Let me Clarify:
I mean, I KNOW I'm not lesbian... guys are sexy and i luv hugging them and feeling the firmness of there bodies against my soft and slender one...their strength, the way they can lift things that I never could...the way they look deep into my eyes with a grin on their faces...how they laugh at things that I find disgusting...I LUV it ALL
Here's the thing: Everytime I start to get close to a guy (semi-romanitcally) somehow I end up hating him...DESPISING HIM...it's like a deep-rooted feeling that i can't really help. We always end up just being friends and they always ask me if I offended them somehow, i tell them no but they know that the old feelings aren't there nemore
Mind you, I'm 19, I've never had a boyfriend and have never been kissed (*sigh*) or anything. I just don't know why this alwys happens? HELP!
2007-07-22 17:26:53 · 12 answers · asked by mrshjackman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it could be that you just have not found the right one for you
there nothing wrong with how you feel, when that right person
come into your life, i sure that you will change your attitue
about him. you 19 and you still in your prime of your life
so dont let it worry you so much.but if you feel this is
a problem may you need to talk to someone about how
you feel. good luck to you.
2007-07-22 17:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have deep rooted problems which prevents you from getting close to someone. I think you assume you are going to get hurt so you act up defensively. That is strike first before they hurt you. The thing is that that is just life. You take a chance with a person and hope for the best. Sometimes it works great. Other times it doesn't work. Even some times we get hurt. If you never give it a chance you will never know. Also, I think everybody have gone through all 3 scenarios.
2007-07-22 17:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg u sound just like me. I'm 17 and I've never been kissed or had a bf. I'm not a les either. But sometimes I think it would be easier to explain my situation. I have guy friends who I love. I think you might be like me, we have high expectations. I think you find a guy that u like then u hate him. He is nothing u wanted him to be. I think u just have to accept people for who they are. I really dont think there is such a thing as a soulmate. some guys just dont understand. I think the only solution is to try to lower your standards and get to know someone as a friend before moving on romantically. I think there are somethings u will accept as a friend but not from a bf.
2007-07-22 17:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by andres_54838 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was there any abuse, mentally or physically in your house when you were a small child that could cause you to be regressing feelings and involuntarily bringing them to surface when you get to a certain point in your relationships? It sounds all mentally to me and a phsycatrist could probably get to the root of the problem quickly enough. God Bless
2007-07-22 17:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by Shea C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you push them away because perhaps you are afraid of allowing yourself to share happiness with them. You need to try to allow them to kiss you. You deserve to feel loved and respected as a woman. Don't keep pushing away, and try to feel the love they want to share with you.
You've built up this barrier to Despise them when they start to get close. You need to start knocking that barrier down, slowly. Brick by Brick.
So, allow yourself to love and be loved.
2007-07-22 17:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by momof3anglz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel u don't want 2 get yo heart breaking so u break there's before they get 2 yours lot someone love u n if your heart get breaking move on keep living, that's life mine u I'm 17 years old 2 in I"m n love because i lot someone love me
2007-07-22 17:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by jay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe because deep down inside your deepest fear is allowing yourself to open up and putting your trust in someone else.
2007-07-22 17:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not ready for a relationship thats all nothing wrong your just not ready.... dont listen to people who are rude just be yourself and some day it will happen maybe your smart cuz most men suck anyway once in awhile you will find one that dont so dont all you men take my comment personal and if you do then you suck lol... take it slow sweetie save yourself for someone who is worth it
2007-07-22 17:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should dating a girl, you never know till you try. You also my have had too much Hater Aide. Hater!
2007-07-22 17:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
because we are generally pieces of crap who think about one thing...but we have our moments
2007-07-22 17:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by loofa36 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋