God Knows how Hard I tried...?

Question

To keep my family together.
I recently took my (ex fiance ) in after he was in a serious car accident he now suffers from brain injuries causing him not to remember certain things he is very debatable * constantly arguing with me and our 4 year old son over ridiculous things . I am so fed up they * the theropist and lawyers and what not were supossed to get us home care and whatever and its been 2 months since he has been home and still NOTHING I have had it I have had it waking up in teh morning and immidetly arghuing over stupid things like argh I dont even know of what . I have asked his umm soposive people in charge that he be romoved from our home and placed where he will be happy and be takin care of I can not do it any more I am only 24 and our son and I are constantly walking on egg shells not to fight and bicker , Point is is I feel horrible but I want to do what is right . do you think I am making the right choice ?He has NO ONE else but our son and I . and he is losing us.

because of teh way things are going with us and because I am not recieving any help from professionals .. ( I fired his old lawyer and old case manager and got new ones and they say hang in there but I am afraid I cant for my stress sake for my sons future and for his recovery .
Thank you and God bless you

Answer 1

Bless your heart. I don't know what to tell you. I will certainly pray for you. God ask us to always turn to Him with our troubles. Please rely on Him. God bless.

Answer 2

I have some experience with this. Possibly there are two things going on. First, he could have suffered some damage. Then, he could feel as if he cannot do what he could do before the accident. In our case, the family member that suffered the problem, we keep him at home, but we sort of deal with him very carefully. We don't tell him upsetting news, we try to be very pacient, although sometimes out pacience runs out and end up in an argument. When this happens, we pray for wisdom and eventually start over where we left off. However, we are 3 care givers, not 1 as it seems to be in your case. One alternative for you could be to find him a program or something in where he could go and spend the day in therapy or rehabilitation and eventually come back at night better. Rehabilitation is a very important factor, that the injured person feels he's making progress and getting better. I wish that this can help you somehow. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

I definitely agree that your ex-fiance should be in a place where he can receive professional care. This is too much and too big a burden for a young woman with a child, because your first priority is your son's well being. I commend you for trying so hard, dear, but if the professionals are avoiding you and putting you off, it's time for you to get tough with them and insist on getting some help. If your lawyer won't do anything despite promises, then get another lawyer or contact the Adult Protective Services in your area. They find proper placements for men and women who have emotional, mental or physical problems and can't function on their own. You shouldn't have to be tied to this. Your heart may be in the right place, but if it's making you and your son miserable, then the situation has to change -- the sooner the better. Good luck!

Answer 4

chances are yr fiance suffered damage to his frontal brain lobes where anger and complex emotions and some memories are stored. This may be permanent. Even if not suffering structural damage to the brain he may be depressed and frightened at what just happened and need psychological counselling and medication - he needs to kjnow this and deal with it

Answer 5

You might want to contact an indepentent living senter. they can help get help for him and also some support for you as a caregiver.