Quick fix or find the root cause?

Question

I know we all have problems in our lives, and we always want to do something to change them. There are tons of self-help books out there; they all sound like quick fix and do not talk about the philosophy behind it. What do you think? If a self-help book explains an idea but vague, and it just asks u to do this and that, do you go further and search for the root cause using other resources?

Answer 1

sometimes the fix just shows up on its own. the self help books may be designed to appeal to a wide market, and don't get very specialized in actually doing anything to 'help' you. by being vague, they certainly don't do any harm, and probably tell you things that are 'good ideas', but that likely already occurred to you.

more specific resources are available online, but some of those can be very generalized too. i try to take into account a variety of sources and find something valuable from each. there will be much overlap, but some very helpful items and hints may show up. there's always counseling too if you feel it would be helpful. the root cause might take some unearthing to find, but it would be worth it in the long run. good luck.

Answer 2

I don't like self help books.

I think there is scope to adopt both methods. My role as a "problem solver" often involves instigating short term measures which I know have a very limiting application. Sometimes these interim measures are immediately effective for removing a threat, but are unsustainable for any long period of time.

Long term solutions to problems take considered analysis and then if viable solutions are revealed, the necessary resources to carry them out is the next hurdle.

Invariably, compromise comes into play as neither analysis or resources needs are met. What you do then, as a project manager, is juggle teh competing interests as best you can.... sometimes you can juggle five balls but every now and again you get tired, or distracted and one of them falls to the ground... sometimes, unfortunately you drop the lot. When that happens there is nothing to do but gather up those dropped ones and keep persisting. It helps to have a good friend especially on those occasions where your balls are dragging along the ground.

Now what I think you need is not a self help book.. but you need to develop your imagination and learn to entertain yourself. That's what I try to do anyway. Philosophy is always pretty easy to ridicule.. but everybody loves a good parable. Go for one of those.

Answer 3

I have many times read a self help book and tried to do what they suggested but it never lasted long. Once I went to therapy and 12-step groups and worked on myself to find the root causes of my behavior (took years and years; no quick fix here), I changed behaviors. That has been my experience. And I still have to continue looking at myself to grow and change.

Answer 4

Always go for the root of the problem. What do you think? Some people may actually agree with your choices and likings. These kind of people can make great friends.

Answer 5

Remember to question whether the advice was asked for, or unsolicited. Many times when we are just looking for information, advice is thrust upon us. They are taking advantage of our curious nature to manipulate us. Not trusting a source, and looking for others, is not about the source. It is about the fallibility of us all. Nobody is perfect. Double check.

Answer 6

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