Yeras before it was unheard of to get a divorse. Now people get married and then get divorced faster then they breath! Who is at blame? Are lots of men afraind of commentment? Are women happy getting being with friend? Why don't people like who they get married to anymore? It just doesn't mnake sense! My parents have been married for almost 25 years and they have fought like friggin hell! Get they never got divorced. Are poeple just impatient and not giving their partner a chance? This is scary because what about people loike me and my friend who want to get married, dont want to get divorced, want to find the man of our dreams? Are their still people who enjoy the companionship of another person instead of they single life? what so fun about the single life anyways?
2007-07-22 17:04:06 · 14 answers · asked by ~*~<3~*~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Morals aren't the issue here.
Reality and poor judgment is the main issue. Too many people believe that someone will change for them, or they can make them change. Not gonna happen.
Money is a leading cause of marital failure. The lack of money will cause so much stress, that the man and woman can see little else in the relationship. They come home everyday to the same things that cause the stress...and fight about everything...but their pitiful financial skills.
Money...unrealistic expectations of each other...no financial skills, and the need for STUFF.
Learning to live on a budget...loving your significate other REGARDLESS of their shortcomings, and planning for a future "together" are key elements of a succesful marriage.
Marriages that rely heavily on one partner to implement these core keys, rarely last.
2007-07-22 17:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
To begin with, you are wrong to an extent. Divorce has been around as long as marriage has been. On to your question..Nobody here is going to be able to give you the exact reasons as to why there are so many divorces. Assumptions are all that you will get and mine is no different. My thought on the subject is that people today aren't giving the correct amount of time to get to know the person well enough before actually getting married. Take the younger people for instance, usually out of high school, the first thing on a persons mind is marriage. I assume allot of these people find it an easy way to get out of the house. Lust being confused with love plays a certain role in it as well I think. Then once the lust dies, they want out. I don't suspect that we will ever know the real reason behind so many divorces unless it's a fad that at some time may slow down as everything else does.
2007-07-22 17:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same question that I was asking until i got myself into divorce sitution. My future ex husband left me without sayin' any words and I was very ill. The last time I heard from him was Sept 30, 2006.. (that was 36 days). Like everyone always told me that it happens for a reason. :( Maybe the marriage ain't happy like it was back old days or something didn't what they want out of the marriage I guess. For me... I did enjoy companionship a lot until I got married and everything went totally not right. Now I am thinking about giving a dating another shot since it been almost a year since I haven't been dating for a year.. and my good friend just asked me if I would be interesting dating him. So I thought I would put down my experince and inthought here.
2007-07-22 17:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Deaf Cowgirl 27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what little I know of it, the move is to allow civil marriage between gay people. Whether or not the ceremony takes place in a church is up to the church authorities and the minister. The question is: why do you think same sex marriage shows contempt for Christianity? Because homosexuality is forbidden in the Old Testament? Well, so is eating pork and wearing clothes made of mixed fibres; most Christians have no problem with someone eating a bacon sandwich while wearing a poly-cotton shirt. Because marriage is for creating children? In that case, why do the churches marry post-menopausal women, infertile couples and couples who have no intention of having children? And why is gay Christians wanting to get married more anti-Christianity than, say, believing that Mohammed is the prophet of God? If you are calling for gay marriage to be disallowed on the basis that it is anti-Christian then logically you should also be calling for the outlawing of every other religion. Let's just face the facts, shall we? You don't like the idea of gay marriage because you don't like the thought of what they do in bed. I can't say it does anything for me either, but what consenting adults do in the privacy of their own homes is none of my business. Maybe what we should change in human society is that people don't try to control the behaviour of others because they think their own personal deity would disapprove of it.
2016-05-20 22:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by antionette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Years before it was NOT unheard of to get a DIVORCE (try spell check once in awhile huh?) for one thing there are billions more people on the planet than there were 50 years ago but people WERE divorcing. People are finding out that they don't have to put up with being mistreated in marriage, they don't have to put up with mental/emotional/verbal/physical abuse. That's why I diovrced and I have no intentions of ever marrying again. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy the companionship of another person, I just don't want the total involvment. I'm not one to be married, I prefer being single and not having to answer to anyone. You want to be married go be married.
2007-07-22 20:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it. My late grandmother told me that love, patience and common sense are what make a long lasting marriage. Society is based on "good looks" and "sex". I think people are just confused. I moved to Ga with my parents from Pa. 10 yrs. ago. They are now divorced.....things aren't the same as they use to be. You just have to find the right person that believes in the same things you do....otherwise it's just society playing the game. I hate it just as much as you seem to. There is much more to life than meets the eye.
2007-07-22 18:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Pennstate98 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we live in a disposable society.
if it doesn't work get rid of it.
why work at something if you can just toss it aside and start over.
my parents were married 30yrs and no matter how crappy it was they stayed together.
now a days ppl just say aw heck we fought tonight - i want a divorce and i'll just go find another relationship
nobody tries anymore
same with kids- oh my kid acts up - i'll either medicate them in to a veg state or just give them up and put them in the foster system.
ppl don't understand the life long commitment they make when they say i do and all that goes along
it's i do but now
when i say i do it's i do and that's final lol
2007-07-22 17:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Married 31 yrs here, and it has not all been a bed of roses...... but even during the rough times I refused to give up, on the marriage , on him or on me...... I believed it was worth fighting for, and I won !!!!! Today we are a throw away society of ppl...... we throw away children, spouses, parents, pets, countries, etc....... we don't want it, we throw it away...... why ????? Because we stand around and watch it happen and don't speak up for fear of getting sued, or hit, slapped, and even killed...... Ppl have lost that one thing that humans need to survive, LOVE....... Very few ppl these days know just what real love is all about..... I get frustrated and even angry at times, but geeeeee, so what what if he does not wash the dishes ?? He pays the bills, brings me flowers, says he loves me, mows the yard, washes the dogs, etc...... and if at times I feel ignored or unappreciated ?? I speak up and tell him so...... we talk , he tries a little harder....... but the LOVE is always there to cushion the knocks....... Commitment ??? Do ppl know the meaning of the word ?? *sigh*....... God bless
2007-07-22 17:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What has changed in our society? What about taking God out of our schools? What about all the emphasis on political correctness? What about the ACLU? What about the media that avoids discussing what has happened to our family values and why? The problem is we live in a me first society and the media, including merchant advertising makes money from this type of society so they want to keep it heading in this direction.
2007-07-22 17:12:55 · answer #9 · answered by j c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't value the sanctity of marriage. Instead of realizing that they have committed to their partner for life, they view it as something they can take or leave, depending on how they feel. Marriage wasn't ever easy, I think they we have simply become a society who thrives on what is easy and makes us the happiest, and working on our marriages doesn't usually fit into that
2007-07-22 17:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by Megan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋