Im so in Love with this guy ive been with him for 12 months on and off he broke up with me 4 times in the past and im giving him one last chance he gfot all angry at me on saturday night and belted me cause he thought i was a sleaze and a liar but im so in love with him and cant leave him im confused should i dump him and try to move on even though it will hurt me like hell or should i stay and try and make things work i need advice bad
2007-07-23 00:18:55 · 19 answers · asked by skye l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Would you belt someone you loved?
2007-07-23 00:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be so in love with a bf who raises his hands to you, gets angry with you and calls you a sleaze and a liar and breaks up with you 4 times in 12 months?!?!
So, what about this sleazy numb skull do you love? You're probably in love with love. The next guy who you meet hopefully won't treat you so badly. How old are you? Because you sound young and naive about "men". This guy most likely is lying to you and is the sleaze and that's why he said you were those things. I'm wondering, how long do the break-ups last? Is he seeing other women during those break-ups? It seems that way and his guilt is getting to him.
I've been down this road when I was young, so I know what you're going through right now. You believe that you won't find anyone else and you'll have to be alone. But sweetie, with this guy, you're already alone and doing badly. You can do badly all by yourself. You don't need him for that. But seriously, I want you to do yourself a favor and leave this guy FAST!! Before you really feel sorry. You wouldn't want a baby to enter into this situation, do you? Because he's the type who will leave you real fast if that ever happened.
What is there to work out? It's just a declining and useless affair. It takes 2 to work things out and believe me, he doesn't want to work anything out with you.
On a Saturday night, you're supposed to be going out on a romantic date with him and not getting beat up for being a sleazy liar!!!!!!! I feel for you, my dear. And anytime you need help or advice in the future, feel free to e-mail me. I'm sorry if I'm being so blunt and straightforward, but I honestly call it the way I see it.
2007-07-23 00:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,no body deserves to get hit by their bf,even for a good reason.Get out the relationship NOW otherwise you won't be able to later on.Go beofre the hitting becomes a ritual and his threats will be so scary that you'll stay with him too long.
There are PLENTY of men out there who are just waiting to find a girl to love and treat like a princess.
If someone hits you,it means that he is not well.Only people with,sorry to put this abrumptly,mental problems would hit someone they are fond of.
Its always hard to leave someone you love,but stay longer and you will hate him without being able to get out!
Ps:I'll add you as a contact,I want to know how you get on...
xxxx
2007-07-23 00:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Now 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I went through a similar thig. I loved him sooo much and kept dumping him and getting back with him for 2 whole years when he was beeing awful to me. To tell you the truth don't waist your time in a relationship where you are beeing treated in a way you don't wish to be treated.
I thought my life was over when I lost him...turned out though I found someone so caring and loveley I can't believe I waisted all that time on the guy.
I personally think you should leave him unless he is ready to really get his act together, otherwise you will simply end up beeing tossed around in confusion. Endi it now instead of waiting for it to get either worse or ending up more heartbroken. Also you can expect it to seriously affect you later in life if you don't end it.
2007-07-23 00:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by darkprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it, you answered your own question, just by asking this. If you two have broken up 4, count 'em, 4 times in 12 months, well you figure it out. And for you to stay there and take that abuse, you need to get your priorities straight. Personally, if you stay there with him, and take this abuse, (love or not) then you deserve what you get. Dont be stupid, and hang with that guy, if he beats you once itll happen again and again and again, and get worse with every "belt", eventually ending up with a serious hurting for you maybe even death. (If he does this to you and maybe you marry him, what do you think he will do to your kids). That sounds cold but thats the truth, there are too many women that did the same as you and wound up dead or missing, mostly dead. think about it, give him up, let it go and move on, this will be nothing but misery for you, like I said, if you stay, you deserve it. Use your head girl, and GET OUT NOW!!! He is no kind of man if he has to smack you around, or put his hands on you in that manner. Whether its just one hit or more, he has no need or reason to hit you or anywoman. Get with it and get gone NOW!!
2007-07-23 00:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by tennman012000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ummmm I would leave. If he hits you he cannot love you. There is NO excuse for violence. If you've broken up 4 times in 12 months he doesn't deserve another chance. Cut your losses. Yes it will hurt for a while but I'm sure there is someone soooooooooo much better for you who wont hit you. Get advice from a counsellor if you need but get away from this creep now.
2007-07-23 00:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by jocatgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship NOW, otherwise it will start a trend in your life of accepting guys who treat you as less than who you were meant to be. You deserve to be treated like a lady, not like some punching bag. And if he has started, he won't stop, it will only get worse. Get out, now. You will find someone better for you. You may be in love with him now, but those are feelings. True love comes after being together for years, and committing yourself to serve the other person and place their needs above your own. You will fall in love with someone else who will treat you much better
2007-07-23 00:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you say you love someone that hits you??? He's not worth the love you say you have for him. He's a controller! You deserve more than that. No one & I mean NO ONE deserves to be hit for any reason what so ever!! Believe me, once the hitting begins it will only get worse from there. Get away from this guy as fast as you can. It might hurt but not as much as he will eventually hurt you!!! No one ever died from a broken heart but they have from violence!
2007-07-23 02:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by totally24fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
i think you should let go of your bf...you are always compromising and he is always ditching you so better let him go. he will always be like that no matter how hard you try to make things work.it will always be the same.
i have been down this road and i can tell you that it gets worse with time.
take my advice. sure it will hurt like hell but not as much as it will when you stay with him. it will take time, i can assure you.
but then one day you will meet people who will make you laugh again, will make you feel loved, and finally little pieces of soul will come back.
i hope that u will take my advice.
see ya soon.
2007-07-23 01:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Curby P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on girly u cant just break up with someone 4 times in 12 months.just leave him alone i know it wil hurt u because u luv the guy very much.no matter how long its gonna take u to heal u'll get over it one away or the other and ull find someone who loves u.
2007-07-23 01:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by sites 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it is he's like a drug. You're probably addicted to him but he's no good for you. The earlier you leave him the better, otherwise it'll get worse. You've given him 4 chances already... enough is enough!!
2007-07-23 00:25:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋