Help! Is it normal to lack discharge when excited??

Question

It has been as of recently that whenever my boyfriend and I try to have our sexual relations, the decrease of my discharge gets in the way, making it hard for both of us to enjoy for the first couple of minutes.

I get excited, but there is no discharge to make it easier for both of us. And when there is, after "doing it" for a while, it's not as thick as it should be, but a little more watery and less lubricative. Is this normal? Before I would get easily excited, but it's gotten harder for me, and it's really embarrassing because my boyfriend then thinks that I'm really not "in the mood" for it. :[

Is there something wrong with me, or could it be the kind of sex that we have that could be affecting it?

Help!!!
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Answer 1

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you!
You experience your heaviest discharge when you are ovulating. Why? Because this is when your body releases an egg that could potentially become fertilized, and hormones and endorphin levels are heavily increased, causing heavy thick discharge that makes everything slippery and lovely during sex.
After ovulation, you usually experience your monthly cycle, and then after your cycle for that following week to 10 days your "drier" than normal. Why? Because your body realizes that no egg was fertilized, no released egg needs to be fertilized, so to your tissues and organs that usually produce all of this "love juice" there is really no "need" for it. Make sense?
If you do experience occasional dryness lubrication sprays can now be purchased. They're much faster, more portable, and much less messy than traditional "tube lubes".
Best of luck to you and please realize that what you're experiencing is really all part of your cycle.

Answer 2

Foreplay really helps get juices flowing.
But in the event that the juices don't flow personal lubricant e.g. a K. Y. gel or any other water-based lubricant will do job nicely.


Your boyfriend needs to be more considerate and less judgmental about your "apparent mood".

If you are having regular vagina sex water-based lube should be okay.

On the other hand if you are having anal sex then I would recommend the use of an additional water-based lube because the anus doesn't really naturally lube itself from excitation.

Answer 3

This happened to me as well. Mine was caused by starting on birthcontrol.. i switched and i'm closer to what I used to be.

A lot of women won't lubricate as much as they want. This is why there's KY and other such lubricants. You're normal. Just buy some KY. It's better than being frustrated anyway/

Answer 4

There's a lot of different reasons this can happen, like if you start taking a new medication (especially allergy meds, which dry out more than your nose). Being dry isn't that uncommon. The best way to deal with it is to buy lube and use it generously.

Answer 5

Not every woman lubricates well. There's nothing abnormal about it; it's just inconvenient. Invest in some KY jelly, it's worth it. If you know ahead of time that you're going to have sex you could insert some KY and he need never know.

Answer 6

It probably hormonal honey. Most vaginal dryness is caused by a hormone imbalance. You might be dehydrated as well. Get some astroglide or ky and you should be fine. Nothing to freak out about.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with you it is normal i use to be like that too.

I started to put a few drops of ky jelly(the warming action on) on my vulva inner and outter and inside my vag. just to initiate the glidding and riding them my own lubrication kicks in.

THE WARMING ACTION AWSOME!

Answer 8

Go to your local pharmacy and look for products called "personal lubricants."

Answer 9

there's nothing wrong with you, just go to the store and buy some lube. KY or Glide are a couple to try.

Answer 10

a little extra lubrication usually helps the situation :}