The first time I ever got drunk was also the first time for my girlfriend, who wasn't even my girlfriend at the time. I got drunk enough to kiss her and suddenly we had become each other's first partners. Since then we've both drank apart and together. But recently I became so drunk that I broke down emotionally and I decided to quit. I told her I wouldn't get drunk again, but she continues to exclaim about how great it is, as though she absolutely loves it, and it makes me wonder whether or not she might try something worse. If she does then it would be without me and I'm not very comfortable with that because what drew me to her was that she was so innocent, we both were.
Is it my place as a her boyfriend to suggest she do no more than I would?
2007-07-22 17:56:55 · 4 answers · asked by Dippy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd like to add that I fear she could try drugs or other things. I think I can kind of tell what she thinks and how she feels about her loss of innocence because I felt just as eager to lose my innocence not very long ago. I felt like doing all the drugs I could, smoking, and other things just to have had the opportunity. I've since had a change of heart, but can tell she still feels as I once had. I don't mind her drinking. I just hope it doesn't lead her somewhere else.
2007-07-22 18:21:39 · update #1
nope, if you tell her not to drink, it will only make her angry. Just explain to her why YOU don't want to drink anymore, and hopefully she will think those are good reasons and think about applying them to herself as well.
2007-07-22 18:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by pablosgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't project your old thoughts onto her. She really might be satisfied with drinking. If she shows concrete signs of wanting to explore other things, then talk to her about your worries for her safety, about not feeling like you have enough in common any more: whatever's worrying you most and that you think will be most persuasive.
Try not to get too hung up on her innocence, though. Neither of you are the same people you were when you started dating, and you're going to continue to grow and experience new things. If you can't evolve with each other, then the relationship is doomed no matter how you two agree to spend your free time.
2007-07-24 08:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm,
i can see where u are coming from...
1stly, i dont like getting drunk, since i dont like the feeling after drinking,
my last gf loves to get hangover, but after a while, i talked with her, and since then, she only have casual drink, not to get drunk
2007-07-22 18:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by Tai Chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest wit h her and see how she'll take it that is the only way to be with girlfriend. i hope it works and then if she does get date raped. (well it would be bad) tell her about all that stuff.
2007-07-26 16:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋