I just moved to a new place and I want to make new friends but I'm kinda ok I'm just plain old shy, but when I'm with my friends of someone that I turst I'm outgoing but when it comes to school I feel like an idot so has anyone felt like that if you have could you please give me some tips. thanks
2007-07-22 13:35:37 · 10 answers · asked by Lore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thank you for the answers you guys are really helping me
2007-07-22 13:48:10 · update #1
Let me inform you of a great secret. People react in a way that they feel the other person expects. I will allow you to be shy. However, if you are in a new area where nobody knows you, the other people do not know that you are shy unless you tell them. Therefore, you could be the most outgoing person in the world, for all they know. All you have to do is to fake your desired personality and become outgoing. As you do this, you will be shaking inside. Ignore that because nobody can see your inside. The longer you do this, the more it becomes accepted as real and the less you shake and fake. You WILL become your character. You will be the popular person that you are pretending to be. I went from someone who would rather throw up in public than talk to a female to someone who had 126 dates in a single school year by using this technique.
2007-07-22 13:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by MICHAEL R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. It is a tough transition especially moving to a new place and the fact with school makes it much more of a struggle. Anyway, I too act shy in front of people I do not know or trust either. it is completely natural. There is just a lot of uncertainty between those people who you don't know or trust yet.
I would advise you to meet new people and see how things work out. If these new folks u meet are open, then you can act open in return. If this is not the case, introduce yourself to new people to see who you click or fit best with. I know it will be hard to break out of that shell or state of introverted-ness when meeting new people considering the fact you are unaware of the social norms, culture, and whereabouts. I hope this helps.
Good luck with everything!
2007-07-22 13:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by Steven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I've been the new kid many, many times. And i make friends very quickly. What I do, is just kinda be weird, and random, and funny. Then people notice you. Just kinda talk to everyone, smile in the hallways, be nice in general. Then once you set up a few stable friends, their friends will notice you, and the chain begins. I used to be VERY SHY... but when you move to a new place, nobody knows you, so you can even fake outgoingness... hope I helped.
2007-07-22 13:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I can't believe this! This is EXACTLY what I went through this year! I moved to NH and was the new kid...pretty much I just hung out with the nerdy people who were nice to me until like the 3-4 day a girl came up to me in gym and said, "Hey! You're in my science class!" and after that we became best friends. Maybe you could be the girl who goes up and says "You're in my class" but I'm way too shy for that. Go with you're instinct. :P
2007-07-22 13:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by troubledgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel the same way when starting school, but you need to not think about what everyone is going to think of you. Just be yourself, and try to make new friends. Since you are shy, just relax and just start off by saying hey to people that you want to meet.
2007-07-22 13:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a cliche but, Just be yourself.
I went through something similar where I didn't know anyone in my school section, and I made friends with people who were quiet like me.
Everyone wants a friend. You won't be alone in that pursuit. Just keep your eye out for others who are quiet and shy and introduce yourself to them.
Good luck!
2007-07-22 13:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friendly. Start by saying hi to people...at least 1 person a day.
2007-07-22 13:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join some different clubs, groups, or sports. -Whatever interests you. (Theater, Gov't, Newspaper, Volunteering, any Sport) Also look to see if your school has any events coming up that you could go to.
2007-07-22 13:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Graciela19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out with as many different people as possible. i.e. take up everyones offer of friendship so you get to know everyone better, and that way you can choose ur friends wisely :)
2007-07-22 14:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. It is hard for me too. I never know the right thing to say or do.
2007-07-22 13:43:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋