My boyfriend is 10 years older than me - and has his own 3 bedroom house which he has lived in for a long time. We're discussing moving in together and I'm slightly worried it would not be a good idea to move into his as he's so established there it would never feel like my house. I did suggest we got somewhere new together and he seemed reluctant. We've been together over 3 years, and I'm sick off living out of my handbag all the time, as I seem to spend all of my time round his - I do own my own 1 bedroom flat, which is about 20 mins away, but he seldom stays at mine. I worry if I make him move out of his house and somewhere new he would not be happy and be resentful of it, but on the over hand I feel moving into his house may be a mistake as he is so used to living there alone and it's very much his bachelor pad. Not sure what the best step forward is....
2007-07-22 20:24:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No use worrying, keeping your thoughts to yourself won't help you both.
Invite him out for a cup of tea and talk things out, things should go much smoother.
2007-07-22 20:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
living together is a huge step. ask yourself two important questions.
1. have you lived with someone before?
2. has he lived with someone before?
lovers are the best litmus tests, but roommates are better data than nothing in terms of information. my key point is do you both understand what you are getting yourselves into?
examples? none to very little free space. when you want alone time, you just have to go back to your flat. personal comfort, there are things i am sure most people do not want anyone else to see. cleaning/chores. two clean people do not mean they both want a house clean the same way. vice versa, two filthy people may hate the other person's mess, but ignore their own! to some, living in a home is a way of life...to others, living in a home is a place to sleep and store your things. every nuance will be magnified. things slowly build. you hear about how roommates explode on each other? imagine if your roommate could 'dodge' the issues by giving you nice kisses or guilty pouting (as in things roommates who are not lovers cannot get away with). temporary fixes to issues that will eventually blow up when someone has a bad day.
i totally understand when your write you are tired of living out of a handbag...my former girlfriends had the same complaints. i hope this sets your train of thought into motion! good luck.
2007-07-22 20:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by pete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I've been a real estate agent for 15 years. The liability for you is too great. You don't want the buyer in the house until after it closes. Speaking stricty legally the buyer shouldn't get the keys until the lawyer has recorded the title at city hall. They usually get the keys at the closing, but if you waanted to be a stickler for the law you wouldn't turn over the eys until after recording.
2016-05-20 23:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by elenore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's taken over 3 years to get sick of it?? Wow !!
2007-07-22 20:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you not to shift to his place...
2007-07-22 21:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by S A Y E D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would . my opion?
2007-07-22 20:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋