A person who found out my darkest secret Is going to tell my parents. The person sees my parents a lot. He promised he won't tell if he can watch whatever he wants on T.v When he comes over. But even if i let him do that. He black mails me on other things. Like if i don't clean up for him. HE will black mail me. I don't know how to stop it. But i don't want to tell the truth to my parents.
What do i do??
2007-07-22 10:26:38 · 12 answers · asked by Lil Secret Santa Helper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thank you everyone!!
Lol,
I don't wanna beat him up,
That is just not me...
I will try to tell my parents the real truth!!
Thank you once again
Your a big help!!
2007-07-22 12:53:36 · update #1
Everybody,
I wanna say thanks again
You all have been a great help.
And even if it's the law that you can't blackmail, He knows that now.
So he won't do it anymore.
Thanks soo much for all your help!!
I couldn't have done it with out you!!
2007-07-22 13:36:13 · update #2
Same as US policy: DO NOT NEGOTIATE EVER. Your secret got out, and that is something you have to live with, but if you give in now, he will continue to ask for more. Then what? You gonna be his slave forever? The secret can't be worth losing your self dignity over like that. If it is, then maybe your parents SHOULD know.
2007-07-22 10:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way to stop a blackmailer is to steal their thunder....that is, take away their leverage over you. You can either tell your parents yourself, or convince yourself that you don't care if they know or not, then the blackmailer has nothing to hold over your head. If the alleged blackmailer is only trying to get their choice of a TV program out of the deal this is probably not a very serious issue all around, but it is valuable for teaching an important lesson: live in such a way that you're not vulnerable to this type of influence. You're only as sick as your secrets. Good luck.
2007-07-22 10:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blackmailing is illegal on any state even if he doesn't ask for money. You can try that.
But basically if he doesn't have any proof (his mouth is not enough), you could try the "he is lying defense" if you go to your parents and tell them that he is blackmailing you with lies that could give you the advantage. That way even if he talks the doubt will be in your favor. So go and talk before he does (tears will make you look more real).
The other way and the best is to confess yourself that way he loses all his power over you. Besides he later might try to ask for sex so try to end this now.
Trust me that your parents will HATE him for blackmailing you and they will be on your side.
2007-07-22 10:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you need to get the courage up to tell your parents your secret. You can't continue to live in this fear. Once you tell them, all fear will be gone.
Then you can tell your parents how this rat blackmailed you, and find out how to deal with him. He sounds like a lowlife bag of scum.
So, by telling them, you get rid of two fears!
2007-07-22 10:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sacrificial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure when he tells
he sends it in a white envelope not a black
thats the only way to stop him
but how bout you not jus be friends with him anymore if he keeps treating you like this
so then he wont be able to come over and therefor he cant tell
2007-07-22 10:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Beat him to the punch.. if not then threaten him with one of his deeepest darkest secrets also and see from there1
2007-07-22 10:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by libbynstanlo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, tell them it's illegal, and if he persues black mailing you, tell him you are taking him to the police. say he starts it again, get a friend in on this, and call her, start talking to her like she's the police, have her go along with it, if he wants to talk to her, let him, have her fake, it'll be worth it i hope!
oh yeah, so you know, it trully is illegal to black mail others
2007-07-22 10:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by simplebutsweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends - how bad is the truth? - tell them first and deal with the consequences
or plant some dope on him and call the cops -
2007-07-22 10:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill them. or...if ur not that type of person, hut them very badly. some one tride to black mail me and i hit them with my electric scooter, then i told them the next time would be with my moms car. and no one ever found out my secret. thats the power of violence.
2007-07-22 10:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW...I think you need to tell them...thats the only way out unless you want to keep doing his deeds=/....good luck!
2007-07-22 10:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by hilaryfan25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋