I hacked into my fiancee's account & found evidence of his cheating.. HELP!!?

Question

I hacked into my fiancee's account and found evidence that he was cheating on me (he was having some steamy conversations with two of my friends..). He decided he won't sue me for criminal offences but he has told me to delete the emails that I saved because what I did was equivalent to stealing.

However, I feel differently because they are evidence that he cheated on me and lied to me about various matters. Shouldn't I keep these emails so if anything happens, I can use them as evidence? Is it illegal to do so?

PLEASE HELP!! SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY!!!!

Answer 1

Evidence of what? You're not married, he is just the fiancee and that arrangement can be changed very easily. I recommend you leave the emails, and get as far away from him as you can. It will only get worse.

Answer 2

I am assuming you are talking about an Internet account and not some bank records somewhere ... that would be serious bad trouble. FBI, Marshals, Secret Service type trouble.

Anyhow on the assumption that it was just an email account, figuring out the password of your fiancee' probably isn't like cracking the DaVinci Code, I mean people are generally predictable once you know then for a while.

As far as him "Prosecuting you", he's reaching there as well, especially if he ever sent or received any e traffic from your computer.

Now as far as "keeping the emails for evidence"; evidence of what, you aren't married, so there are no community property considerations and there's no need for divorce proceedings.

Unless there is a minor child involved that you two had together, there is no basis for legal action. If you aren't married and you're afraid he'll seek custody of your minor child, that's a hard case to prove for a paternal plaintiff. He essentially has to prove you are an unfit mother and a hazard to the health well-being and safety of the child, while proving that the child would have better conditions with him.

Call him a lying philanderer and go on with your life!

Answer 3

Use them as evidence of what? You can’t sue a boyfriend for cheating on you. He’s done nothing illegal (being an unfaithful jerk is not illegal). But you, on the other hand, have. Even if the computer belongs to both of you, that does not give you any legal right to ‘hack’ into his account

Delete them. Then either lose him and move on (that’s what I’d do), or forgive and forget.

Even if you were married, saving the emails would likely serve no purpose. But since you aren’t married, I won’t bother going into the whys.

Answer 4

I'm no lawyer, but it wouldn't surprise me in the least to find out that it was illegal as well.

So yes, you can get into a lot of trouble with your boyfriend, you can get booted from the service you hacked into, and in the worst case scenario I'm guessing you could even face legal action.

Can the service track you down? Quite possibly. All banks, all E-Mail companies (Yahoo and etc) and other on-line services are, as you might expect, reluctant to do it, but it's possible they can. I would expect it to require a court order, but when served with one, these services would be required to provide whatever records were available.

"No matter what that other person did, or what you think they did, hacking into someone else's account is wrong."Here's a hypothetical scenario: you hack into your boyfriends email account, and he finds out about it. He then gets the police involved who then charge you with harassment. As part of the court proceedings, the records of the email provider are subpoenaed, and show that his account was accessed from some IP address. That IP address is tracked down to an ISP - your ISP. The records of that ISP are then also subpoenaed by the court, and they find that that IP address at that time lead to your home.

Each step there is possible. Likely? Perhaps not, but still possible. It all depends on the laws, the courts and the service providers you're dealing with.

Online harassment is definitely getting more attention from the courts, and in my opinion what you've done falls squarely into that category.

Answer 5

well, hacking is illegal as we all know.. the word stands up for itself..

there's a disadvantage and advantages of it.. right?

u may be sued also for hacking..
and in doing so you've found out that ur fiancee is cheating on you.. i think its better to confront him face to face.. or if not, u can just walk away and ignore it.. why im telling this is, what if he finds out? what would you do? u can still win in the cheating case but not the hacking.. u should think about it..

Answer 6

I don't know if that is stealing... I think he's embarrassed and doesn't want anyone to know what he did. Make full copies (make sure all the information is on there) if anything, say you don't know how you got them...can he prove you did it? People hack names and steal identities online all the time. Keep the copies somewhere safe. Also talk to your friends about this. And.. don't hang out with this guy anymore, he wants to play the field while he has a 'sure thing' at home.

Answer 7

No chance that items obtained illegally will ever see light of day in any court of law. ( Unless of course you are a member of the Bush administration, which gives you a get out of jail free card.)

Why by the way is he still your fiancee if you are so trusting of him that you hacked into his email account?

Answer 8

since you are not married, and you found out he is cheating, leave now. I think he will be happy if you give him the emails, then he won't be upset about you hacking into his system. Lucky you found out before you married him.

Answer 9

You are playing with fire here.

Your fiance's offense was not criminal.
Yours was.

You need to find yourself a different fiance.
You need to figure out which is most important to you ... trusting in a person you have a relationship with, or being a criminal.

Answer 10

If the messages were kept on a computer that the 2 of you shared, then you are allowed to access them. If the computer is his own property and not yours in any way, then he is probably right - but you should keep them anyway.