I feel sorry for married women?

Question

I feel sorry for married women ... the abuse they have to put up with. I honestly don't understand how married women can live in the same house as a man and not feel scared (maybe you do feel scared? If you do, you don't need to be married, there are safe ways out). I know that if I had to live in a house with a man I would have my my room locked all the time.


By the way ... I am not married and never would get married. I refuse to be a slave of a pig.

I have never been abused. I never witnessed abused ... but I am intelligent and aware of reality.

If you haven't figured it out already ... I don't date men and never have.

joyceeleann ... looks like you and me are the only smart women on here.

Answer 1

u got it all backwards, sweetie... ur sposed to be his boss an hes sposed to be scared of u... not the other way around... id never be slave to a pig either... instead its his job to do as i want...

Answer 2

Well miss know it all you know there is a saying to be thought a fool is one thing but to be known as a fool is when you open your mouth and prove it. Let me tell you something a true woman doesnt feel fear of a man, I was in a abusive relationship and untill you have lived that life you have no Idea what you are talking about so dont even bother trying. I am now married to a wonderful man who helps me and completes me in every way. And am not a slave and the thought of you calling him a pig pisses me off. I wasnt a slave to the abusive one. I am a woman with 4 great kids a full time job and a full life. You have to take chances in this life to have a life or you arent living so enjoy your life less existance you idiot. You are a slave alright to your own stupidity. And let me tell you something honey if your not dating men it maybe woman and all I can say is you can be a slave to females to I bet you are there little b**** arent you.

Answer 3

It seems as though you have had a very bad experience with men. I would like to let you know there are many many good men out there that do not cause any harm to women, my father and husband being two of them. I have never been abused by any man. In fact, growing up my father was a loving, caring father who has treated me with respect since the day I was born and continues to do so. My husband treats me with the most respect, love and care a woman could ask from a husband.

Maybe you were abused as a child and have unconsciously looked for abusive men in relationships. Its very common for those abused by parents to do this. Regardless of why you think this way, you need to get psychological help. Regarding half the human population as dangerous is not healthy for you or those around you.

EDIT

Do you date women?

Why do you feel this way about men?

What are your FACTS...not your "intelligence".

Answer 4

Honey, I'm worried about you. At some point in your life you grew up in an abusive household. You have filled your head with ideas and thoughts that are sometimes true, but often not!
I wish you'd seek Jesus. If you did then you'd see the light. There are some abusive marriages out there. But there are some that are never abusive. It's about finding the right man and reading all of the signs before marriage. Marriage can be a beautiful thing if we include Jesus. My mother is married to my step-father and he's never laid a hand on her! Give love a try and by love I mean Jesus! I'm sorry you've been exposed to so much pain. ;)

Answer 5

Not ALL women are treated like this. I'm not. My husband is very supportive of me and my children and is a wonderful caring person...heck, he's a paramedic and takes care of people all day. He has compassion for people and is definitely not a pig. I don't know where you get your reasoning or thinking that all women who are married are slaves of pigs and that men are pigs and I am definitely not afraid to be at home with my husband. If anything, I feel more secure with him around. Maybe you just need to be loved by someone who respects you for you.

*Edit* Oh, so you don't date men, but have this preconception that all men are pigs and that married women are slaves to these pigs. Funny, that even the lesbian women that I know don't view all men this way or women who are married in this manner. You need to get some help. This is NOT the reality of all marriages.

Answer 6

How sad. That you have been exposed to the worst relationships have to offer. Men are not pigs, just as women are not animals. The problem is not being married, the problem is that you have been conditioned to fear half of the entire planet because of limited negative experience. Whether you ever get married or not is not the issue. But developing a realistic perception of the opposite sex is. You can not think you can successfully navigate life while thinking that all men are evil hateful and violent. It will effect the way you work, and respond to every situation. Take the time to evaluate your ideas about men and then find a counselor that can help you work through your fears.

Answer 7

For your information I have been happily married for close to 14 years. I don't know where you've gotten your insight into marriage, but 95% of the time it is not how you're describing. Sure there are those few cases where the guy is ruling and evil.

I feel sorry for you that you'll never get to experiece the awesome feeling of standing in the entry way of a church in your dream dress, your heart racing with excitement then the doors opening and you see the man that just the sound of his voice makes your heart flutter looking at you and you knowing that the simple beauty of you takes his breath away.

To never experience the awesomeness of telling that guy that you're pregnant and him being there with you at the birth...

you're truly missing out on an amazing expereince..like I said I'm so sorry for whatever it was that caused you to feel this way about marriage.

Answer 8

i`m speechless.....well, not exactly.
I think that you are not even making any sense. You have never lived with a guy, that`s fine who cares? If you are gay then you are gay, that`s fine, but why are you bashing straight women? If you are proud of what you are, stop being a jerk and leave us straight women alone.
And what does being married have to do with anything? You can live with a guy and NOT be married. Homosexuals can get married also, or live together, how about that? And what is the Abuse you are talking about? Your question is pointless and doesn`t clear up anything.
Have a good night

Answer 9

What the?!? As a man, I had my first wife put cigarettes out on my arm in an attempt to get me to hit her. I even woke up one night to find her standing above me with a knife. I answered that the only way I could. I showed her my back, then went back to sleep. 15 years after I left her, she tells me now I was the best man she was ever had and she wishes she was still with me. Being born and raised in Alaska, its a common joke, "You don't loose your girl, you just loose your turn" Now, I did break a girls jaw in 8th grade, but she hit me first, and I did ask her before I hit her if she believed in equal rights, she answered, "Yes." That was the last female I ever hit- or any anyway abused.
You state that you've never been abused or seen abuse which leads me to really hope your question here is just a juvenile attempt to get attention and not a true belief. If it is a true belief, then I have a nice golden bridge to sell you- that the US blew up the Trade Centers and for only 10,000 dollars I can sell you some beach front properties in Arizona- You can swim in the Pacific Ocean from them! You can flip them for over 1,000,000!!! Call me!

Answer 10

I am a married woman who has a wonderful husband. All men are not abusive pigs. Mine is a decent, hardworking man who lets me know in so many ways each day how much I mean to him. No, I am not a newlywed. We have been married for 18 years and I don't regret it one bit. I think if people really mean it when they say "I do" instead of jumping into marriage, they might learn about the person they are marrying instead of learning about them after the wedding.

Answer 11

I feel badly for women who are abused too, but that certainly isn't everyone. Some women are more prone to being abused because they have seen it in their household and have never had a positive role model for a father. This keeps them from knowing what is "respectful and right" in a relationship. However, even they can get their self-esteem back. So, when you say that you feel sorry for married women, you simply aren't speaking for all of us.

And, you never know. Someday you may find someone special that you can trust and love. I hope you find that someday. Good luck to you.