Does time heal all sorrows, or does it just diminish the intensity?

Question

They say time heals all wounds. Is this cliche true?

Answer 1

No, but it changes it. I lost my parents in an accident more than 40 years ago and I still think about them daily. But the pain has just become part of the story of my life. I still miss them; wish they could have seen me as an adult; wish they could have met my own family--that sort of thing. The grief has changed into a longing and the memories have changed from sadness to appreciation of what they gave me.

Answer 2

Time doesn't heal, but the wounds are getting less painful. I lost my husband 10 years ago and I didn't want to go on living. I'm thinking about him every day and my life is still the same as we were together. The sorrow is there, but the pain is less. I don't have to cry any more while thinking or talking to him.

Answer 3

I can say it is true in some cases. but it really depends on what. the problem is about or what happen.

I do not believe time will heal all wounds. maybe most of them but not all. have you ever had a very close person, family member, parent, brother or sister die? that kind of wound will never heal. they will be on your mind for life.

I am not talking about just a friend. I mean a person, you were very close too, at all times.

I can tell you that will never heal. you Begin thinking of them when you least expect it. then the pain comes back.

Answer 4

No, definitely not all wounds. The intensity of sorrow doesn't diminish either.. although I think reality gets distorted by grief. Trouble is, as Pat points out, the reality of grief can leap out of its box and bight your butt when you least expect it.

I think our minds are very powerful at subconsciously modifying reality to try to protect us from extreme grief. I also think that grief that shocks you can, by repeated exposure, numb you from its impact... but this should not be confused with healing, it is merely emotional indifference.

The saying "Time heals all wounds" derives from the notion that people are often genuinely forgiving. I really think that people are. Good guys come first.

But I don't think everyone earns that courtesy of being forgiven, just because the victim has been shocked into an emotional state of indifference.

Answer 5

I think so. Even though we may find ourselves years later facing whatever caused that sorrow and think that we haven't healed, I think that is because we still have something to learn from it.
I believe that there is something to be learned from all our experiences. So it's important that we try to do that. Something that makes us a better person. Until we find that lesson, we really don't quite heal. Time takes over and things become accepted when there are no other choices. But even in the best or worst experience, there's something to learn.

Answer 6

Great question! I think some wounds are just too deep to ever heal completely, but I definitely think time helps diminish the intensity. I don't think you could have worded that any better!

Answer 7

Time doesn't heal all wounds especially the sorrows aren't validated. Some people don't do anything to help themselves either.

Answer 8

Depends on whether or not you keep picking the scab. Depends on why you got hurt in the first place. I would say partly heals so not as intense over time. If trust is damaged, then it is damaged, you can put a plaster on it but it sometimes falls off. Up to you if you keep reapplying the same plaster.

There are stages of grief if you want to have a look at that online but people don't usually 'fit' the stages anyway. For people that really have not dealt with issues of grief, for example if they have never told anyone how they feel, a short series of grief counselling sessions can help as they are by an anonymous person unrelated to your situation or loss. Just make sure these are time limited from the start (only 6 sessions for example) Easy to get 'fixated' on one stage. My advice? From Cognitive Behavioural Theory (thinking-feelings-belief-action) do, don't dwell.

Answer 9

i am learning firsthand about how time can heal. it helps, it really does. the pain is less fresh and acute, and almost gets dreamlike at times if you're lucky.

but some things in life you take with you forever. and sometimes time runs backwards. an image, or a comment, or nothing at all can trigger a flashback. the flood of emotions comes back as intense as ever, and you feel like you've been 'cheating' to try and keep them under wraps. sorrow revisited not only hurts, but you wonder if you ever will be able to put 'IT' behind you. but you have to try.

and then more time passes... gradually... fades...

Answer 10

Yeah, it does. My wife left me over a year ago, with six kids!
I was a mess, but I hung in there, life is gotten better and more managable. My kids are great, and the oldest help out a lot. I can actually sit on the porch now at the end of the day, my oldest daughter will bring me a cold one and life is good.