She copies me on EVERYTHING!! I like a show-she likes it- i like a new band-she likes it. I mean-everything. Just recently i dyed my bangs red. And she did tooo. I told her lies about stuff i didn't like-to see if she would start to like them-and she did. I had said about a week ago that i wanted to dye my hair black. I didn't want her to copy that b/c i forgot about the plan i made-(don't tell her anything)-and i suggested that she dye her hair blonde-or her bangs blonde. She asked her mom-and she said no.
So today-she called me and told me that she was dying her hair black! that burnt me uppp.
grr. My mom wont let me-but...it still makes me mad that she copies me on everything i do(or want to do)
I tried talking to her..but she still does it.
Any tips?
2007-07-22 15:16:47 · 8 answers · asked by I ♥ hugs. :) 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had two friends in particular that did this to me growing up. One was my best friend during elementary and middle school and the other was a good friend during college, so it doesn't necessarily get better with age. It's just something you have to deal with. I know it gets old and frustrating and you sometimes find yourself caught up in the game. The best thing to do is just realize it's a compliment that she is copying you as she obviously holds you are someone worth imitating. Just try not to get caught up in it too!
Good luck!
2007-07-22 15:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by SA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that must be annoying for her to keep doing this so what Im gonna say is that u should tell her that Ur gonna either stop telling her things Ur gonna do or Ur gonna stop being her friend if she doesn't stop coping off u because it's not only annoying but it's also spooky for her to copy everything u do.
It makes u mad and u don't like being mad at her but it's hard not to be mad when she keeps coping u. Ask her why can't her find her own style? If she doesn't stop after talking with her again then tell her Ur not gonna hangout with her anymore because U have had enough.
Good Luck
2007-07-22 22:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had friends like this & have seen other friendships that are very similar. It sounds like your friend may be very competitive, maybe somewhat jealous and/or insecure.
Talking this over with your friend didn't help, & it didn't with my friends either. What I eventually ended up doing is telling them that I wanted things that I *no way in the world* wanted (sometimes these things bordered on the absurd) & got secret entertainment out of watching them go after things they thought I wanted. Yeah it sounds mean, but when I tried to bring up the subject both these friends denied they were doing this & 1 even said I was imagining things. Oh, I also stopped discussing things that I *really* wanted with them.
One friend in particular had gone out of her way, several times, to do or buy something that I'd mentioned wanting, especially if she knew I couldn't afford to do it myself. Eventually (for reasons beyond this) I realized she wasn't a friend & moved on. The other friend eventually outgrew it.
2007-07-22 22:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by Catkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are probably the only one she looks up 2 my best friend has had this happen to her and she didnt say anything until it hurt her. so get her interested in other things. my guess is she has no one to look up 2 but u thats how my friends copy cat was like. thats what ciera says
2007-07-22 22:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by ciera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow girl my friend is kind of like that too.She wears the same kind of shirt i do on occasions and more,but anyways.....just sit with her and tell her straight that u dotn like her coyping u all the time,Its annoying and its breakign ya'lls friendship.Hope everthing works out fine.Good Luck!!!!
2007-07-22 22:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by BlossomMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have like got soooo much in common with me!!! my BFF copies everything i do and when i get mad at her or tell her to stop it just ticks her off! omg i hate it!!!! people tell me that you copy someone when your too stupid to think of your own idea and its true but it still bugs me knowing my friends soo stupid.
2007-07-22 22:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think she's insecure so she is imitating you why not try telling her you like her style like I love you hair etc. it will probably help to boost up her confidence
2007-07-22 22:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by roygbiv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
START COPYING HER! she will definetly get annoyed. and when she is explain to her why you're doing it. i hope she gets the message
2007-07-22 22:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋