Why do twenty-something women still act like they are in high school?

Question

I am in my early twenties, happily married and have 4 girlfriends that I've grown up with and am very close to. However, I've noticed over the past couple of years that I can't seem to build ANY friendships with any of the wives or girlfriends of my husband's friends. Once it goes past being an acquantance--something always happens. And by "something" I mean some sort of petty drama that typically blows up into something ridiculous. Like high school all over again, but with adults. :-(

I don't have any problems making girlfriends outside of this little clique of people. And since these are females I will inevitably have to run into every now and then, I'd love to know why I'm having all these issues with just them and any tips on how to fix the situation.

Answer 1

I have known people of both sexes being unable to let go of the past, especially the high school years if they still run with the same crowd. Maturity has alot to do with it but sometimes it's easy to fall into drama when you're in a transitional period of life, such as the early twenties.

All I can say is to try your best to not get sucked into the drama, and when they look at the bigger picture and realize that you're the only one who's never added to or created drama, something will click. (Hopefully)

Answer 2

I don't know what the problem is, but it never goes away. Even in 30somethings and 40somethings. I have experianced the same thing. I wish there was just a few people out there where drama just wasn't an issue. Life is to short to surround yourself with negative people and people that just bring chaos into your life. I don't think there is a way to fix the situation, because people don't change. All you can do is be who you are, be proud of who you are, and know that you are above high school years. Even though, it can be a lonely place.

Answer 3

i have the same problem at work, i cant get a decent conversation without hearing how drunk someone got the last weekend, while I was at home takin care and spending time with my daughter. ( i have 2 but one lives with gp's) all they want to do is start crap and i have more important things to do than gossip. just seems like personality takes a lot more energy than the normal hs wannabe crap. i didnt like hs when i was IN hs and i dont want to be in it while i'm working so i just ignore it most of the time.

Answer 4

I just think that some people are more mature than other people are. Some young people hold on to their petty tenager ways, and some just grow up a little bit more than others.

Answer 5

we each mature at a differant rate, and we're gonna behave
at our mental, not chronological age. I'm well over 40 and
I'm sure,by behavior, I'd be placed in my early teens at times.

Answer 6

girls start drama because they r bored with there life i start drama when im bored too