okay heres the story i have been with my man for like 4 years or so well since june of 2003. he was like 20 when we met and i was like 19 and now he is 24 and i am 23 okay well, we were together for like 3 months then i got preganant with my first child Erika which is 3 now... when he found out i was pregnant with the baby he decided that he was gonna cheat on me with some lil girl who was like 17 at that time when i was pregnant.... this went on for about a year or so.... he has cheated like 3 times on me it seems like we fight more and more everyday which isnt good but i love him and he says he loves me how do i know he really loves me? iono im all confused . we now have 2 babys 1 is 3 and one is 19 months... what should i do he is on hard drugs and wont get help i have offered for him 2 g2g counsling and everything what should i ddo we r strugglin with money and babysitting issued and everything i need advice!!!
2007-07-22 07:41:20 · 7 answers · asked by ♣♣♣ MiSs_hOllY♠♣♠ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is going to be a tough answer for you but hopefully youll understand it. Under todays drug laws, if your mate is using hard drugs and should he get caught in possession of such you stand a realgood chance of losing everything you have including custody of your children due to his stupidity. You want to get him helpso turn him into the authorities and theyll get him the help he needs before you lose everything. He does need to do alot of growing uphere too and take responsibility for his actions and you need to do whatever it takes to survive for you and the kids no matter whatever happens to him.Think about it and do it
2007-07-22 08:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship. Think about your children. They should come first. If child services were to find out that someone in the house is on drugs, things may turn ugly. Put your children above everything. It may be hard for you emotionally, but your children should not be in that type of environment. If he cleans up his act and has been clean for at least a year, then perhaps consider a relationship again. As far as money goes, do whatever you have to provide for your children, get a second job, etc. Do you have family or close friends that could help, possibly babysit? Maybe get a roommate that is a close friend that understands your situation. Try applying for WIC, it will help you at least with groceries.
Good Luck. Please put your children first.
2007-07-22 14:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by spynmepynk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done all you can do. All there is left to do now is love yourself to get out. Sometimes we do too much for love. And, sometimes we confuse other things with love. If he "loves" you as you say he does...as he says he does and you have 2 toddlers in the house, he would get off the drugs and treat you better. You need to figure out who do you love more, him or your babies. That is really the question. You have to love your children more than him. You have to be able to get out for the children. If he loves you, really loves you than he will get the help you have been begging him to get. But, as of now it needs to be about you and the babies. He has some growing up to do. And, he will if you hold yourself accountable and make him grow up. If not, he never cared anyway. Love is very important... but it doesn't pay the bills (as you are finding out). Good luck! You know what to do, you just have to do it!
2007-07-22 14:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cejae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him as fast as you can, he will drag you and your babies down with you.
He doesn't love you the way you all need to be loved, if he did he would not be risking your lives by having affairs and most likely unprotected ones.
You have 2 babies, you need to do what's best for them not him.
Good Luck!
2007-07-22 14:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hard advice is to leave him. I don't know what you still doing with him. Think on kids. By your story we can make tragic movie. Leave him immdiately. I know what is adiction, beacouse I fell on my skin. He can not love you. Only your kids lovs you for wreel. Hes refuse any help, and problem can be even worse.
2007-07-22 15:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by tom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a daytime talk show.
This is compeltely unhealthy for children to be growing up in.
2007-07-22 15:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by burbam2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done what you can......Leave him. You have shown that you care so much for him, if he isnt willing to get the help he needs to make a better life for his kids and for you then he isnt worth it.
2007-07-22 14:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie Bunnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋