We have been together 5 yrs but only married for 4 months. I had 4 kids when we met and we have since then had 2 more together. Our baby is 4 mo old. We have never been alone and this week he and I went away for 3 days and 2 nights by ourselves and all he did was read and act like I wasnt there. No romance and yes there was some sex but it was like I never left the house....What gives? Am I crazy for thinking that something is wrong?
2007-07-22 15:22:58 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you're not crazy, but if you're not asking him, no one else can answer. Anything's possible - you just had a baby 4 months ago. You both have undoubtedly been heavily occupied with baby matters til the day you went away. Maybe he's just enjoying the peace. You are a mother of 6 - maybe he's feeling put out by a lack of attention previously. Did he have any say in planning the get-away? If he acted like you weren't there, and you say it's like you never left the house, is this how it is at home? You can't expect miracles from a 3-day vacation if you're not communicating. Get help if need be. there's no shame in it.
2007-07-22 15:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by Julie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys haven't had any time alone. He didn't know what to do - so he retreated. Maybe you can suggest you guys have a "date night" and get to know each other without the kids around.
If money is a issue - your date night could consist of walks together in the evening - a picnic in the park (date day).
2007-07-22 15:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey..consider yourself fortunate that you had some intimacy. And you probably had some relaxation as well. I think it's the way men are. Most are not the romantics we want them to be. I went away with my husband a couple of months ago and he spent 99 percent of the time on his laptop in the room! I have accepted that men do what they want for the most part, and doesn't mean they don't love us. They just want life THEIR way.
2007-07-22 15:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by lsah1852 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Six kids.....I'm guessing it was the first time in 5 YEARS he had a chance to read in peace!
I'm a reader, and it would have taken precedence, when there's no peace at home.
You should probably tell him you were hurt, though.
And I hope the hell you are done making babies, now---the world is already near it's limit as is!
2007-07-22 15:31:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both have probably gotten into such a routine that you both don't know how to be affection like that anymore. One of you has to initiate it first and come on to the other strongly. Since you have noticed it first then you should initate it first. Good luck.
2007-07-22 16:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yall are in a rut.....been doing the same routine for years, and even when you finally get alone together....it is the very same routine.....will take some work on your part to lead the way to fun and foreplay.
2007-07-22 15:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds bored. Seek counseling together. 6 kids makes for a busy marriage.
2007-07-22 16:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by Tex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he just took advantage of the time away it's INSANE hard to care for all those kids all the time he was just chilling he needs Private time to ya know, if he spent the vacation just caring and loving on you really that was no break 4 him then. everyone needs ME TIME with all those kids i bet he gets NONE of that
2007-07-22 15:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only have two children but when my partner acted this way he was having an affair. I'm sorry to say but be aware at all times. Check his pockets and always know an check where he is.
2007-07-22 15:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he acted accordinly to what he knows. You said that you two never have free time. Well, to him free time means something different that your idea of free time. It is very possible that it just simply did not crossed his mind to behave that way simply because he is not used to it.
2007-07-22 15:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋