Can you tell me some BAD things about having kids?

Question

I'm getting really clucky, I really want to be a mother.

I know at this time in my life it wouldn't be the best timing, but how can I stop feeling clucky?

Can you tell me some bad things about having kids to snap me out of it!

Answer 1

Nope

Answer 2

Well, I'm not saying this is a bad thing, but it's something to take into consideration. Life is not about you anymore. You want to take a shower? Too bad because you probably have something else to tend too. You don't feel like getting up right now? Too bad! You HAVE to. There are things in life that can be put off when you only have big people to tend too. I don't have kids but I realized this babysitting my 3 cousins on a few different occasions and then one time I was with my friend at the gym and we were picking her kid up from the nursery and it was late and she had everything in her arms ready to go. We realized that her little boy was dirty and she said " I really don't feel like changing your diaper right now." But she HAD to. And I was standing there thinking. Hmmm. When I really don't feel like doing something I can just put it off. She can't because life is about him now. Not her. And I think that's fine and that's how it should be. Just make sure your ready for that. I don't think I'm ready for that yet. I would be if I had to be of course...

Answer 3

There is probably never a GOOD time to have a baby. If you waited until it was a good time most would probably never do it. Your life is never the same. It is permanently changed forever. Even after they grow up and leave you will still always worry about them. Having a child is both the most wonderful and most awful thing you will ever do!! The one and only thing I can say that is bad is they will break your heart many times! You will love them more than you can measure and would die for them anyway!!

Answer 4

Physically -
They don't call it labour for nothing - it Hurts! a LOT - like having your leg broken slowly over a long period of time. Delivering a baby feels like your body is trying to turn itself inside out.

I know they say you 'glow' but there is nothing joyfull about having haemorrhoids, gastric reflux, wind and not being able to get comfortable to sit or sleep. I was lucky, I didn't have morning sickness but a friend of mine threw up for an hour daily for the entire nine months - not a nice way to wake up.

Just wait - if it's not good timing now, don't try to fall pregnant. It puts an incredible strain on even the best relationships due to sleep deprivation and financial issues.

Aside from that - my son is now 8 and I love him more than anything else in the world :)

Answer 5

They pitch fits in stores and public places. They whine and complain and generally think life is unfair no matter how far out of the way you go for them. When your friends are going out or planning a really great trip you have to stay home or go to the ends of the earth looking for a reliable and willing babysitter. ( Usually you'll just have to stay home. ) You will become a slave and robot to their constant needs and demands. Their needs and demands never cease. You may lose your sense of self . They wreck your home, break your valuables, stain your carpet, and leave your most sentimental treasures in the driveway ( to be run over later ). They draw on your walls, tear up your books, and scribble all over important documents ( or lose them). They pee, poop, and vomit on your sofas, couches, chairs, carpets, beds, and in your car- and don't think that ends when they grow out of diapers. ( An 8 year old's red kool-aid and macaroni dinner all over your living room floor A: never comes out, and B: covers A LOT of floorspace ). They like to run out in front of cars, fall down flights of stairs, break various bones, and generally scare the living hell out of you. Forget having a fulfilling social life for atleast the first two years, and then forget having an intelligible adult conversation anytime the child is in the vicinity atleast for the next ten. There are many, many more bad points, but there is also a lot to be said for how much you will still love your child, no matter what. If the timing isn't right, just wait a bit.

Answer 6

LOL... i love my baby.. 5 almost 6 .... baby..

anyway.. did you ever watch the movie ... oh crap.. forgot the name of it..
the one where the little boy 'sees dead people'.. ?? ( Bruce Willace)
well anyway.. there is this scene where his momma goes to get her blouse out of the dryer and she stops and talks to the dog.. when she comes back into the kitchen where the little boy had been sitting eating his breakfast, she finds all her dishes as well as food thrown out of the cupboards.

the little boy is sitting at the table with his hands pressed hard against the table..

well not more than 5 minutes after i clean the house.. something like that always happens here...
and well,... my little girl is sitting there on the couch, hands under her bum, watching TV....

who makes the mess.... the world may never know!!!!

that and fighting to brush ones hair and teeth are my only complaints..

children are great blessings... specially if you know how to bring them up 'right'..

Answer 7

Children are a huge financial burden until they finish college!!! Unless of course you don't care about college and they work Milli-mouse jobs and have to nickel and dime you to death!!...-- Asking for bus fair at 30 is not cute!!
With children if you are not in it for the long haul, you can cause devastating life long psychological problems for yourself and the kid. No one wants to be unwanted or a mistake.
Once a child is born you should (like most) begin living your life for that child... no more happy hours when you feel like it.
Kids get sick, and then you miss work... If you are not ready for children,... don't try to force yourself into something you don't want... because once the children come... there is no time for your selfishness anymore.

Answer 8

Looks like it has been all covered. For me,
First couple of years... never having enough sleep, worrying excessively, becoming totally insular (child rearing becoming the be-all and end-all of my life). Crying... when you've burped, fed, rocked, changed diapers of and played with your child and for some reason they still cry, what then?
The smell of disposable diapers (nothing keeps the smell totally out of the house), or the cleaning of the cloth ones...

Much more but I'll leave you those little gems

Peace

Answer 9

OK-your figure. Forget ever getting it back to where it was before. Your plumbing. It will never be the same either.Forget ever sleeping through the night. When they're babies, they wake up at all odd times. When they're older you worry about them and cant sleep. You'll have to devote yourself to them and forget yourself. You'll have time to care about yourself when they grow up-if they ever do. You wont know what that means until you have your own. Remember-you can always babysit if you feel the need to have a child around. After my 4th child I thought they should have Rent-A-Kid. If you feel like having a baby-you can rent one and in one weekend, that feeling will have disappeared. Sorry-but it's your question.

Answer 10

If your relationship breaks up, the kids may suffer, your ex would then be under your feet while you're trying to make a fresh start. It will seem you're doing everything for the next 3 years at least... little sleep, loss of figure, weird eating habits, bad economy, no prospects blah blah blah....

On the other hand, isn't new life just beautiful. cluck cluck cluck. Only you know what's best.

Answer 11

yeah, the first thing to do is walk in a daycare or preschool between the hours of 9 and 12 and i promise that u will see someone crying, someone wiping their boogers all over their face, someone yelling Ms.___ that kid had an accident, and i could go on forever, i have a five yr old and i work at a preschool, i am a social worker and i can tell u kids wear u OUT!