I can see from some posts that some of you out there do understand the type personalities. I am 56 ESTJ,now don't cringe I'm trying :) My daughter is 28, and when she was 25, got engaged and dumped me and I never knew she didnt like me. Extreme introvert her, extreme extrovert me. I have studied a lot and I have just let her "divorce me" even tho she doesn't say it that way, I just know it is hard for her to be with me but it breaks my mommy heart because I raised her as a single parent from when she was 6 and brother was 8. She saw her INFP dad all the time but I didn't know all this way back then. I want so much to at least have some type of relationship with her and we both love each other, but we are 16 personalities apart,the most complicated. ???I will change because I entertain extroverted thoughts ,but it appears it is almost impossible for her to entertain extroverted thoughts so we can become closer like counseling ????? Help and loving suggestions ?
2007-07-22 13:25:31 · 3 answers · asked by I Love Jesus 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You could just do as she asks you to do. Let her be for awhile. Love is eternal. Love will always endure. It is just the personality that is needing space. Allow this space for you and your daughter. Love is still there.
You will see, things will change. We cannot keep "working at relationships" all the time. Let relationships have space.
One does not keeping tending the garden every moment of every day. No we stand back and know that things can grow all by themselves.
2007-07-22 13:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by Astro 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Myers Brigg is a fun test, but seldom a tool to ferret out any issues. It may tell the taker they are extremely lopsided , for example a J may be in the extreme that this person may be OCD or a P may be ADHD and may want to work on these issues, but they'd probably already know this. I'd really suggest you ignore the test as an indicator of how relationships may or may not work. Relationships are complicated and reading anything into a personality type by Myers Briggs standard of how it relates to the relationship is in my opinion irrelevent. Work on the issues at hand.
2007-07-22 14:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter did not "dump" you, she is just growing into another phase of her journey through her own life.
Please read your question and count the negative term's used to describe, yourself and your relationship with your daughter. Stop doing that!
You are about three year's into a new process, in your own life. See Counseling and Psychotherapy by, Allen E. Ivey, pg. 142. If you choose to pursue the above suggestion, I can assure you of a well adjusted, productive future.
One other point. If your profile is correct, you were a teacher, until 1999. It would follow then, that you have a need to give. Please continue to do so. Their are many young people who would benefit from the information you have to give.
I sincerely believe you are a wonderful, caring human being, all my best to you.
2007-07-22 15:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by All-One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋