I'm 9 months pregnant and the whole pregnancy I have had sex maybe once or twice a month. If that!
I'm just tried or in pain or my husband doesn't feel like it or it's just me.
Plus he wants me to do postitions that are not comfortable to me right about now. So instead of having sex were fighting. I need help putting some passion into my marriage before it's too late.
2007-07-22 10:53:31 · 14 answers · asked by Brandi T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Before it's too late? You only have a few weeks left!
Cut the dramatics. After a normal period you will be able to resume. This is supposed to be one of the BEST times of your marriage and you're letting be ruined due to sex?
2007-07-22 10:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand completely. My baby is just 3 weeks old and my husband and I went through the same thing, except without the fighting. The biggest thing I could tell you is communication. Tell him how you are feeling and listen to how he is feeling. Besides, there are other things you can do other than intercourse. Try planning a romantic date or something along those lines. It is very hard, I know. I also have a three year old and romance is pretty much out the window. Try being intimate without actually doing the deed. Massage, oral, candle lights, etc. Just show him some complete attention for a night. Hope this helps.
2007-07-22 18:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by cheryl y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
During my pregnancy I had sex. When I wasn't feeling sick or being sick. Tell him that do to the pregnancy there are adjustments one must make. Like if you feel you can't do certain things sexually or otherwise do to being pregnant. He should make an effort to try to understand. Try showering together. Giving each other massages. Things that don't require much strain. About the sex. Tell him he has to save the freaky stuff until the baby is born.
2007-07-22 18:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just don't believe some men!! If he was carrying around an extra 25 or 50 lbs., he wouldn't want someone poking at him while he's trying to sleep!! Get a watermelon and tie it around his belly and tell him to try dealing with it for a whole day. I don't think it's your place to be worrying about passion at this time of your pregnancy, you need to be worrying about giving birth. Take care of yourself and your baby, and after it's born he'll forget all about him not getting any now!! Congratulations and wishing you a speedy delivery!!!
2007-07-22 18:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay I am with you on this one, I had the same thing through all FOUR of mine!!! First of all you should sit him down and explain that while you find him attractive and sexy you are not feeling like yourself for obvious reasons and that you would like to have sex but you need to be in control of the positions and all that because you want it to be enjoyable so you woul dbe more likely to want to do it again, honestly I found that if I was on top, I was able to control the depth better and was more turned on and everything if you are on top and facing his feet so your back is to him is was awesome, it took a loong time for me to figure that one out but honestly he needs to be understanding that you need to be in control of the situation becasue after all you are about to pop anyway and you know spice things up go to a fun web site for plus size women (they will have sexy lingerie that will fit your pregnant body just don't pay to much attention to the size) and then surprise him just take control if this is your first baby then do it on the living room floor or something or rent a hotel room for the night and have everything ready and waiting there fo rthe two of you!
2007-07-22 18:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love means putting the other person first. He needs to know that you are really unconfortable and don't wanna have sex right now. If he can't wait, then he doesn't love either of you . . . or he is too immature to love anyone.
Just tell him how you feel then insist on him leaving you alone that way.
The only other thing is oral sex . . . , but that is up to you.
2007-07-22 17:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Given the stage of pregnancy, I wouldn't recommend sex, it'll probably a week or two after birth until you're comfortable again.
2007-07-22 18:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him what hurts and ask to put those positions on hold until after the child comes. Until then, I recommend LOTS of oral sex to keep the husband satisfied.
2007-07-22 17:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Rav 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're 9 months! who wants sex at that point? tell your husband to get over it and relax. you'll have a lot to do soon.
2007-07-22 17:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Goodness! Can't you wait for a little while? You'll soon be too tired for sex anyway.If he loves you, and you him, it will never be too late. Curb your desires for the time being.
2007-07-22 17:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋