hobby, something you really like to do.
join a bowling league, a dart league, anything that will get you out, and around other people.
or you will end up like me.
im 45 and other then my ex, and stepchildren, whom i still love very much,
my ex ands i have just recently started to talk again, but i had to give her the time .
dont force the issue. let her be. if she is bi polar then you will have to be very patient.
if she asks you over , then tell her that you would love to spend time,but you think it better if you meet somewhere for coffe or dinner.
then GO HOME ALONE>
dont play the "im lonely without yoou" card.
2007-07-30 06:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by stryder_dnc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from a woman like this, you are headed for trouble again. Did you learn anything from your other relatonships - you need to find someone that is going to love you back unconditionally. That is what we ALL need in life is stability, not to wonder what is going to happen at the end of the day, or hour or minute.
2007-07-30 17:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 stop drinking its affecting your choices in women and clouding your judgement #2 its unfortunate that she is not emotionally sound and she is lucky to have someone ready to take on that emotional load but are you sure you want to take it on? Its a heavy load one that I for one would not be so happy to carry .Children? These things are hereditary are you sure you could deal with a woman like this and posible children with this disease at the same time THINK ABOUT IT if you want to stop drinking this is not the situation you would want to get into it would be trying to say the least on your intentions to stay sober you will always have problems like this if you decide to keep pursuing this relationship She will drive you crazy RUN!!!!
2007-07-30 05:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is playing you, just let her remain your ex (there is a reason why you broke up) that would be best for both of you, the sex after a relationship part might be a little much for both of you to handle, plus you say she is bi-polar - get out now. God Bless.
2007-07-23 00:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow,that is not fair,i know someone who is bi-polar,not easy,she is happy one day sad the next,there is no doubt in my mind that she loves you,she is keeping you at distance,she has not learned how to cope with,why does he want me,she feels like your to good for her,i say give her a couple of days,i am sure she will call you,then what you need to do is be firm,say it i am not coming over there so you can stomp on my heart,i have supported you in all your decisions,either you want me in your life or not,you have to be firm with a person who is bi-polar,take my word on this one,she needs to know that you love her
2007-07-30 22:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i hate to tell you this. i have two sons that were involved with bipolars and its horrible. yes, it sup and downs and it is because they are n't taking meds. I know that one son i smarried for about 5 years and its horrible but he loves her are you ready for all this mess you entire life? if you can stand this unstablity then go for it. but it wont' get better you can try and go to the doctor with her and help her with meds but i assure you they are smart and stop them an the stuff starts. its bad. they yell scream and fight and then next day all bets are off its weird but they have to be like this. if they are off meds its even worse and they feel they are better. i dont' know what you want. you say you love her and ca't be without her well that is what your life will be are you ready for this?
2007-07-30 09:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's playing games with you (and possibly someone else too) because she knows that you still care about her. It's time to move on with your life. You will find someone even better and then she'll look back and wish she was still in the picture.
2007-07-29 06:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by jordan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a sweet guy, I think you should stay with her because it is obvious that she still loves you. There might be someone else involved and she is just confused on what to do. Show her you feelings more.I hope it works out.
2007-07-23 00:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by Erica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her time to get over this, then tell her u understand just be there for her.then as her friend and love make sure she takes her meds on a daily.call her up if u can't be there and ask her if she's done so.seh will know that u care and sometimes thats all it takes:)keep on her she'll love u for it
2007-07-30 16:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by legen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋